Each Fall I hear people proclaiming that the next year will be “their year” only to watch them sabotage themselves for the last few months of the current year.
Then they end up rolling into the New Year broke, fatter, sicker, unhappy, and often hung-over.
Cue the New Year Resolutions train that comes every January…
And after they spent the last 3 months abusing themselves physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially, it’s nearly impossible to bounce back. (I’ve been there!)
The New Year resolutions and quick-fix motivations don’t last, discouragement creeps in, and by February people are disappointed and feel like a failure. Sounds familiar?
NOT THIS YEAR!!!
Seriously, this isn’t just a new year, it’s a new decade!
So…. I’ve created an online event to help you CRUSH IT IN THE LAST DAYS OF THIS DECADE in ALL areas of your life… and it’s FREE!!!
Our expert speakers will be delivering the very best content by video on Facebook without the gold-gilded carrot dangling up-sell at the end! (You can watch at home in your pajamas!!)
Just pure, actionable steps, strategies, or tips for your success in all areas of your life!!!
ADDED FREE BONUS…………
4 additional talks that lead us up to the big event:
10/29 Season of Sanity, 8- 8:20 pm:
Learn to navigate negative feelings during the holidays. From dealing with difficult family members, to carrying a heavy heart, you’ll learn tips to interact with the stressful people in your life. Feel free to ask Q’s!
11/5 Merry Mindfulness, 8pm:
Learn the difference between self-care and self-medicating and how to bring more peace and tranquility into a chaotic time of year.
11/12 Healthy Holidays, 8pm:
Learn how to stay healthy, maintain or lose weight, and keep your energy up without missing out on your fav tasty holiday treats.
11/19 Thrifty Christmas, 8pm:
Don’t go into the new decade even further in debt. Learn how to have an abundant yet thrifty Christmas without being a penny pinching Ebenezer Scrooge!
I truly believe in paying it forward and there is no better time than now for myself and these amazing speakers to share our gifts with you for free. (Check out the speaker line up here!)
I simply ask that you participate fully, invite your friends, and use the info you’ll learn to live your best life! Go to the Facebook event page NOW and click “Going” and get your FREE ticket:
https://www.facebook.com/events/2429867220468364/
Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our adventures on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
No stress in our tribe!! You can join us and become a Certified Life Coach! Use it to create a coaching business, or use it to be a better parent, teacher, lawyer, doctor, friend… whatever!
Check it out: www.inspiredlifeschool.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Here are 20 relationship building questions to ask and share with your special someone!
These special questions are designed to deepen your connection. All you do is sit quietly, without TV, phones, kids, etc and ask one another these questions and allow a conversation to happen!
You might be surprised by the answers and discover something new about your partner!
(Feel free to share this link with other couples!)
Here we grow:
- Are you happy?
- What do you remember thinking the first time you saw me?
- What’s something new you’d try if money and time were no object?
- What do you like best about our relationship?
- What was your favorite Christmas gift as a child?
- Where do you do your best thinking or have “a-ha” moments?
- If you could instantly get one artistic talent, what would it be? (painter, singer, etc..)
- If you could get paid to travel to one place for a year, where would you go?
- When you were young, did you trust your parents?
- If you could travel back in time, where and what year would you go to?
- What are you most afraid of losing in this world?
- Where do you feel most at peace in this world?
- What did you learn from your parents relationship?
- Tell me about the person you’re striving to become…
- If you could design the perfect day for us, what would it be?
- If you had to wear 1 outfit for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- If you could live like a TV family, which family would you choose and why?
- What is your favorite adventure that we’ve been on?
- What should I never say to you, even when I’m angry?
- If you could learn the truth about one thing in the world, what would you want to know?
OK, now grab some tea and a throw blanket, curl up on the couch with your loved one and have some fun! (You don’t have to discuss all 20 questions at once.)
These questions are meant to deepen your connection by opening communication and giving one another a safe place to be vulnerable. Don’t blow it by being sarcastic, making fun, or doubting answers. Your job is to listen, talk when it’s your turn, and love!
Please message me and let me know how it goes! I LOVE to hear from you!!
Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
No stress in our tribe!! You can join us and become a Certified Life Coach! Use it to create a coaching business, or use it to be a better parent, teacher, lawyer, doctor, friend… whatever!
Check it out: www.inspiredlifeschool.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
We are getting on the road this Saturday! Heading out for our year long vegan road trip!! #RVeganRoadTrip
I’ve had to say “see ya later” to most people, but honestly, to some I’ve said “this is good-bye.”
One of the biggest lessons that I’ve had to learn the hard way is to let go of people that don’t deserve to be in your life.
That doesn’t mean you have to be mean or even obvious about it, but sometimes saying good-bye is the best thing for you!
Walk away from toxic relationships. Quit soul-sucking jobs. Say good-bye to the friend that never has time for you. Ditch the drama party that happens in the hall outside your kids dance class. Don’t answer the phone when your in-laws call to complain. Dump Debbie or Dave Downer.
I mean seriously. Like WTF. Stress really is the BIGGEST contributor to illness so why hang out with people, or in places that cause stress? It’s just SO not worth it.
Let’s make a pact to breathe a little deeper, walk a little further, and avoid participating in things, people, or places that suck the soul out of us? You in???
You don’t have to sell your home and belongings and move into an RV to make this a reality. Just say “this is good-bye” to stress, drama, and headaches!
Are you willing to say good-bye to stress? Need help? Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
Here we GROW……………
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
No stress in our tribe!! You can join us and become a Certified Life Coach! Use it to create a coaching business, or use it to be a better parent, teacher, lawyer, doctor, friend… whatever!
Check it out: www.inspiredlifeschool.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Having the ability to understand and share the feelings of another is NOT always a good thing.
When I was married to my first husband Donnie, who was (and still is) an alcoholic and drug abuser, I had a serious case of empathy bias…. showing favor for those who are suffering.
Donnie was actually a really kind person but to cope with a horrible childhood, he turned to drugs and alcohol to alleviate his pain at a very young age.
During our brief marriage, I could feel his pain and it was soul crushing. I wanted to alleviate his suffering, so I did whatever I could to try and make things better….
- I downplayed his drinking
- I denied his drug abuse completely
- I didn’t reach out for help
- I’d constantly clean up the messes he made with his friends and family
- I took responsibility for his bad behavior and mistakes
…. and it only got worse.
Empathy is a beautiful quality until it turns into codependency. Then it hurts both people.
Codependency is when you rely on other people for your own identity so you enable their poor choices, bad behavior and addictions.
I was codependent on Donnie because my identity was reliant upon him getting clean and sober. I lived only to make sure he was OK, and that our marriage appeared successful.
Now, after almost 30 years, 3 kids, education, therapy, and training…. I truly am grateful for my experiences because I get to help so many people in a formal way without losing myself to an unhealthy relationship!
Do you have empathy bias? Is your big heart and desire to help turning into a codependent situation?
Contact me and let’s talk.
You CAN break free from the codependent merry-go-round and find true happiness that isn’t reliant on other people….. and life is exquisite when you can enjoy it fully without bearing the weight of the world.
Contact me and let’s set up a free consultation call.
I look forward to hearing from you!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Do you know the difference between self care and self medicating? If not, that could be the reason your “self care” isn’t working!
Self care is preventative. Self medicating occurs during emotional crisis.
Self medicating happens when you’ve become exhausted, resentful, or upset. You’ve taken care of everyone else and no one cared back. Now you are “rewarding” yourself with something destructive because you are pissed off, sick of it all, or determined to give a giant middle finger to the world as pay back and you feel completely justified in doing so!
I’ve been there too. There is a better way.
Self care happens BEFORE you give every ounce of yourself. In fact, it happens before you are even the slightest bit uncomfortable. And if you do it preventatively, you are FAR less likely to ever self medicate again.
Self medicating is trying to make yourself temporarily feel better at the expense of your health or well being. It’s like trying to fill your cup with an eye dropper while allowing everyone else to drink out of it! There’s never enough!
These are some examples of self medicating especially when done in excess:
- Gambling
- Drinking
- Drug use
- Sexual deviance
- Spending money aka retail therapy
- Going outside of your relationship
- Stealing / Lying
- Eating
If there is a chance that you’ll feel terrible after, you could get arrested, you could lose your job, relationship, or integrity, you are self medicating.
Self care is identifying your needs and meeting them in positive and healthy ways. It’s keeping your cup full and allowing others to have whatever flows over the edge.
Some examples of self care:
- Meditating
- Yoga or exercise
- Taking a walk
- Deep breathing / fresh outdoor air
- Visiting people you love
- Calling a lifeline: friend, coach, parent, etc.
- Body work: massage, facial, mani/pedi
- Taking a bath
- Trying something new / adventure
- Smiling (totally under-rated)
- Snuggles with a pet or loved one
- Cup of tea
- Reading a book / learning something new
When you take care of yourself, you teach others how to care for you too! You’ll feel better about any challenges that come your way, and you give other people permission to care for themselves as well… especially your kiddos who are watching and modeling everything you do!
Self care is not a luxury, it’s mandatory if you want to live your best, healthiest, and happiest life!
What is your favorite thing to do for self care? Comment below and let me know!
Follow our adventures on Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!