Ohhhhh it’s that FUN time again when I give you questions to ask your significant other to see how well you know each other! If you don’t have a significant other, ask a friend, family member, or your kiddo!
The goal is not to get all the answers right, the goal is to open a dialogue with your partner to share, learn, and bond!! Woooo bonding! Yeah!!!
Here we go! Ask your partner these questions, see if you know the answers, and let the fun begin:
- What was the last selfless act you performed?
- When did you cry last?
- What is your favorite brand or type of shoes and why?
- How did you feel about middle school?
- Who would you call if you needed to talk but you couldn’t reach me?
- Where was your favorite place to visit as a child?
- If you could only take 3 things with you on a trip for 6 months, what would you take?
- What would be the title of a book all about you?
- What was your all time favorite childhood toy?
- If you could have any super power, what would it be and why?
- Which piece of modern technology would you completely eliminate and why?
Remember this is not a contest, it’s an opportunity to share, learn, and grow together. I would love to hear how it goes, just leave your comment at the bottom of this page!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
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You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
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Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
If you don’t mind casual dating and are NOT looking for a serious relationship, you can stop reading now.
If you are looking for that special someone, or might be in the future, read on…
This is the one question that you need to ask a potential mate before you ever consider going out with them again!
What will you bring to a relationship?
Seriously, it’s about time people started to ask potential mates what they have to offer! Not because you are looking to take from them but because if you are willing to go into a relationship at 100%, you need to know they are willing to do the same!
I could give you a million examples but let me share my own story.
When I was 22, I married my first husband Don. He was an alcoholic and much older than me. I was young and dumb and believed him when he said “Once we get married, I will stop drinking.”
He was kind, and we liked the same things, but those qualities are less and less endearing after you’ve come home drunk for 7 nights in a row.
I never asked him what he had to offer in a relationship because I mistakenly thought we’d build it together. The problem with that thinking is that I was too young and dumb to know how to build anything, and he was too drunk.
Some people think a home is the biggest investment you will ever make, it’s not, your relationship is!
If you don’t invest wisely, you will get burned. If you are willing to put in 100%, why would you take a risk on someone who is only going to put in 20%, it just doesn’t make sense!
Asking someone what they have to offer in a relationship is a smart, decisive question that can scare off anyone who’s not serious, and seem attractive to someone who is willing to play full out!
Here are just a few things to look for when considering your relationship investments:
- Are they financially responsible? I’m not talking about looking for someone rich, I’m talking about someone who has a good head on his shoulders and knows how to handle money.
- Are they emotionally stable? *Secure and confident vs jealous and emotionally unavailable.
- Do they share similar values? *Honesty, loyalty, altruism, family, ambition, monogamy, etc…
- Do they have any addictions, unhealthy habits, or questionable friendships?
- Do they speak kindly, or harshly about past relationships? *Ask “What happened with your last breakup?” If they start with he or she was a B*itch, or A**hole, then run! Or, if they start with “He or she was the best thing that ever happened to me and I can’t move on,” then run! If they are able to take some of the responsibility and speak highly or at least neutral of their EX then they might be emotionally healthy people!
- Where do they want to be in 5 years?
- Are they ambitious or content to stay exactly where they are forever?
- Are they inappropriately attached to their parents? *Do they live at home? Are they a mama’s boy or still a little girl?
- Do they have pets and if so do they take good care of them?
- How is their personal hygiene and their personal space? *If you marry a pig, don’t expect that to change just because you put a ring on it.
Listen, most clients who come in complaining about their spouse tell me that they had the same “bad qualities” when they were dating but they expected them to step up to the occasion of matrimony.
It doesn’t work that way! So, if you are single… don’t be afraid to expect a potential mate to bring something to the game!
And don’t forget, a quality mate will be looking for what YOU bring to the table too! Make sure you have something of quality to offer in a relationship! If not, work on getting healthy before you start looking for your true love!
A quality relationship is the biggest investment you will ever make….. invest wisely!
As always, if you need some help, just contact me!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Single and looking? DON’T look for someone like minded, and DON’T worry about finding someone with common interests!
Yep, I just said that.
Everyone’s so worried about finding someone to do stuff with that they don’t think to look for someone they can just “be” with.
Rather than looking for the like minded person with common interests, focus instead on finding someone who is LIKE-VALUED!
When I first met my husband Thad, I thought he was so handsome, but I also thought he was a jerk!
He was a meat eating country boy who had never walked on fire, and never heard of, or even watched the movie, “The Secret!” (One of my favs!)
I was a vegan, firewalking, hippie freak who had never heard of, let alone played, the game “corn hole.”
Besides physical attraction, what the hell did we see in each other?
Common values.
Although on the outside we appeared to have little in common, we both had a deep desire to have one more relationship… just one more, and it had to be magical!
We both valued learning, growing, and family. We valued honesty, and clean living. We valued excellent communication and friendship. We both valued hard work and ambition. We valued generosity and volunteering.
And it was these values that brought us together, and keep us together.
Sit down and make a list of your values so you can get a clearer picture of the things you want in a soul mate! You may discover that you have been looking for love in all the wrong places!
What would you do for your soul mate? Absolutely anything right?
So once you find him, you will be more than happy to take an interest in the things that interest him and vice verse!
What good is it if he shares your love of cooking but hates to tell the truth?
When Thad and I got together, he eventually stopped eating meat, and I even went hiking and camping! Not because we asked, forced, or required one another to do so, but because we value one another so much that we make an effort to participate in one another’s interests.
And very often, we discover that we enjoy something we didn’t know we liked!
Listen, single people all over the world are doing it wrong! Help them find their soul mate by sharing this article!
As always, if you need some help, just contact me!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
PS: HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!! <3
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Do you know a “spoiled rotten kid?” C’mon, we all do… or have at least witnessed one, mid temper tantrum, in the store, crying over the newest candy bar, toy, or cell phone!
Seriously, I think that may be the #1 topic people ask me about…. entitled kids!
I could write for days on the topic but I will try to reel it in with a few simple tips.
Tips to prevent raising entitled kids:
#1 Keep the praise to a minimum to raise a quality kid!
Yes, I did just say that! Stop complimenting everything breath they take. When you over praise, you set your kiddo up to seek external validation rather than learning self pride or appreciation.
Instead of praising, ask your kiddo some questions! Next time lil Johnny brings you his school project, instead of endlessly gushing, ask him how HE feels he did. Ask him what his favorite part of the project was. Or you could ask him what part he is most proud of, or what part he struggled with and how did he overcome the struggle.
#2 Reward with attention, not stuff!
If your kid deserves some praise or a reward, then offer them some quality time! And I’m not talking about the time it takes to go to the store to buy them stuff.
I mean go to the park and play hide and seek to celebrate together. Or go build a fort together. Or play a game, go for a walk, bake a cake, people watch, play mini golf, or even just sit and enjoy an ice cream cone together while talking!
I promise you… they will NEVER remember the toy you bought them when they were 6 but they WILL remember the quality time you spent with them, and how loved they felt.
#3 Say NO once in a while!
Just because you can afford something, doesn’t mean you should buy it. Telling you kiddo NO is a good thing because it teaches them patience and appreciation.
Just because Apple came out with the brand new version of the iPhone, doesn’t mean your kiddo should have it, even if it’s not a financial burden to get it. Remember that old anti-drug slogan from the 80’s? Just say NO!
#4 If you want them to act responsibly, you have to give them responsibility!
Thad and I are always amazed by the amount of responsibility some kids have in 3rd world countries. Kids at 7 years old are out hustling for money… shining shoes, carrying bags… whatever it takes.
It’s terribly sad that some kids are forced too young to hustle for food and resources, but it’s even more sad that some kids sit around and do nothing while being showered with praise and presents.
Give your kiddos some responsibility! All ages, even toddlers can participate in cleaning or picking up, loading things into the dishwasher, and helping out around the house.
If you start them young, they learn to contribute to their family because that’s what family members do. Not because they are getting a reward! Throw out the star sticker chart and start handing out hugs and thank-you’s!
#5 Allowance: Yes or No?
People ask me this a lot too. I don’t believe in giving an allowance, and I’ve never given allowance to my kids. I do however think it’s important to teach them to earn. I have paid my kids to do some things above and beyond their normal responsibilities. BUT… I do not nag, or bribe, I give them an opportunity to learn and earn.
Simply put, I let them know that I have a job available, how much it pays, and if one of them is interested, they can see me about it. I let them know the requirements, and if they do the job, I pay them. Simple.
Some examples have been:
- Cleaning out the car
- Foot rubs
- Packing up books to send out to customers
- Shampooing the dog
- Organizing my bookshelf
- Sweeping the patio
- (My mom used to pay me to pull her grey hairs out. lol. I hope she doesn’t kill me for sharing that!)
- etc….
I also think it’s important to teach them about money… how much to save for short and long term, and what to spend. (But that’s a whole different topic for another day!)
The point…. stop showering your kids with undue praise and rewards.
Instead, give them wings to fly so when the time comes, they leave the nest to do good in the world and eventually return for visits with adorable grand babies! 😉
If you know a parent who is struggling, please forward this to them and offer a kind word. Everyone needs a little inspiration now and then!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to increase emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training which is open again for enrollment! Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to give your children an advantage when they go out into the world, you can share what you learn with students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us and be a gift to the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!