OMG. Don’t let anyone be the reason for YOUR happiness! Yup. You read that right.
That is TOO much power and responsibility to give away to another person.
I mean we all say it. I say it. “You make me happy.” or “You’re the reason for my happiness…..”
but really, the ONLY person responsible for your happiness… is YOU!
If you are the reason for someone’s happiness, then you’d also be the reason for their despair if you do something wrong. It’s actually unhealthy.
How ’bout we all just decide to make ourselves happy and attract people who do the same? Deal?
Life’s SO much more rewarding when you take complete responsibility for your feelings, behaviors, actions, thoughts, and life!
Now go have some FUN and show others by example how to love yourself fully and completely!
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Lots of love to you and yours!!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
There is a common theme among couples that don’t get along. Does any of this sound familiar?
“He doesn’t bring me flowers.”
“He doesn’t do the dishes.”
“She never visits me at work.”
“She doesn’t compliment me.”
etc…………
The common theme is the complaint.
Many times a relationship can be turned around simply by asking “what does he / she do RIGHT?”
He may not send you flowers at work, but how does he make up for this? In other words, what DOES he do?
He may not send flowers but does he scrape the snow and ice off of your car in the winter? She may not be quick to compliment but does she greet you at the door when you get home and ask how your day was?
Relationships are often turned around completely and easily when couples simply focus on the good in one another. I know that is sounds painfully simple, but it can be difficult for a couple to do once they’ve gotten lazy about their relationship.
Try this….
Wake up each day, turn to your partner and ask, “How can I make your day better today?”
Then do it!
Many times we don’t meet our partners needs simply because we don’t know what they are! So ask!
“How can I make your day better today?”
Your partner may like the question and choose to ask you too!
Try it!
I’d love to hear how this goes for you! Need help? Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
We are getting on the road this Saturday! Heading out for our year long vegan road trip!! #RVeganRoadTrip
I’ve had to say “see ya later” to most people, but honestly, to some I’ve said “this is good-bye.”
One of the biggest lessons that I’ve had to learn the hard way is to let go of people that don’t deserve to be in your life.
That doesn’t mean you have to be mean or even obvious about it, but sometimes saying good-bye is the best thing for you!
Walk away from toxic relationships. Quit soul-sucking jobs. Say good-bye to the friend that never has time for you. Ditch the drama party that happens in the hall outside your kids dance class. Don’t answer the phone when your in-laws call to complain. Dump Debbie or Dave Downer.
I mean seriously. Like WTF. Stress really is the BIGGEST contributor to illness so why hang out with people, or in places that cause stress? It’s just SO not worth it.
Let’s make a pact to breathe a little deeper, walk a little further, and avoid participating in things, people, or places that suck the soul out of us? You in???
You don’t have to sell your home and belongings and move into an RV to make this a reality. Just say “this is good-bye” to stress, drama, and headaches!
Are you willing to say good-bye to stress? Need help? Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
Here we GROW……………
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
No stress in our tribe!! You can join us and become a Certified Life Coach! Use it to create a coaching business, or use it to be a better parent, teacher, lawyer, doctor, friend… whatever!
Check it out: www.inspiredlifeschool.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Do you know the difference between self care and self medicating? If not, that could be the reason your “self care” isn’t working!
Self care is preventative. Self medicating occurs during emotional crisis.
Self medicating happens when you’ve become exhausted, resentful, or upset. You’ve taken care of everyone else and no one cared back. Now you are “rewarding” yourself with something destructive because you are pissed off, sick of it all, or determined to give a giant middle finger to the world as pay back and you feel completely justified in doing so!
I’ve been there too. There is a better way.
Self care happens BEFORE you give every ounce of yourself. In fact, it happens before you are even the slightest bit uncomfortable. And if you do it preventatively, you are FAR less likely to ever self medicate again.
Self medicating is trying to make yourself temporarily feel better at the expense of your health or well being. It’s like trying to fill your cup with an eye dropper while allowing everyone else to drink out of it! There’s never enough!
These are some examples of self medicating especially when done in excess:
- Gambling
- Drinking
- Drug use
- Sexual deviance
- Spending money aka retail therapy
- Going outside of your relationship
- Stealing / Lying
- Eating
If there is a chance that you’ll feel terrible after, you could get arrested, you could lose your job, relationship, or integrity, you are self medicating.
Self care is identifying your needs and meeting them in positive and healthy ways. It’s keeping your cup full and allowing others to have whatever flows over the edge.
Some examples of self care:
- Meditating
- Yoga or exercise
- Taking a walk
- Deep breathing / fresh outdoor air
- Visiting people you love
- Calling a lifeline: friend, coach, parent, etc.
- Body work: massage, facial, mani/pedi
- Taking a bath
- Trying something new / adventure
- Smiling (totally under-rated)
- Snuggles with a pet or loved one
- Cup of tea
- Reading a book / learning something new
When you take care of yourself, you teach others how to care for you too! You’ll feel better about any challenges that come your way, and you give other people permission to care for themselves as well… especially your kiddos who are watching and modeling everything you do!
Self care is not a luxury, it’s mandatory if you want to live your best, healthiest, and happiest life!
What is your favorite thing to do for self care? Comment below and let me know!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
3 different clients made me say these words this week:
“You are NOT the mood police!”
This is one of the most prevalent challenges in our society today…. we feel the need to correct or fix the feelings of other people because we feel their bad mood is a reflection of us as a person.
Imagine this:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife is irritated by husband’s cranky mood so she tries to make him feel happy.
- Husband doesn’t want to feel happy right now. He wants to be left alone to think for a bit.
- Wife gets even more irritated that husband won’t “snap out of it.”
- Wife feels rejected and becomes cranky.
- Husband and wife argue and it escalates from crankiness to anger and now they both retreat away from one another to stew in rejection and misery.
- Kids are now upset too because Mom and Dad are fighting again.
It doesn’t have to be like this!
Imagine this instead:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife asks if he’d like to talk about it.
- Husband says “No thank you, I’d prefer to have some time alone to stew.”
- Wife says “OK my love, take all the time you need.”
- Husband goes and has some alone time.
- Wife goes and plays with the kids.
- An hour later the husband emerges and thanks his wife for allowing him some time and they escalate into a supportive conversation about the days frustrations.
- Kids see a Mom and Dad lovingly supporting one another and feel happy and secure.
Other people are entitled to feel however they want to feel. It is not our job to constantly police moods, feelings, or emotions! And remember this…
Another persons emotions are NOT a reflection of you, your parenting, your relationship, your abilities, or your productivity! Your spouse does NOT love you because of what you provide. They love you because you are you!
What does this topic mean to you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!