I once had a client find the courage to admit to that she had been molested.
She’d never told anyone about it yet she carried it with her everywhere she went. She thought about it daily and she lived with this for so many years.
After she talked about it, she was able to start to see it as an experience she lived through rather than something she was living with daily. It changed her entire life.
Now, she finds such peace in silence. She’s able to sit and relax in the quiet moments rather than ruminating on pain from her past.
Silence. It can be a barrier to healing or it can bring much needed peace and relaxation.
How do you know when to be silent and when to speak up?
Here’s my rule of thumb… if you can’t stop thinking about something for more than a day, it’s time to talk about it…. especially if it’s effecting your quality of life!
Reach out today. Coaching is non-judgmental, healing, and will help you speak out so you can enjoy the silence again!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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There is a common theme among couples that don’t get along. Does any of this sound familiar?
“He doesn’t bring me flowers.”
“He doesn’t do the dishes.”
“She never visits me at work.”
“She doesn’t compliment me.”
etc…………
The common theme is the complaint.
Many times a relationship can be turned around simply by asking “what does he / she do RIGHT?”
He may not send you flowers at work, but how does he make up for this? In other words, what DOES he do?
He may not send flowers but does he scrape the snow and ice off of your car in the winter? She may not be quick to compliment but does she greet you at the door when you get home and ask how your day was?
Relationships are often turned around completely and easily when couples simply focus on the good in one another. I know that is sounds painfully simple, but it can be difficult for a couple to do once they’ve gotten lazy about their relationship.
Try this….
Wake up each day, turn to your partner and ask, “How can I make your day better today?”
Then do it!
Many times we don’t meet our partners needs simply because we don’t know what they are! So ask!
“How can I make your day better today?”
Your partner may like the question and choose to ask you too!
Try it!
I’d love to hear how this goes for you! Need help? Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Are you willing to read on to learn how to get your spouse, kids, friends, or clients to say YES more often?
It’s very simple, let me show you how….
From now on, instead of telling, or even asking someone to do something, ask them if they are “willing.”
For example:
“Hey kiddo, are you willing to do the dishes so I can start dinner?”
“Hey Babe, are you willing to take out the trash for me so I don’t get my hair wet in the rain?”
“Hey readers, are you willing to read on…….” (See what I did there with that one? lol)
Commands, or questions that are disguised as commands often don’t work AND they put strain on your relationships.
When you ask someone if they “are willing” then you give them a choice in how they decide to act as a person.
It takes the focus OFF of the task, and puts it on the persons willingness to help and it’s FAR more effective in getting a YES! You might even get an enthusiastic HELL YES!
Are you willing to share this with someone who might be struggling? Just share this page with them!
What are YOUR thoughts on this? Leave your comments below! I LOVE your feedback!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
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The words that make me want to cry…. “I suffer from…”
Sally was having a bad day and boldly proclaimed on Facebook that she was “suffering from depression.” She went into all the reasons why her life was terrible, how she had no friends, and how broke she was financially.
Sally became super defensive whenever anyone tried to give her some advice, uplifting words, or encouragement. Sally wanted to suffer and nobody was going to deny her that.
I’m not saying depression isn’t real. I am however saying that suffering is optional and that you should never utter the words, “I suffer from” again!
Don’t take ownership of suffering. At the very least say “I am experiencing _______ right now.”
I live by the phrase “this too shall pass” and even if it’s something that absolutely will not pass, I “live” with it, not “suffer” from it.
You can live with far more than you can suffer from.
Your words have exceptional power over your feelings, don’t “suffer” when you don’t have to! Hardships, heartbreak, and sadness come with living, don’t add suffering to life as well.
What are YOUR thoughts on this? Comment below…
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
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I get this question often, “When should I speak up, and when should I just mind my own business?”
In fact, I often wonder that myself. As a coach, I’m almost always ready to jump in to help but is it always my business to do so?
I’ve discovered a sure fire way to know 100% of the time when you should speak up versus butting out….
Just ask!
I have adult children, so the opportunity to impart my own wisdom comes up often when I see my child struggling but I’ve learned that offering unsolicited advice is the best way to get someone to ignore it!
So now, I just ask if they want my help/advice/opinion.
If they say yes, then I give them my input.
If they say no, I leave it alone but let them know they are welcome to come to me if they need me.
During a conversation with my friend Carol (who inspired this post) she told me that someone once said to her, “You can listen to me with your head or your heart.”
I think that is a brilliant statement and I’ve tweaked it a little to use when you have to deliver UNsolicited advice because let’s face it, sometimes we just have to intervene:
“You can listen to me with your ego or your heart, but please know that I am giving my opinion because I care about you and wish the best for you.”
Your unsolicited advice will be more well received if you make your intentions clear in the beginning.
I can’t tell you how many kids believe their parents give advice to make their lives miserable and not because they actually care. Let them know you care!
Remember, the best advice is advice that is welcomed! 🙂
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