It is so nice to be around people who truly love and adore their spouse! How bad does it feel when someone is talking to you and bashing the person they are supposed to love? They talk all about the limitations or downfalls of their “loved one” and it can make you feel really uncomfortable. I had a co-worker years ago that always spoke down about his wife, I can’t think of one nice thing that he ever had to say about her. Then when I met her, I was surprised and delighted by how lovely she was. Of course then I felt bad because clearly SHE was stuck with someone who didn’t value her at all! I LOVE hearing people when they brag about their spouses. I often brag about mine! (Of course you all already know how truly amazing Thad is!)
How good would your spouse feel if you were to brag about them? Say really nice things about them to your co-workers or drop a couple lines about how grateful you are for them on facebook? How important would you make them feel if they knew that you thought they were Superman/woman? Remember also, your spouse is a reflection of the choice YOU made. So if you are talking down about someone, it only reflects badly on you. (If you are in a situation where the relationship is ending, you still should not talk badly about the other person.)
So today… go ahead and brag a little about the one you love, speak and regard them highly, make them feel really important and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Recently I was speaking with a client who expressed to me that she was afraid she would never feel truly good about her relationship and that she was feeling resentful. I knew things had been going well recently so I wondered what was different. She had spent time that day telling another friend all about the troubles her and her boyfriend had gone through in the past with affairs. She asked me why she felt so crappy when things had been going well.
This is what I told her: “You don’t know how bad standing or stagnate water smells until you stir it up.” If the swamp is just sitting there, you never smell it, but when you start wading around in it, you smell how gross it is. This is the same with what we focus on. If you sit and talk about all the bad things that happened in the past, you will feel bad. Don’t mire yourself in the stench….. break that pattern and ONLY talk about the good stuff! Talk about the things your boyfriend and you have been doing lately, all the great moments and laughs you have shared. There really is no reason to revisit history unless you want to keep feeling badly about it.
She totally got what I was saying and it helped her to remember that although things aren’t perfect, they are still really good and they have both worked hard to make their relationship so much better!
Today, focus solely on the positive, feel great, be grateful, smile, listen to happy music, tell only positive uplifting stories, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
How often do you look to others to validate what you are doing? You do not need another person’s permission to be great! I often hear people say “I don’t want to do it until someone else does” or they won’t express their true feelings about something until someone else makes it OK to do so. You don’t have to make sure that others feel the same way to know if you are right. You don’t have to wait until someone else “goes in” before you, so you know you are not alone. Empower yourself to do, say, think, act, react and interact however YOU feel is right despite what anyone else does or doesn’t do! You are the ONLY one who lives inside your head, you are the only one who has to be comfortable with yourself when you lay your head on your pillow, you are the ONLY person who reflects back when you look in the mirror. You do not need anyone else to “make it OK” for you to be you! You will never need permission to take a stand, to rebel, to say what you feel, to try something new, to like or dislike something, to do what you feel is right for your kids, to be fabulous or to be quiet and reserved, you don’t need permission to be YOU!
So today, step with comfort into your own self realization and tell anyone who doesn’t like it that their opinion of you is none of your business! Be authentic, ignore and avoid all judgement by others, love who you are and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
You know it’s a slippery slope when you start making bad decisions or lowering standards. That “one time” you tried something that was not in alignment with your core values, that “one person” you knew you should have avoided, or that “one place” you said you would never go to. Just as soon as we allow ourselves to take the first step toward destruction, it becomes like a slippery slope and we slide all the way down until we crash at the bottom. The next time you are tempted to engage in something risky like drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, over indulging, or flirting with disaster, remember who you are, and who you would never want to become before making that decision! It takes more courage and integrity to do what is right and maintain your standards and then you won’t have to pack your bags for “loserville!” Once you move to “loserville” or “crazytown,” it becomes MUCH harder to get out…. so just don’t go there! You have all heard the stories of lovely people who just tried something once and got hooked and it ruined their life. The best way to prevent falling down a slippery slope is by never standing on the edge! So today, promote positive living by avoiding risky or unhealthy practices, set a great example of maintaining high standards and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Don’t wait for tragedy to remind you to live a full life, to express your true emotions, and to make time for those who are important. Every time our country faces a tragedy people start to really think about what is important and they start to prioritize things differently. Unfortunately, after some time has passed we tend to revert back to our old ways… working too much, forgetting to tell people we love them, ignoring our feelings, focusing on the negative and slowly crawling back into our “comfort zone.” Life begins outside of that comfort zone, that is why tragedy shakes us up so much, it reminds us that we are not truly in control and that anything can happen. Don’t wait for tragedy to strike to remind us how important it is to truly live and love life and all that it has to offer. Don’t wait for tragedy to remind you to appreciate our military, law enforcement, first responders, and all other hero’s that walk amongst us. Today, and EVERYDAY, get outside of your comfort zone, express your feelings for others, be grateful for your many blessings, tell people you love them, spend time with those you love, do a random act of kindness, do something to thank our “everyday hero’s” and Live Inspired Now… not later… NOW!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
