Don’t hold on too your lover so tightly that they feel smothered or stalked. If you trust them, then allow them to be the person you fell in love with. If you don’t trust them, then you should evaluate whether or not you should remain in the relationship.
Many relationships fail when one partner is held “too loosely” which means they feel like they are not cared for. If you don’t make time to show your special person how much you love and care for them, they will eventually get their needs met in other ways. Don’t forget to show them you love them each and ever day.
Take care of your relationship, the person you love should be your priority. For my younger readers, please understand that you are meant to go through break ups because it teaches you how to have a successful relationship in the future. My teenage clients tend to put more love and attention into their relationships than adults do because they are often less afraid of being vulnerable which makes it much more painful when the relationship ends. Please remind the young people in your life that it is normal and OK for them to experience some heart break but help them see the lesson in each relationship. If they don’t learn lessons then they are likely to keep having the same problem over and over with each new relationship. We all know adults like that… the ones who say “Every relationship I have ever had has been like this…” or “Every guy I meet ends up being exactly the same.” This is because they are hopping to the next partner without learning the lesson of the break up.
Experience is invaluable, learn from it, cherish your relationships and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
A good nights sleep is important but once in a while, you can forgo the sleep for a night of fun and adventure! When is the last time you went out for a midnight stroll with your lover? Or took a slow drive down a dark country road just for the fun of it?
When I was a teenager, I often spent time with my Grandma Bea in the summer. She would wake me up in the middle of the night and take me to McDonald’s for hot apple pies. One of my favorite memories is of her and me eating apple pies on the curb in the parking lot, then having shopping cart races. There were left over shopping carts that didn’t get put away so we would each take one, run as fast as we could, and let go at the same time and see whose cart would go farther. With no cars around at that early morning hour, it was easy for them to soar through the large, dark parking lot. Sometimes, she would even let me drive her Cadillac through the empty lot! We had so much fun and would laugh for days! Grandma loved adventures and she always said “I will sleep when I’m dead!”
So tonight…. get out there and have some fun, do something outside the box, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Sometimes you just have to let go of the BS, put the drama behind you, close the door to complaints or complaining, and chill the hell out! Life is not difficult unless you make it that way. Let the misery, judgement, and unhappiness of others just slide right off of you, you don’t have to internalize it. If someone cuts you off, or takes too long at the green light, WHO CARES? Let it go because the moment you react to the actions of another, they control YOU! The very best thing you can do for yourself, your health, and your mental state is to stay in control of your own emotions and relax. Sure, there will be times when you just get angry and that is OK, but take an honest look at how often you are getting angry, frustrated, jealous, or any other emotion that doesn’t serve the greater good. Then practice NOT responding to things that trigger these emotions. It takes time but eventually, you can learn to control yourself and you will be far more relaxed and find much more joy in your life. So today, chill the hell out, don’t assume everyone is out to get you, take a deep breath, don’t let others control you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Have you ever made homemade pizza dough? If so, you know that when you are rolling it out, if you spread it too thin it will tear. The more you try and spread it to fit on your large pizza sheet, the more it tears. Then, if you try and rip some of the dough from the fatter pieces and make dough patches over the tears so you don’t have holes in the middle of your crust, you will realize the patch doesn’t stick well.
Besides learning that I can’t make pizza crust very well, I hope you can see that life is also like the pizza dough. You can try to spread yourself thin by doing everything but all you end up doing is tearing yourself apart. You might try to apply dough patches by doing things that provide temporary comfort such as shopping, eating, drinking, gossiping, whining, or self sabotaging but you are just covering up the problem.
You may wish you could say yes to everything and everyone, but don’t be tempted to spread yourself so thin that you start to hurt yourself. When you spread yourself thin, you can become resentful or angry because you feel overwhelmed or obligated to do everything. Practice saying “no,” not only to other people but to yourself as well. It is OK to say no to things and it is OK to tell yourself that right now, you can’t take on one more role, project, event, job, child, or whatever it is.
So today, assess whether or not you are spreading yourself too thin. Signs of this would be: excessive worrying, constantly saying “I’m too busy,” feelings of frustration, hectic schedules, never saying no to anything, trouble sleeping, eating on the run all the time, or feeling under appreciated.
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, take action! Here are some simple and effective fixes to get your started: Practice saying “no,” take a vacation, learn to meditate, set aside a certain time each day just for you, schedule less, prepare meals in advance and stop to eat them, use more empowering words, listen to relaxing music, stop and take a break, hire a coach to help!
Stop spreading yourself too thin, you are not poorly made pizza dough, enjoy life and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Last week I took Carrie to Rhode Island for her 12th birthday. She had 3 wishes: go to the beach, go to the “big mall,” and spend time with family. We had a blast even though we weren’t able to get to the beach because it rained and was chilly the entire visit.
The last day of our trip we visited my Aunt Rita who just went to the nursing/rehabilitation home. She is 90 years old, she fell at home and broke some ribs, and her doctor ordered her to the nursing home to recover. My Aunt Rita had very long hair that was always kept in a neat bun in the back of her head for the past 40 years. Upon arriving at the nursing home they told her she gets to visit the beauty parlor and they whisked her away. They washed her long beautiful grey hair that she spent 40 years growing and before she knew what was happening, they cut it off right up to her neck. She was horrified and demanded to know why. They explained that it was policy because long hair was “unsanitary.” They didn’t even discuss it with her first; they cut first, explained later. My aunt was very hurt and although she is 90, her faculties are still in tact. She is as coherent and intelligent as she always was; she is just older. Aunt Rita is taking all these new rules and changes in stride but she did tell me that she was “working her Irish up so she could give them a hard time!”
I love my Aunt Rita. She is one of the classiest women I have ever known. She is down to earth, very thoughtful, and always positive. It breaks my heart to see such a beautiful soul treated like she isn’t able to make decisions or have a role in her own care. Her body is old but her mind is completely intact and she doesn’t appreciate being treated as though she can’t think. I watched several of the nursing staff walk around and speak condescendingly to the other patients as if they were unruly teenagers. Although some of the patients needed higher levels of care, most seemed to be mature men and women who would appreciate being treated as such.
The nursing home was a very nice place; clean and luxurious and could be a lovely place to recover or spend your remaining years if you can’t live alone but some of the policies and attitudes could be improved. People need to treat the elderly like they are people; with dignity, compassion, and kindness. Unless they are mentally unable to care for themselves, they should be involved in the decisions being made for them. They should be told what the medications they are given are, they should be asked before they get their hair cut off, and they should be listened to. So today, if you have an elderly person in your life, spend some time with them. Listen to what they have to say, appreciate the years they have spent on earth and maybe even learn something from them. Treat the elderly in your life with kindness and compassion, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
