There is a common theme among couples that don’t get along. Does any of this sound familiar?
“He doesn’t bring me flowers.”
“He doesn’t do the dishes.”
“She never visits me at work.”
“She doesn’t compliment me.”
etc…………
The common theme is the complaint.
Many times a relationship can be turned around simply by asking “what does he / she do RIGHT?”
He may not send you flowers at work, but how does he make up for this? In other words, what DOES he do?
He may not send flowers but does he scrape the snow and ice off of your car in the winter? She may not be quick to compliment but does she greet you at the door when you get home and ask how your day was?
Relationships are often turned around completely and easily when couples simply focus on the good in one another. I know that is sounds painfully simple, but it can be difficult for a couple to do once they’ve gotten lazy about their relationship.
Try this….
Wake up each day, turn to your partner and ask, “How can I make your day better today?”
Then do it!
Many times we don’t meet our partners needs simply because we don’t know what they are! So ask!
“How can I make your day better today?”
Your partner may like the question and choose to ask you too!
Try it!
I’d love to hear how this goes for you! Need help? Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
We are getting on the road this Saturday! Heading out for our year long vegan road trip!! #RVeganRoadTrip
I’ve had to say “see ya later” to most people, but honestly, to some I’ve said “this is good-bye.”
One of the biggest lessons that I’ve had to learn the hard way is to let go of people that don’t deserve to be in your life.
That doesn’t mean you have to be mean or even obvious about it, but sometimes saying good-bye is the best thing for you!
Walk away from toxic relationships. Quit soul-sucking jobs. Say good-bye to the friend that never has time for you. Ditch the drama party that happens in the hall outside your kids dance class. Don’t answer the phone when your in-laws call to complain. Dump Debbie or Dave Downer.
I mean seriously. Like WTF. Stress really is the BIGGEST contributor to illness so why hang out with people, or in places that cause stress? It’s just SO not worth it.
Let’s make a pact to breathe a little deeper, walk a little further, and avoid participating in things, people, or places that suck the soul out of us? You in???
You don’t have to sell your home and belongings and move into an RV to make this a reality. Just say “this is good-bye” to stress, drama, and headaches!
Are you willing to say good-bye to stress? Need help? Hit me up on Facebook or at my info below and don’t forget to follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
Here we GROW……………
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Call or Text: 607-592-6291
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
No stress in our tribe!! You can join us and become a Certified Life Coach! Use it to create a coaching business, or use it to be a better parent, teacher, lawyer, doctor, friend… whatever!
Check it out: www.inspiredlifeschool.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Thad’s co-workers have a company award ceremony each year and they make up some crazy categories. Last year, Thad got the “Best Hair” award…. obviously! lol.
This year however, he received the award for “Most Likely To Give All His Money Away To Charity.”
Although the awards are meant to be funny, I couldn’t be any prouder that this is how people see my husband! We truly live an abundant life!
It got me thinking about a time when I wasn’t so “abundant.” I was a single mom for years and back then, $100 might as well have been a million.
I remember watching the movie “The Secret” and writing myself a fake check for $50,000 which I hung in my office. I looked at it daily and thought maybe if I just wish, pray, or want it harder it will happen.
When it didn’t happen, I figured I was doing something wrong.
Listen, the “law of attraction” is true, but it’s not MAGIC. You can’t magically turn your 2007 Jeep Liberty into a Lamborghini just because you believe really hard.
You CAN however take steps to put yourself into a far more abundant mind frame which WILL make you feel more abundant and will in turn attract more into your life. It’s a process, not an event. Mo Money Mo Money!
Here are some tips to start attracting more prosperity and abundance into your life, no matter your life stage, or current financial status:
- Be generous…. often! That doesn’t mean you have to attend fundraisers, it could just mean you deliver a small coffee to the homeless guy outside of Starbucks. (They LOVE getting something warm!) Or… Little kids love coins… give a few pennies to a little one and see how excited they get!! (Learn gratitude from little ones!)
- Speaking of coins… don’t let one pass you buy! If you see a coin on the street, bend over and pick it up and say “Thanks Universe!” (Or God.) Snubbing coins is like telling the Universe that you don’t want money! (Hells no!)
- Change your damn language for F sake’s!!! No, not your cuss words- those are great. Your “poor” words and phrases like “I could never afford that. I’ll never have that. It’s too expensive.” Start saying “I’m not going to prioritize that right now.” or “I don’t have it YET.” or even “That’s well within my possibilities but I’m focusing on other things at this time.”
- Stop insulting the “Haves.” You’ll never go from “Have not” to “Have” with a shitty attitude about those who have abundance. The absolute biggest block to abundance will always be your own attitude. When you see someone doing well, smile and wish them well or congratulate them! Gratitude is the ONLY attitude for living a prosperous life.
- Redefine what success and prosperity look like because you may be chasin’ someone else’s dream! If you think driving a Lambo, or have a million dollars is success, I’d say you need to take a long hard look at what’s important to you. When I was a single Mom, I thought having a big fancy house was success until I got the big fancy house and realized it was more to pay for, and more to clean. Success to me now is food in my belly, love in my heart, kids that call me, and giving when I can.
- If you can’t give your money, give your time. Even as a single Mom, I made time to give back by volunteering and yes, I took all 3 kids with me most of the time. It wasn’t always easy, but it was always worth it because now my children are 3 of the most generous and compassionate adult people I know. THIS to me is success!
What did you think of today’s tips? What have you done to be more abundant in your life? I’d love to hear from you… message me on Facebook or in the comments below!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Listen, if people don’t like how you talk about them in your story, then they should have behaved better!
I’ve said this statement at least 5 times in the past week so people must need this message!
You are NOT responsible for how your abuser feels, for how they think or behave, or for any consequences they experience as a result of you speaking your truth.
A big part of processing your painful experiences is to focus solely on how YOU feel about them.
Abusers like to use “guilt” to continue to control their victims: “Well if you tell this story, how will I ever get a job? I can’t get better if I can’t support myself. No one will believe you anyway…”
Let me define guilt because this too gets very twisted… guilt is a feeling of worry, or unhappiness that you feel when you’ve caused harm.
The ABUSER is the one who caused HARM yet they feel no guilt in trying to continue to manipulate you.
From this day forward, reserve your guilt for times when you actually cause harm…. like if you accidentally run into a person with your shopping cart and run over their toe.
Otherwise, you my friend, can tell your story without feeling any guilt, shame, or hesitation…. and when you do, you take your power back from the abuser!
***Abuse takes many forms… physical, mental, emotional, financial, sexual, psychological, etc. It’s any behavior or action that threatens, injures, manipulates or controls another person. If you think you might be in an abusive relationship, please seek help immediately.***
Need help? Contact me and let’s set up a free call! I’d love to help you work through any challenges you are facing. Coaching is always confidential, it’s fast and effective, and it works!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Having the ability to understand and share the feelings of another is NOT always a good thing.
When I was married to my first husband Donnie, who was (and still is) an alcoholic and drug abuser, I had a serious case of empathy bias…. showing favor for those who are suffering.
Donnie was actually a really kind person but to cope with a horrible childhood, he turned to drugs and alcohol to alleviate his pain at a very young age.
During our brief marriage, I could feel his pain and it was soul crushing. I wanted to alleviate his suffering, so I did whatever I could to try and make things better….
- I downplayed his drinking
- I denied his drug abuse completely
- I didn’t reach out for help
- I’d constantly clean up the messes he made with his friends and family
- I took responsibility for his bad behavior and mistakes
…. and it only got worse.
Empathy is a beautiful quality until it turns into codependency. Then it hurts both people.
Codependency is when you rely on other people for your own identity so you enable their poor choices, bad behavior and addictions.
I was codependent on Donnie because my identity was reliant upon him getting clean and sober. I lived only to make sure he was OK, and that our marriage appeared successful.
Now, after almost 30 years, 3 kids, education, therapy, and training…. I truly am grateful for my experiences because I get to help so many people in a formal way without losing myself to an unhealthy relationship!
Do you have empathy bias? Is your big heart and desire to help turning into a codependent situation?
Contact me and let’s talk.
You CAN break free from the codependent merry-go-round and find true happiness that isn’t reliant on other people….. and life is exquisite when you can enjoy it fully without bearing the weight of the world.
Contact me and let’s set up a free consultation call.
I look forward to hearing from you!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!