Sometimes you just have to let go of the BS, put the drama behind you, close the door to complaints or complaining, and chill the hell out! Life is not difficult unless you make it that way. Let the misery, judgement, and unhappiness of others just slide right off of you, you don’t have to internalize it. If someone cuts you off, or takes too long at the green light, WHO CARES? Let it go because the moment you react to the actions of another, they control YOU! The very best thing you can do for yourself, your health, and your mental state is to stay in control of your own emotions and relax. Sure, there will be times when you just get angry and that is OK, but take an honest look at how often you are getting angry, frustrated, jealous, or any other emotion that doesn’t serve the greater good. Then practice NOT responding to things that trigger these emotions. It takes time but eventually, you can learn to control yourself and you will be far more relaxed and find much more joy in your life. So today, chill the hell out, don’t assume everyone is out to get you, take a deep breath, don’t let others control you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Have you ever made homemade pizza dough? If so, you know that when you are rolling it out, if you spread it too thin it will tear. The more you try and spread it to fit on your large pizza sheet, the more it tears. Then, if you try and rip some of the dough from the fatter pieces and make dough patches over the tears so you don’t have holes in the middle of your crust, you will realize the patch doesn’t stick well.
Besides learning that I can’t make pizza crust very well, I hope you can see that life is also like the pizza dough. You can try to spread yourself thin by doing everything but all you end up doing is tearing yourself apart. You might try to apply dough patches by doing things that provide temporary comfort such as shopping, eating, drinking, gossiping, whining, or self sabotaging but you are just covering up the problem.
You may wish you could say yes to everything and everyone, but don’t be tempted to spread yourself so thin that you start to hurt yourself. When you spread yourself thin, you can become resentful or angry because you feel overwhelmed or obligated to do everything. Practice saying “no,” not only to other people but to yourself as well. It is OK to say no to things and it is OK to tell yourself that right now, you can’t take on one more role, project, event, job, child, or whatever it is.
So today, assess whether or not you are spreading yourself too thin. Signs of this would be: excessive worrying, constantly saying “I’m too busy,” feelings of frustration, hectic schedules, never saying no to anything, trouble sleeping, eating on the run all the time, or feeling under appreciated.
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, take action! Here are some simple and effective fixes to get your started: Practice saying “no,” take a vacation, learn to meditate, set aside a certain time each day just for you, schedule less, prepare meals in advance and stop to eat them, use more empowering words, listen to relaxing music, stop and take a break, hire a coach to help!
Stop spreading yourself too thin, you are not poorly made pizza dough, enjoy life and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Last week I took Carrie to Rhode Island for her 12th birthday. She had 3 wishes: go to the beach, go to the “big mall,” and spend time with family. We had a blast even though we weren’t able to get to the beach because it rained and was chilly the entire visit.
The last day of our trip we visited my Aunt Rita who just went to the nursing/rehabilitation home. She is 90 years old, she fell at home and broke some ribs, and her doctor ordered her to the nursing home to recover. My Aunt Rita had very long hair that was always kept in a neat bun in the back of her head for the past 40 years. Upon arriving at the nursing home they told her she gets to visit the beauty parlor and they whisked her away. They washed her long beautiful grey hair that she spent 40 years growing and before she knew what was happening, they cut it off right up to her neck. She was horrified and demanded to know why. They explained that it was policy because long hair was “unsanitary.” They didn’t even discuss it with her first; they cut first, explained later. My aunt was very hurt and although she is 90, her faculties are still in tact. She is as coherent and intelligent as she always was; she is just older. Aunt Rita is taking all these new rules and changes in stride but she did tell me that she was “working her Irish up so she could give them a hard time!”
I love my Aunt Rita. She is one of the classiest women I have ever known. She is down to earth, very thoughtful, and always positive. It breaks my heart to see such a beautiful soul treated like she isn’t able to make decisions or have a role in her own care. Her body is old but her mind is completely intact and she doesn’t appreciate being treated as though she can’t think. I watched several of the nursing staff walk around and speak condescendingly to the other patients as if they were unruly teenagers. Although some of the patients needed higher levels of care, most seemed to be mature men and women who would appreciate being treated as such.
The nursing home was a very nice place; clean and luxurious and could be a lovely place to recover or spend your remaining years if you can’t live alone but some of the policies and attitudes could be improved. People need to treat the elderly like they are people; with dignity, compassion, and kindness. Unless they are mentally unable to care for themselves, they should be involved in the decisions being made for them. They should be told what the medications they are given are, they should be asked before they get their hair cut off, and they should be listened to. So today, if you have an elderly person in your life, spend some time with them. Listen to what they have to say, appreciate the years they have spent on earth and maybe even learn something from them. Treat the elderly in your life with kindness and compassion, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Speaking in public can be pretty intimidating but just remember, at some point, we have all done it. You may not be at a podium in front of thousands of people, but maybe you have to speak at your office meeting, or in front of you child’s class. Whomever the audience may be, you will want to be successful! Here is a quick list to get you over your jitters and get in front of the crowd!
1 Be prepared! The more you know your material, the better you will feel. Have you ever stumbled when someone asked you a question because you didn’t have an answer? That won’t happen if you know your subject and are well versed in your material! Always talk about what you know, then you won’t get nervous about that “one question you hope they don’t ask!” Also, practice your speech and role play questions and answers with someone. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will be!
2 Imagine your positive outcome. Spend some quality time in quiet contemplation and visualize yourself being applauded after a job well done. Imagine how great it feels to have people really engaging with your words and listening so intently. Imagine them laughing, crying, gasping, or whatever would be an appropriate reaction to your speech. Smile and take a bow just as if you actually delivered your speech.
3 Instead of telling yourself how nervous you feel, remind yourself that you are excited! There is not much difference between the two emotions; however, your brain will respond far more positively to excited vs. nervous. Your brain believes the words your mouth says, so be sure you are using words of empowerment!
4 Get to your venue early! Arrive early and make yourself familiar with the room and the audience. If you are running late, it is sure to increase your anxiety about the event. You can’t be too early, because you can always practice, network with people, or check microphones and other equipment to make sure everything is in good working order.
5 Focus on your audience and the message you are giving them. They are there for you, they want you to be successful. Turn your anxiety or emotions off by focusing on giving the audience an amazing performance!
6 Hire a coach! Coaches are wonderful resources to help you overcome fears and to achieve ultimate success. Contact me today if you would like some support with public speaking or any other life challenge. Also, consider joining a wonderful group like Toastmasters. Toastmasters teaches leadership and competent communication. It is a self-paced and encouraging group and you will learn from the best!
So, whether you are delivering a moving speech at a medical convention, or leading a craft demonstration at your child’s scout troop, try these tips to help you get your point across without all the nervousness and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
You can only move in one direction in life… forward. Even if your mind is stuck in the past, you are still moving forward. Don’t miss the all the wonderful things in life that you are doing now and working towards because you are always focusing on what happened in the past. You only have one direction… forward, so live it up, stop looking back and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
