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Are you willing to read on to learn how to get your spouse, kids, friends, or clients to say YES more often? 

It’s very simple, let me show you how….

From now on, instead of telling, or even asking someone to do something, ask them if they are “willing.” 

For example:

“Hey kiddo, are you willing to do the dishes so I can start dinner?”

“Hey Babe, are you willing to take out the trash for me so I don’t get my hair wet in the rain?”

“Hey readers, are you willing to read on…….”  (See what I did there with that one? lol)

Commands, or questions that are disguised as commands often don’t work AND they put strain on your relationships.

When you ask someone if they “are willing” then you give them a choice in how they decide to act as a person.

It takes the focus OFF of the task, and puts it on the persons willingness to help and it’s FAR more effective in getting a YES! You might even get an enthusiastic HELL YES! 

Are you willing to share this with someone who might be struggling? Just share this page with them!

What are YOUR thoughts on this? Leave your comments below! I LOVE your feedback! 

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTubeInstagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

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Let me start by saying I hate that I even have to talk about this but the fact is:

  • porn is pervasive in our world
  • our kids are vulnerable
  • it’s exceptionally damaging
  • tons of parent’s ask me about it.

So let’s discuss some ways to keep our kids safe!

Yes, even YOUR kid can be exposed to porn. I don’t care what religion you are, how secure your internet is, or how much you’ve “protected” them…. it’s everywhere and no kid is 100% safe.

Thad and I will be doing a brief Facebook live talk on this subject tonight, January 29th, at 9pm so please join us then. My Facebook address: https://www.facebook.com/heatherloveslife

In the meantime, here are a few strategies to protect your babies!

For younger kids:

1 Have “the talk!” 
If you don’t talk to your kids about sex, someone else will and it may not align with your own values or beliefs. In addition, they may just get information that is completely inaccurate…. for example: “You can’t get pregnant the first time you do it.”

2 Have “the talk” EARLY!
No age is too young to discuss intimacy and sex. Obviously you need to use age appropriate language and the earlier the better because it makes porn less alluring. You had to talk about peeing and pooping in the potty, don’t clam up about sex!

3 Use appropriate body part names!
It’s a vagina and a penis. Not a hoohaw, peepee, or private parts. Use the real names as they are real body parts just like the nose, arm, and knee. The more evasive you are with your language, the more you unconsciously drive home that their parts are embarrassing and the less likely they are to have open talks with you.

4 Tell kids WHO gets access to their genitals!
Make sure they know that only Mommy and Daddy or the Doctor when Mommy or Daddy are with them, get access to their genitals. Tell them what touching is OK too… wiping after the bathroom, changing diapers, or checking for a rash etc.

For older kids:

1 Everything on the list above if you haven’t done it. Better late than never…

2 Family zone!
Keep computers in the family room. Don’t allow laptops or computers in children’s bedrooms. Kids should be in a public area when using the internet.

3 History tells all!
Check the history on your computer often. I’m no computer whiz but there must be some software that blocks certain sites, or can help monitor what sites are visited on the family computer. Thad handles that stuff in our home but if you don’t have a “Thad” then a quick google search should give you plenty of computer safety options.

4 Sexual feelings are normal, not bad.
Please let your kids know that their sexual urges and desires are totally normal. They are not “bad” for wanting sex, they are human. Never demonize your child. Just discuss with them appropriate ways to deal with their sexual urges. Yes, this is a wicked awkward conversation but open and honest communication is the most effective antidote to destructive decisions.

5 If you catch them, don’t lose your shit.
Seriously, if you pick up your laptop and find they have been searching and or watching porn, put the laptop down, take a few nice deep breaths, and come up with your talking points. Screaming, grounding, ignoring, or punishing your kiddo is a missed learning opportunity. Again, their desires are completely normal and they need to learn that porn is NOT the way to deal with their own biology.

6 Sex can be funny.
A little laughter goes a long way. Not every conversation with your child has to be a lecture, or deadly serious. Over-dramatizing a situation is a great way to make it even more attractive; lighten the mood with a little levity.

7 Allow your kids to do something “bad.” 
Letting your kids get away with a few things that they think are “bad” is a great way to help them express themselves in a safer way. For example, let your kid dye their hair pink, or skip a day of school to go shopping with you, or let them have a friend over on a school night. Be sure to pretend that you HATE the idea and that they are “winning” one over on you. Kids need to rebel, it’s part of childhood. Allow them to rebel in safe ways rather than by doing things that are very harmful such as watching porn, or having sex too early.

8 Be the hang out house!
You get to be the cool mom or dad that allows everyone to hang out in your house. It’s easier to monitor what your kids are doing if they are at your home. You can’t watch them at their friends house and their friends may have a laptop and web cam in their locked bedroom. Yikes!

We offer more tips HERE on you youtube: https://youtu.be/gjQWiAtmslo

Be sure to tune in and feel free to message me with specific questions that you have before we go live. I’ll try to answer all questions (anonymously of course.)

There are no guarantees that you can completely protect your children at all times, but you can increase your odds by being proactive and active when it comes to their safety.

Watch the youtube video and get more tips at: https://youtu.be/gjQWiAtmslo

Please share this message if you know someone that may benefit. Thanks!

What are YOUR thoughts on this? Comment below!

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
607-269-7815
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Follow me on YouTubeInstagram (@heatherparis) and Facebook!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

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My job as a mother is not to be my kids rock, my job is to teach them how to be their own! I want to give my kids the wings to fly so they can go out and experience all the amazing things life has to offer. I would never want to disable them by keeping them so close that they never want to leave. My greatest joy is to see my kids walk through fear to try new things, experience life, and create opportunities for themselves! “What good are wings if you can’t feel the wind on your face?”

Read and share all of my “Mom’s Musings” posts here: http://liveinspirednow.com/category/moms-musings/


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

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Being a go-getter is good, but being a go-giver is even better! A great message for the kiddos, especially at this time of year. Kids don’t generally think to be generous, they need to be taught. Set a great example by getting the kids involved in holiday charity or volunteering. It’s a wonderful way to teach the kids compassion while also squashing the “entitlement” attitude. Live to give!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

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More reminders about “attitude!” When you live with 4 teenagers, you just can’t get enough reminders! lol.


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!