You know when you get lost in a day dream, or you’re in the shower and all those inspirational thoughts are just pouring into your head? Well that is “theta brain,” and that is the normal state of children up until 7 years old. In adults, this is the state of being hypnotized. So it’s like children are hypnotized until they are about 7.
During that period of development, kids often can’t tell the difference between what’s real, and what they imagine… it really is all the same to them. During this time, they are most influenced by their environment. It’s like their sub-conscious is wide open and what they see, feel, do, hear, and experience becomes the sub-conscious foundation for their future.
It is especially important to protect what goes into their little brains at this age. Yelling, screaming, fighting, arguing, loud noises, traumatic events, abandonment, neglect, inappropriate television, movies, or music, and abuse shapes their brain without them possessing the ability to process it.
On a good note, anything positive that happens before age 7 while in this hypnotic state builds a foundation for a happier, healthier life.
After 7, they become more conscious and are in the “alpha” brain. This is when they start to model the adults in their life. They learn directly from the behavior of those around them. You only get a few years of this and then…..
Puberty hits. Listen, once puberty comes, you are no longer able to control your kid. You literally ONLY have until they arrive at puberty to give them a solid foundation with which to survive the teenager years and beyond.
If you have a teenager in crisis, you can get help, but do not wait. The longer your teen remains in crisis, the harder to pull them out.
If your kid does drugs ONE time, intervene and get them help IMMEDIATELY! Do not believe they will “never do it again.” Do not feel pressured to do nothing because your spouse thinks “it’s no big deal.” Do not ignore the problem and think “oh it’s just a phase.” Do not overly coddle your kid because “he might hurt himself or run away if I’m too hard on him.”
These are nothing more than excuses to be a parent who isn’t doing the right thing for her kid.
Drugs, self-injury, suicidal talk, mental illness, blatant misbehavior, risky sexual activity, criminal activity, promiscuity, running away, social isolation, alcoholism, and emotional dysfunctions, are serious issues in young people and need to be addresses immediately. Waiting to address these issues is extremely risky and will most likely make the problems far worse.
I am on a mission to help families raise healthy young people who become great citizens! You can help too by reaching out if you need help, and by spreading the word about what you learn with other families and parents! It’s up to us to change the world…. one family at a time!
Please let me know what you think of this post, and please don’t wait to reach out if you need help with your young person. I look forward to hearing from you!
Love and Inspiration,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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