Unless you are a fireman, EMT worker, police man or other type of first responder, you should not be “rescuing” people. People don’t need to be saved or rescued. They need to save themselves, and most times they do that only by hitting rock bottom. I think this might be why coaching works so well because coaches don’t enable, they empower. People need to learn how to empower themselves to make changes that will create a life they love. You don’t get the chance to do that if someone is “saving” you every time you fall. Just the way a baby would never learn to walk if you scooped him up after his first fall. People make mistakes and the best thing we can do is to let people learn from them. It is not your job to fix, save, or rescue another person. It is wonderful and lovely to help people, but if you are “helping” them with the same thing over and over, you are enabling them. People are not projects, they need love and kindness but it is up to them to create or re-create their own lives. I learned this lesson many times over in my life. It is noble to want to help others, it is selfish and unrealistic to think you are their savior.
Look at the people in your life. Are they people that should be in your life? There is a difference between being friendly and being friends. Be “friendly” to everyone, but be “friends” with those people who are like minded and who will not take advantage of you or abuse your friendship. Learn and live the difference, inspire and empower but do not enable, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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