HEATHER PARIS

 

There are so many young people out there that are just starved for attention and will use their bodies to make themselves feel loved. This seems to be more prevalent in young women but is certainly not exclusive. I am seeing more and more young people that are wearing less and less clothes to get attention. Bear in mind here, I am no prude… I think it is totally fine to wear something risque sometimes and to feel sexy, but I do not think it is appropriate to use your body as a billboard to find a relationship. By exploiting your body, you are mostly going to appeal to the lowest common denominator anyway. A person who is truly interested in you, will want to talk to you and get to know you, not just jump into bed with you. It is desperately hard to try and convince a young person of this once they have crossed the line into sexuality. The chemicals produced by the brain when they are in an intimate relationship are addictive and make them feel great so they tend to hop from relationship to relationship in an attempt to never feel “bad” again. If you have young people in your life, especially young women, please talk to them about modesty. Encourage them to relate to people on a cerebral level first, to make real connections and to love themselves enough to wait until they are truly ready for intimacy. Teach them the difference between flattery and a true compliment. Let them know how wonderful it is to connect with another person on a deeper level of love, trust, and devotion rather than platitudes and false admiration. Have that talk with a young person in your life, let them know they are loved and Live Inspired Now!