Do you know what it means to get the “itch?” It’s definitely not something gross to scratch, it’s not even something physical. It’s that feeling you get when you are ready for a change.
Personally, every couple of years or so, I get itchy for something new!
Growing up as an Army brat, then a military wife, I became quite used to moving every 2-3 years. I’ve had more than 40 addresses in my 45 years on the planet!
Before I was self aware, that “itch” would present itself in destructive ways. Because I didn’t know that I just needed some change, I would often self sabotage my life or even my relationships and that provided enough drama to suffice for change.
Thank goodness I know much better now and make healthier choices but some people are still trapped in that cycle of meeting their needs for adventure or change in unhealthy ways.
When Thad and I bought our dream home here in New York, we decided that this would be home base… no more moving!
While that is still a little scary to me because I’ve never lived anywhere for more than a few years, I am happy to have a “home base.” But because I know every couple of years I will start to get the itch to move, I’ve found healthy ways to meet that need.
In fact, this weekend, I changed a lot of things! I completely renovated my office, I moved furniture around in the house, and I re-organized!
It may sound small, but to me it was HUGE! Since I’ve decided not to move anymore, moving the furniture and redecorating is a fun way for me to feel the change without uprooting my entire family!
What do YOU do when you feel like you need something different?
Finding healthy ways to fill you needs could save you from self destructive decisions, and can make you feel much happier!
Here are just a few suggestions for meeting your need for change but the sky is the limit! Are you the type of person with a HUGE need for change, or are you happy with small changes? Hopefully some of these will excite you:
- Move your furniture
- Paint a room a new color
- Skydive
- Plan a trip
- Try a new exotic restaurant
- Plan a surprise for your partner
- Play hooky from work and school
- Drive a different way to work
- Volunteer
- Buy hats & scarves and leave them in the park for homeless people
- Plan a ceremony to renew your wedding vows
- Do an art project
- Make a bucket list
- Try a sensory deprivation tank
- Go to the local animal shelter and play with the adoptable animals
- Take a class or workshop
- Read a new book
- Test drive a cool car
Whatever you decide to do, be sure it’s something that’s healthy, empowering, and super fun!
The best thing you will ever do is to become emotionally aware of your needs and learn to meet them in the most positive ways possible!
Have a super happy week!
Much love and inspiration,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Have you ever read the book “Holes?”
In the book, the main character Stanley mentioned that life digging holes was so bad that he would sometimes prod a small rattlesnake to bite him so he could get a couple of days of rest in the tent to recover.
Hmmm…. if sometimes a rattlesnake bite is a GOOD thing, maybe other things that seem bad are just opportunities!
How can you turn a rattlesnake bite into something positive?
- Could a neglectful family member just be a reminder to be closer to your own kids?
- Could a burnt Thanksgiving meal be a great excuse to eat dessert for dinner?
- Could being snowed in be an opportunity to get some things done at home?
( Yes… I am currently snowed in but Thad just messaged me now and said that he found someone to come plow us out in the next few hours! Yay!! )
It’s not naive to look for the silver lining in every situation, it’s astute!
So this week, when stresses can be higher and family can be crankier, consider the rattlesnake bite and find the lesson or blessing in each moment.
Happy Thanksgiving! I wish you soooo much love, inspiration, and happiness this week! 🙂
Love and Inspiration,
Heat
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Wow wow wow!!!
I recommend books all the time, but THIS book… seriously, I almost unfriended someone over it! lol
The other day I told a friend, “If you don’t read Love Warrior, we can no longer be friends!” And although I wasn’t seriously going to unfriend her, I was serious about my passion for this book!
Love Warrior will transform your thinking, and inspire your soul! I hope you will read it, and I really hope you will let me know what you think of it too. Get Love Warrior on Amazon here.
The book you don’t read won’t help! -Jim Rohn
I am not going to tell you anything about the book itself. I want you to discover all the beauty, raw truth, and inspiration for yourself. But do let me know what you think!! 🙂
Have you already read the book? Be sure to share it with someone who could use it!
Love and Inspiration,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Seriously!? What the hell else could go wrong this week??? I’m afraid to find out!!!
This week Thad and I had a flat tire on a remote rural road while almost running out of gas.
That night, we got a call at midnight from our son Harry saying his basement was flooded and smelled like something was burning. (The sump pump burned out, and Thad went and fixed it so no worries now!)
The next day, a cabinet fell off the wall in my kitchen! (Did the previous owner seriously have a purple kitchen?)
Then the next day brought a broken pipe from our upstairs bathroom which led to a ceiling collapse in Thad’s office underneath!
REALLY?!?
Life happens, and when it happens to suck… LEAN IN!!
Many relationships fail because people give in to their feelings and forget that a partner is just that… a partner, not a punching bag for hurt feelings!
Lean in when times are tough and find respite in your partner. And BE a place of respite for your partner too!
Don’t let the chaos of life be enough to pull you apart. Here are a few tips to remember when life gets suckish:
- Create a plan! You can handle things easier if you have some steps to follow.
- Don’t take your anger or frustrations out on your partner.
- Focus on the things that are going well!
- Support, encourage, and love your partner even more than usual.
- Ease up on some of your regular responsibilities to give yourself time for the new challenge.
- If you can’t fix it right now, at least make it neat and tidy! (Neat and tidy just feels better.)
- Get perspective by helping out someone who is going through much worse.
- Your feelings are valid. Explain them and vent before moving on.
- Reach out to the friends and family members that can be compassionate and supportive.
- Celebrate the chaos. That’s right…. have an open house or a small party to celebrate the challenge. It might not make sense to people but won’t it feel better than complaining about it?
Life is not happening TO you. It’s not even happening FOR you. Life is just happening and the best part is that WE get to decide how we respond to it!
I hope you will choose to lean in with your partner, be grateful for the blessings, and take each challenges one things at a time!
So far, you have a 100% success rate of surviving every single challenge that has ever come your way! You rock!
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Love,
Heather
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September 22nd, 5:30 – 7:30pm at NaturTyme
3 Exceptional Talks at the Family Wellness Event that will change your life:
- Raise your kids GPA! by Special Education Teacher Katie Dennis
- Get your teenagers engaged in a positive passion! by 15 yr old life coach Carrie Deaville
- Fix your damaged or dying relationship! presented by Me!
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Something I hear often… I am “surviving yet another…”
Some people are surviving yet another medical setback, another kid crisis, another disappointment, another and another and another, etc.
It all boils down to surviving our own expectations of how things should be.
Life is happening entirely through the filter of our own mind. It is our own thinking that causes us to feel disappointed. For example:
A man lives in a shack and is thrilled he has a roof over his head because once he didn’t. Every day he works to improve the shack by fixing it up and bringing in some fresh wild flowers he cuts from the field. He is always grateful and lives a happy life.
A man lives in a shack and feels sorry for himself because this is all he has. Every day he complains and compares himself to those who have more. He does nothing to improve his situation or attitude. He is always unhappy and dies miserable.
How about instead of “surviving yet another,” we change our words to something like “I get another chance to….”
Another chance to get healthy, another chance to fix my relationship, another chance to start again and make things better, another chance to spend time with my kid, another chance at love, life, joy, etc.
Today is another chance to be a gift to the world! Take the chance and see what you can do with it! 🙂
Love,
Heather
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!