If you NEVER said this again, you’d be happier and so would everyone else…
“Should.”
“You should….”
“I should…”
“He should have…”
Stop should-ing all over the place! Let’s face it, people don’t like being told what they should do. So when your best friend, or your spouse, or one of your kids needs advice or guidance leave the “should” out of it.
Instead try…
“If it were me, I might….”
“It’s up to you but you may want to consider…”
“What have you tried/considered so far?”
These types of statements offer support without judgment or condescension AND they empower the other person to come up with their own solutions!
And this will make you a rockstar communicator! 🙂
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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What’s the BEST gift ever???
It’s your enthusiasm for whatever your spouse is excited about!
When was the last time your spouse came to you with an idea, thought, or project and you didn’t show enthusiasm?
In fact, you might have half-heartedly said “That’s nice.” with no excitement in your voice, no sparkle in your eye, and no concern in your heart for your partners feelings.
If you really want to give an awesome gift that they will never forget… GET FUCKING EXCITED!!! Yes, that required an F-bomb.
This is one of the biggest complaints I hear… one spouse is excited about something and the other spouse is a complete buzz kill with their droll, lackluster response.
Come on now, SHOW SOME EXCITEMENT and watch how your spouse lights up!
They might even shower you with affection because they are so excited by your loving support!
It seems obvious when you read it, but in daily practice you might get a little lazy.
So right now, go let your partner know how freakin excited you are for them or with them about whatever “it” is!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Carrie, Harry, and Madison on one of our adventures to the park!
“EAT SOMETHING, AND BE IN THE CAR IN 15 MINUTES!!!”
This has become one of my kids all time favorite phrases!
At least once per Summer, I’d wake my kids up with this phrase! And after a while, they learned not to ask questions, they would eat quickly, and excitedly pile into the car because they knew….. it’s adventure time!
Growing up, my mother took flying lessons, worked at NASA, and drove a silver convertible. My dad blasted rock and roll music on his reel to reel and took us to the record store where we would look at albums for what seemed like hours! On my birthday, they would bring me to the toy store and say “pick out one thing… whatever you want!”
My parents were adventurous, I am adventurous, and now my kids are adventurous! That’s how it works!
So after the kids wake up, eat something, and pile into the car… I drive! I let them guess where we are going but I never tell them. Then it happens…. we pull into the amusement park and squeals of delight can be heard!
Every year it’s some place new… not always an amusement park, but always someplace fun and unexpected.
There is nothing more special than sharing an adventure with the ones you love most!
It doesn’t have to be anything expensive either! You could pack a picnic, the kids bathing suits, and head to the park. Or coordinate with other parents and meet up at a playground and let all the kids play together!
Whatever you do…. create a suspenseful adventure and you will be the HERO of the Summer!!! You can do this for your spouse too!
Fun, adventure, excitement, and spontaneity are not just for kids! Throw romance in there as well and really knock it out of the park!!
Create your adventure today and let me know what you do! Maybe I’ll steal YOUR idea too! 🙂
Have a spectacular week!
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Heather Paris
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3 different clients made me say these words this week:
“You are NOT the mood police!”
This is one of the most prevalent challenges in our society today…. we feel the need to correct or fix the feelings of other people because we feel their bad mood is a reflection of us as a person.
Imagine this:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife is irritated by husband’s cranky mood so she tries to make him feel happy.
- Husband doesn’t want to feel happy right now. He wants to be left alone to think for a bit.
- Wife gets even more irritated that husband won’t “snap out of it.”
- Wife feels rejected and becomes cranky.
- Husband and wife argue and it escalates from crankiness to anger and now they both retreat away from one another to stew in rejection and misery.
- Kids are now upset too because Mom and Dad are fighting again.
It doesn’t have to be like this!
Imagine this instead:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife asks if he’d like to talk about it.
- Husband says “No thank you, I’d prefer to have some time alone to stew.”
- Wife says “OK my love, take all the time you need.”
- Husband goes and has some alone time.
- Wife goes and plays with the kids.
- An hour later the husband emerges and thanks his wife for allowing him some time and they escalate into a supportive conversation about the days frustrations.
- Kids see a Mom and Dad lovingly supporting one another and feel happy and secure.
Other people are entitled to feel however they want to feel. It is not our job to constantly police moods, feelings, or emotions! And remember this…
Another persons emotions are NOT a reflection of you, your parenting, your relationship, your abilities, or your productivity! Your spouse does NOT love you because of what you provide. They love you because you are you!
What does this topic mean to you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Are you old enough to remember parachute pants? They were popular in the 80’s, they were made of some kind of plasticy fabric, and they had zippers all over!
Only the coolest kids wore them so of course I wanted a pair… in black, and skin tight! Only I wasn’t allowed to wear skin tight anything!
My mom, being so loving and kind, decided to buy me a pair… no doubt to make me happy. BUT……she didn’t buy them at the cool store, no.
She bought them at the higher end store and made sure they were NOT tight. In fact, they were baggie which was so not cool in the mid 80’s!
I was excited to wear them anyway… and I proudly climbed onto the school bus to head to 8th grade with my best friend of the week, Angel, and that’s when it happened. All the boys on the back of the bus started laughing hysterically and called me “sandwich baggie pants!”
Great. I finally get my black parachute pants and now everyone’s calling me “sandwich baggie pants.”
I never wore those pants again which was too bad because they were expensive, good quality, and I would have grown into them.
Fast forward about a million years….. how does this apply to husbands?
I see many single people looking for the perfect fit in a mate but they often over look quality for what’s trendy, or because of what other people say. Or because they are focusing on something shallow rather than seeing all the really good things!
Just like the pants…. they might not be the exact fit, but if they are quality and YOU can grow into them, then they might be the better choice!
It took me 3 divorces and years of turmoil to learn these valuable lessons:
- Don’t compromise quality because other people don’t understand worth.
- Marry someone with like values, not necessarily a like mind.
- Don’t date or marry someone you’ve already grown past and hope they will catch up.
Listen, relationships aren’t hard. Love it, change your attitude about it, or leave it. There are no other options!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!