I get this question often, “When should I speak up, and when should I just mind my own business?”
In fact, I often wonder that myself. As a coach, I’m almost always ready to jump in to help but is it always my business to do so?
I’ve discovered a sure fire way to know 100% of the time when you should speak up versus butting out….
Just ask!
I have adult children, so the opportunity to impart my own wisdom comes up often when I see my child struggling but I’ve learned that offering unsolicited advice is the best way to get someone to ignore it!
So now, I just ask if they want my help/advice/opinion.
If they say yes, then I give them my input.
If they say no, I leave it alone but let them know they are welcome to come to me if they need me.
During a conversation with my friend Carol (who inspired this post) she told me that someone once said to her, “You can listen to me with your head or your heart.”
I think that is a brilliant statement and I’ve tweaked it a little to use when you have to deliver UNsolicited advice because let’s face it, sometimes we just have to intervene:
“You can listen to me with your ego or your heart, but please know that I am giving my opinion because I care about you and wish the best for you.”
Your unsolicited advice will be more well received if you make your intentions clear in the beginning.
I can’t tell you how many kids believe their parents give advice to make their lives miserable and not because they actually care. Let them know you care!
Remember, the best advice is advice that is welcomed! 🙂
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Have a super week! Don’t forget to register for the upcoming 1 day relationship retreat at beautiful del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, NY!
“7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
If you NEVER said this again, you’d be happier and so would everyone else…
“Should.”
“You should….”
“I should…”
“He should have…”
Stop should-ing all over the place! Let’s face it, people don’t like being told what they should do. So when your best friend, or your spouse, or one of your kids needs advice or guidance leave the “should” out of it.
Instead try…
“If it were me, I might….”
“It’s up to you but you may want to consider…”
“What have you tried/considered so far?”
These types of statements offer support without judgment or condescension AND they empower the other person to come up with their own solutions!
And this will make you a rockstar communicator! 🙂
OMG…. I almost forgot!!! Guess what Thad and I have coming up in March?? A one day relationship retreat called “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!
We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!! Or hit reply to this email!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
OMG. Seriously… It seems the tagline “What happens in Vegas” really does bring out some horrendous behavior in people as Thad mentioned in the email last week! (Thank you Thad! <3)
I saw way too many boobs and even a penis when one guy just decided to whip it out as I walked to Starbucks one day! Gross.
Anyway, besides all the private parts, I also learned a ton of awesome stuff, and observed many things that inspired some good thoughts!
To keep this shorter than a book, I will just bullet point some stuff and feel free to Contact me!! if you’d like further information or clarification!
Mindset Tips:
- Action, not thought, will always bring more clarity.
- Righteousness doesn’t make you better, it only separates you from others.
- With smart phones everywhere… nothing truly “stays in Vegas!”
- Acknowledging your challenges is the first step to overcoming them.
- Do what’s good for your business, not your ego!
- If you can give, help, or serve… please do!
- Your body parts are NOT what make you appealing. Your heart and mind are.
- Be more interesting by being more interested in others.
- Trade your vision board for an “ACTION” board!
- Your kids will be as emotionally strong as you are!
- Never take your kids to Las Vegas unless you have to. And if you do, be ready to shield their eyes!
- Make a decision. Make a plan. Make it happen.
- “Busy” is not “Business.”
- Don’t wait to make a change in your life because you may miss the opportunity!
- ***Want to hang out with mindset masters? Contact me!!***
Business Tips:
- Keep going so when you do come up for air, you have something to celebrate!
- Don’t trade who you truly are, for what you want. Be who you are and the rewards will come.
- There is nothing comfortable about being broke.
- Do what’s good for your business, not your ego!
- The more you read, the more you grow!
- Step up your game by hanging out with people who have achieved more than you.
- It’s easier to make money when you have mentors or coaches.
- Knowing exactly “WHY” you want to succeed is FUEL for success!
- Wealth is having the freedom to do what you want, when you want, and where you want!
- Don’t work for money, work for purpose and the money will follow.
- Fire bad clients.
- You are only as good as your team.
- Never pre-judge a person on whether they will be interested, or able to afford your product or service.
- ***Want to take your business to the next level? Contact me!!***
Weight Loss Tips:
- Keep going so when you do come up for air, you have something to celebrate!
- Eat whats good for your body, not your mouth!
- Deep sleep plays a HUGE role in successful weight loss.
- Food effects mood.
- It is NOT hard to eat healthy while on vacation with the right system.
- The belly buster REALLY works to take inches off your belly! (Ask me about my weight loss system.)
- Lifting weights / resistance training helps you lose fat easier and faster.
- Avoid all you can eat buffets!! (I may have learned this one the hard way at the Bellagio!)
- You NEED a coach to hold you accountable.
- Intermittent fasting is excellent for fat loss, and internal detoxifying!
- Fat gets a bad rap, but it actually accrues to protect your body from toxins.
- Sweating doesn’t mean fat loss, it means water loss. You should be able to “talk” through your workouts without panting.
- Health depends more upon nutrition than it does exercise.
- 48% of adults do not get enough magnesium which supports nerve function, blood pressure, strong bones, and a steady heart beat.
- Diets do not work. Eating nutrient dense food does!
- Feel your soul more than you feed your body and you will lose weight.
- ***Want to lose weight with me? Contact me!!***
- JOIN ME FOR A FACEBOOK LIVE TONIGHT (TUESDAY, AUGUST 15TH) AT 7PM FOR MORE WEIGHT LOSS TIPS!!!
As you can see, I took a lot away from Las Vegas! Some good, some not so good, but ALL useful!
On a personal note…. I decided to walk everywhere instead of taking Uber and it was great exercise! My last day, I walked 9.2 miles in 108 degree weather!!
I went to a cocktail party in a new size 8 dress (high school size) and had dinner at the top of the Stratosphere in the revolving restaurant while bungee jumpers jumped off in front of us! Yikes!
I also got to see some amazing people… Tony Robbins, Flo Rida (rapper) and Montell Jordan (rapper)!!!
Life is truly as good as you decide it to be! Life happens… some good, some bad, but WE are always able to decide how we act, react, and interact with our world! Never let a tagline determine your behavior, choices, or life!
Questions? Contact me!!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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Getting your boss to pay your tuition for you!!
Many companies are beginning to see the importance of investing in their employees personal growth and development. I mean really….
Happy employees = Happy customers!
Since some of you have asked about material to present to your employer, we’ve put together packets that highlight the benefits of the Live Inspired Now Coach Training!
The professional packet includes an application with the option for your employer to pay your tuition, as well as a flyer, and a letter for your boss!
If you’d like a packet to present to your employer, please just hit reply to this email and give me your mailing address and or email address for a digital copy!
Enrollment for this session ends August 31st, or when we reach capacity of 30 students so please don’t wait!
We have a very strong network of students who are making massive changes in the lives of their patients, students, children, co-workers, clients, companies, as well their own lives as a result of this course, and we think you’d fit right in!
Just reply to this email and let us send you what you need to speak with your boss!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!