Nobody likes that person who is constantly correcting everyone. You know who I mean… the person at school or work who constantly tells you why you are wrong, or how you used improper grammar, or the irritating busy body who challenges everything you say. I often feel bad for people like that… they have this constant need to validate themselves by proving to themselves that they are right, or that they are smarter than others. It is a symptom of low self esteem because they require validation to feel good about themselves.
I like to tell my kids that right is right no matter who knows it, and it is (generally speaking) rude to correct people. Proving others wrong will never make you smarter, and it certainly won’t make you more popular. Teach kids to cherish relationships more than superficial validation and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Last week I inadvertently over-booked myself. Besides my regular work load of blog posting, course teaching, content creation, clients, and the 5 teenagers in the house, I also had 2 birthday parties, 1 anniversary, 1 marketing meeting, 1 scheduled talk with book signing, and 1 teleconference. All to be followed up by 3 days of a surprise vacation getaway for Thad and my 3rd wedding anniversary. It was a challenging week for sure, and I would LOVE to say that I handled it all with perfect grace, but alas, my human side kicked in and I allowed myself to feel overwhelmed for a few tense moments. Thank goodness I was able to put it all into perspective, detach from outcomes, and decided to just give it my best! And happily it all worked out. The best part, I took away some knowledge in surviving chaos!
The 5 lessons I learned from over-booking myself:
1 A life lived frantically is no fun:
I truly do not know how people maintain a frantic pace for long periods of time. Running here and there, always trying to reach that next goal or milestone, and feeling like life is a marathon. Living frantically like that makes you miss the little things, the finer moments, and the people we care about. Living frantically means doing more but living less. Our life is about our relationships, but how could we possibly enjoy them if we don’t stop and make time to cultivate them? Step away from the next project for a while and spend some time with the people you love.
2 Just because you scheduled it, doesn’t mean you have to do it:
Being someone who is hell bent on always being “loyal and reliable,” I am not the type of person to back out of a commitment. However…. there are times when have to just apologize and excuse yourself from something you said you would do. It’s OK, people will forgive you! Most importantly, forgive yourself! We have all bitten off more than we could chew at some point. Admit that you are overwhelmed, or need help, and move on.
3 If you have to “schedule” sleep, you are doing too much:
Sleep, relaxation, eating, and personal wellness should never need to be on the schedule in order to be prioritized. These are things that should be done daily, without having to work them in to your schedule. Create a routine around them if you have to, but don’t skip them because you didn’t schedule them. You are absolutely nothing without your own wellness, take care of you, so you can take care of all the other “stuff!”
4 When you absolutely cannot slow down….. SLOW DOWN!
If you can’t, then you must. I didn’t say you have to stop, just slow down. If you are driving your car faster, and faster, and faster…. you will eventually either get stopped and ticketed, or you will run out of gas, or even worse, cause an accident. Your best work is not done while barreling through life at 100 miles per hour. Slow down, take a breath, enjoy the view, then move on.
5 Give yourself something to look forward to:
This past week was hard, but I am really grateful for the anniversary getaway at the end of it all. If you don’t give yourself something to look forward to, then it hardly seems worth it all. How many times have you set a new goal after reaching the last one without any celebration between the two? Give yourself something to look forward to by HONORING yourself and your accomplishment!
I hope you are avoiding chaos, but when you absolutely have to participate in it, at least be sure you can survive and come out on the other side to Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Today is the trifecta of phenomenon with the full moon happening on “Friday the 13th” during a “Mercury retrograde!” Yikes!? Should we head for the hills, or stay inside with doors and windows locked? Will the “crazy’s” be out in droves today? What does it all mean? Please, allow me to tell you what it means!
It means, you either make excuses or make a life! Today, like yesterday, you have the choice to go out and do something amazing with your day! Or you can do nothing, have a terrible day, and blame it all on the full moon, the unlucky day, or on the planet Mercury moving a little slower! Today, like every day, you are still in control of your actions, reactions, and interactions with other people. Act responsibly, react compassionately, and interact kindly. There is no natural phenomenon that gives people an excuse to be a jerk!
So, if people are acting like jerks, or being a little crazy, just smile and wish them well! Like all days, today is full of love, light, happiness, joy, and limitless opportunities for whatever you wish to experience! Stay focused on the positive, enjoy the day, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Heather will be speaking at the Inspiring Confidence and Empowerment conference at Natur-Tyme in Syracuse, NY on Thursday, June 12, 2014, from 5:00 – 6:00pm.
Please join Heather for this engaging and witty talk about creating more happiness in your family. Heather talks about inspiration vs. motivation, the power of positivity, how to build self-esteem, and even how to communicate more confidently so people, even your kids, will listen!
Happiness, confidence, and laughter…. what more would you want in a one hour talk?
FREE to all but seating is limited! Call Natur-Tyme to reserve your seat: (315) 488-6300, or email at events@natur-tyme.com and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Maybe it really isn’t about the stress, chaos, or drama, rather it is about the way you carry it, or deal with it. Are you looking at all of your challenges with anger and resentment? What if you were to see them through the eyes of compassion, empowerment, or even detachment? Problems don’t have to break you! You know how you are supposed to “bend with your knees” and not your back when lifting something really heavy? When dealing with stressful situations, we need to remember that advice! We bend rather than break, and we use our strongest resources rather than constantly reaching for the easiest. It would be easy to just get angry all the time but that will eventually break us. Facing challenges with stronger tools such as compassion, or heart felt understanding isn’t always the easiest, but it is the best way to keep up from breaking!
Today, choose a better way to carry your burden until you can finally put it down, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!