Tired of the “ups and downs” in your relationship? Are you constantly out of balance? Does he threaten to leave while you beg “no-no-no” because you know you are going to fall hard? Or maybe you are wishing to get off the seesaw but you don’t want to drop him? It’s a vicious cycle until you decide to get OFF the ride and make changes in your relationship!
The first thing you need to do is communicate well. Talking isn’t enough. You have to know how to speak so your partner will really listen to what you have to say. Yelling, sarcasm, passive-aggressive, and ignoring are not forms of effective communication, they are however a great way to make your partner feel “unheard.”
The second thing you need is a purpose. All great relationships know what they are working toward. Unfortunately, most people just get together because “it feels good.” Well the feelings of “love” are not enough. You also need trust, respect, dedication, integrity, and a clear purpose.
The third thing you need is a plan for tough times. Nobody ever thinks they will have problems, or even break up, so they never have a plan in place for when things go to hell in a hand-basket! Life happens and if you expect it to always be perfect, you are setting yourself up for failure. Have some discussions about what to do in the event of an emergency, or who will make the final decision when you can’t agree on something. (My YOU’RE NOT MY REAL MOM! program has a family checklist that puts it all on paper so you can discuss and decide who is in charge of what. This program is really beneficial for ANY type of family!)
And lastly, you need someone to help you through all of this! If you are having challenges in your relationship and you want to try something that actually works, give me a call! Don’t spend years in couples counseling… it doesn’t work. I will teach you the tools to communicate effectively, help you find a purpose or create a family mission statement, and show you how to plan for the unexpected! I will also teach you how to feel like kids again without the games! You can have passion and excitement just like when you first fell in love! The only requirement is that you WANT to make changes. So get off the seesaw, contact me today, fix your relationship, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris heather@liveinspirednow.com
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Just in case you needed a little pick me up, this is it! You woke up today… so did billions of other people! That is something worth feeling grateful about! That is something worth celebrating even! In honor of life, do something FUN today! Get out of your head and get engaged in the real world around you! Smile at someone, flirt with the girl you have a crush on, send an email to an old friend that you miss, call your mother, pet kittens at the SPCA, go for a walk, send your husband a sexy text message, pack bagged lunches and deliver to a homeless person, start writing a book, close your eyes and take a deep breath, eat cake, or maybe just go spend a few quiet moments alone so you have the courage to do any of these things.
Just live, experience life, and stop being afraid to LOVE. You are here for a reason, you might not even know your own purpose and that is OK. Have faith, be grateful for another day to discover your purpose, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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Getting divorced? Getting re-married? Or maybe you are already a “step” family and you are ready to throw it all away because your family is not functioning well? HELP HAS ARRIVED!!! I just released my new program: You’re Not My Real Mom; Proven strategies for the success of your blended family and it is awesome!
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“You’re Not My Real Mom” is truly a must buy if you are in ANY kind of family! I don’t know of any other program out there that can cover issues like she does…it’s as if she knows your family’s issues personally. Not only is it helpful and full of really practical information, but Heather’s teaching style is fun and makes it easy to learn! I will recommend this program to any of my friends who decide to get remarried so they can have the best possible start to creating a happy, healthy, step family!” -Heather Westover-Petruzzi; NY
“Heather was my coach before I started the course so I already knew it would be good before I started. Although not everything was directly relevant to me now (as am just post divorce) I found it useful getting an overview of situations and how to handle them before I find myself in that position. A large portion of the info was very relevant regardless of marital situation though – thanks again Heather!” -TM; Israel
“The most important thing I learned is to communicate with your children and spouse, and spouses children to help the kids through any transition and so you and your spouse have the same idea when it comes to each other’s kids.” -MR; PA
Do not wait another moment before getting your family back on track! Your family CAN be happy, healthy, and functional… no matter what type of family you are! Check out the new course… you will be very HAPPY that you did!
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Recently a Facebook fan made a remark about my “perfect life,” and how easy it would be to be happy and inspired if they had such a perfect life too. Really? Me? Perfect life? Not so much! So I took this picture to show you how I am feeling today in particular. I have a summer cold. I have no make up on. My hair is frizzy. And today, I am fighting the urge to just go back to bed!
It is absolutely true that on Facebook, I post only positively motivated posts. I don’t like to share anything negative because I believe in the Law of Attraction which teaches us that what we put out into the world is what we get back. So yes, I am very careful about posting anything negative but that doesn’t mean that I am 100% positive and happy at all times. Far from it in fact, I get pissed off, irritated, and down right cranky sometimes…. BUT I refuse to LIVE there! I refuse to spend too much time in any one negative emotion such as sadness, anger, self-doubt or fear. When I have these feelings, I allow myself to feel them, work out WHY I am feeling them, process through the feeling, then let it go. If I wanted to hold onto it, I would refuse to acknowledge how I really feel, never figure out the real reason for feeling that way, and then post all over Facebook about how crappy I felt. Then, I could commiserate with tons of people who also wallow in self-pity! But that is just not my style!
So instead, I only post happy thoughts, positive posts, and I do my best to inspire others. No, I won’t complain about the huge pile of dirty laundry in my room, or the cranky teenager that was just snarky to me, or trying to figure out how to manage the schedules for 6+ people all summer, or the non stop driving for Mom’s Taxi service because none of my kids have drivers licenses yet, and no, I won’t even complain about the never-ending projects involved in getting our new home renovated. But know this…. just because I don’t complain about things doesn’t mean my life is perfect. It does however mean that I will continue to choose to focus on what I am grateful for, and for the fact that I woke up today!
I don’t live my life in ball gowns and glass slippers. I live my life one moment at a time, doing the best I can, and making the most of it! I am grateful for magic moments, date nights, and laughs. I am also grateful for the hardships because it gives me the opportunity to be resilient, and to appreciate the good times! So please, don’t ever think that my life is perfect…. my life is just like yours. In fact, don’t think anyone else has a perfect life… life isn’t about being perfect. It’s about connecting with others, being happy, and loving.
It’s all in what you choose to focus on, and devote your time to. Give your time to things that make you feel good, focus on the positive, get through the negative and move past it, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Wow! This has been quite the week… my 19 year old daughter Madison jumped out of a plane at 10,000 feet above the earth! I have felt relatively weird ever since. I have been a roller coaster of emotions since she landed safely, but what exactly have I been emotional about? I wasn’t quite sure at first, it took me a couple of days of reflection to really get to the root of what was going on. It had nothing to do with fear, in fact, I was completely relaxed and confident when she jumped. I knew without a doubt that not only would she be fine, but she would truly love the experience and be better for having done it.
So what was going on with my emotions? There were a couple of different things going on. First, was the sheer awe that I felt, that it was ME that created such a kick ass kid. I kept thinking back to when she was born and my life at the time was pure chaos and fear. As a young mother of 22 and married to an alcoholic, I really had no clue what I was doing. I think I was a pretty decent mom giving the circumstances I had created for myself, but I fell short often. I was so far from perfect, yet I raised this amazing young woman. I am grateful that she is making healthy choices for her life, and even more grateful that she and I are so very close.
The second thing I was feeling pretty emotional about was seeing Madison live life through the fear instead of letting it hold her back. Most people will never jump out of a plane and that is OK. But too many people will let other fears rule their life. Things like staying stuck in a crappy job they hate because they are too afraid to look for something else. Or people who are too afraid to love because they are stuck in the loss that they once felt. Or the people who resign themselves to mediocre living because they are too afraid to take a risk, or be judged by others. I was one of those people when I was Madison’s age and I now wonder what potential I might have had if I had a Mom like myself to encourage me to take life by the balls! Don’t get me wrong, my parents were not bad parents or people, but they were, and are, very different than me. I wonder if I would have been like Madison… brave.
I told you it was quite the week! lol. I am grateful for who I am today. I am grateful that I wasn’t brave back then because I might not have Madison now! I am grateful that I did discover my personal power and freedom.
Are you still struggling? Have you decided to take life by the balls yet? You might not want to jump out of a plane, but you CAN step outside of the box and create a freakin’ awesome life for yourself, no matter what age you are now! You CAN also “re-parent” yourself. That is to say that you can change how you feel about something that happened when you were a young person. Your “inner child” is still within you, and you can help her/him heal. You can parent you own inner child in able to let go of the past that is holding you back today.
Take a look at the things you are too afraid to do today. Trace them back to the original incident that created the fear. Then have a conversation with yourself about that incident and what it meant. Tell your younger self that is OK, you are allowed to process the feelings, and then let go of them. Tell your younger self that you are allowed to release the pain it caused. Spend some time really nurturing your younger self. Cry, laugh, yell, or do whatever comes to you… then heal.
If you need help letting go of the past that is holding back your present, please reach out to me today. Don’t let another day, week, year, decade go by without truly living and loving life and all it has to offer. Life can be SO magical when you are brave enough to take some risks and step into your own greatness. Get past your past, reach out today, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!