You can’t over-communicate. ALMOST ALL PROBLEMS WITHIN RELATIONSHIPS ARE DUE TO LACK OF, OR INEFFECTUAL COMMUNICATION. If you are afraid to talk about it, then you HAVE TO.
Everyone thinks they know how to communicate. You just open your mouth and talk right? NO, it requires far more than that. For example, sarcasm, yelling, belittling, accusing, passive-aggressive, omission, shaming, blaming, and guilting, are all forms of communication that are not helpful!
There are far better ways to communicate your message so that people will hear, respond, and appreciate what you have to say…. even your teenagers!!! I would love to help you learn to communicate in a more effective way! From sparking confidence speaking to your boss, to getting your spouse to truly hear and respond to what you have to say…. it is EASY once you have the right tools! Contact me today, learn to communicate your way to success, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Nobody likes that person who is constantly correcting everyone. You know who I mean… the person at school or work who constantly tells you why you are wrong, or how you used improper grammar, or the irritating busy body who challenges everything you say. I often feel bad for people like that… they have this constant need to validate themselves by proving to themselves that they are right, or that they are smarter than others. It is a symptom of low self esteem because they require validation to feel good about themselves.
I like to tell my kids that right is right no matter who knows it, and it is (generally speaking) rude to correct people. Proving others wrong will never make you smarter, and it certainly won’t make you more popular. Teach kids to cherish relationships more than superficial validation and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Books have the power to transform lives but you have to read them for them to work! Don’t be so easily “entertained” by the television, open a book instead! I am actually reading 6 books right now. I am reading 4 which I use as references for the course I am teaching about step families. The other 2 books are audios: 1 that I listen to at the gym on my iPhone, and the other I listen to in the car because it is on CD.
Here is the list of my current reading:
Reading for FUN:
Outwitting The Devil by Napolean Hill
Your Kids Are Your Own Fault by Larry Winget
Reading for research:
Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Isolina Ricci
The Secrets Of Happy Families by Bruce Feiler
Joint Custody With A Jerk by Julie Ross and Judy Corcoran
Co-Parenting With A Toxic Ex by by Amy Baker and Paul Fine
I often hear people “say” they want to make changes, or “say” they want to better themselves, or “say” they want to make things work out, but I don’t “see” them taking action. All the answers to all the problems that anyone faces, are available in books! In addition to my extensive coaching programs, I often “prescribe” books to my clients. My best selling book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness, is always first on the list! 🙂 If you would like to start to transform YOUR life, please pick up a copy today: http://liveinspirednow.com/the-book/
*Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness has an extensive bibliography that lists all of my favorite transformational books, and movies!*
Don’t wish for a new life, create one, start with a great book, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
“Hey Heather-
My daughter is very sensitive. It’s such a scary world, and I can see why she gets overwhelmed. I have encouraged her to cry, talk about her feelings, and even make her sit with me each day after school to allow her to let go of all the negative emotions. She loves this time together but it seems like she never gets relief from it. Any suggestions?”
-Mom to very sensitive 12-year-old
Dear Mom,
It sounds like you might be helping her a little too much. It is great that you are there for your daughter, but it sounds like she is getting more enjoyment from all the attention over being sensitive. I don’t know the language you are using with her, but be very matter of fact when you speak with her about her feelings. Parents sometimes “lead” the conversation and talk the kids into feeling a certain way. For example: if you daughter says someone called her a name, don’t say “oh that must have made you feel so bad,” or “I am so sorry that happened to you, that is despicable and you should not have to tolerate such behavior!” This only tells her that she SHOULD feel badly, when she may have only felt irritated but moved on from it.
Instead, just ask her how SHE felt. If she says “hurt,” then hug her and let her know it’s OK to feel hurt, and it’s OK to move past it too! Also remind her, that other people may have opinions about her, but that doesn’t make them true.
Here is an antidote I like to use with my own kids and my clients:
Are you green? Is your skin color green? No, there is no debating that, so you don’t have to be offended. In fact, it’s rather funny if someone called you green because it makes no sense. Why then would it bother you if someone called you “dumb?” Are you dumb? NO! So you can laugh at that funny statement too!
Mom, stop focusing so much on the negative emotions she is feeling and start asking her “what’s good?” Turn her focus to the positive things that happen each day, let her express feelings then move on, and use matter of fact language without putting your own emotion into it. Go spend some time with your daughter having some fun and laughing…. and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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Does any of this sound familiar:
“She puts the kids first and I always feel unsupported.”
“He still caters to his ex wife and it really pisses me off!”
“I really want my step kids to love me and it seems like no matter what I do, they just don’t care about me.”
“I feel like I need to discipline his kids too, but he won’t let me!”
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!