The only people we should be saving is ourselves, we need to take responsibility and handle our “shit.” I often see people “play the victim” so they can get attention or because they don’t want to invest their own time into solving a problem so they look to someone else to “rescue” them. You don’t need rescuing, you need empowerment! Put on your big girl panties and tiara and take care of your business! It is great to get help when you truly need it but to constantly rely on others to take care of you is a disservice to yourself. Let this become your mantra: “I can handle it!” There is nothing YOU can’t handle….. just stop telling yourself that you can’t. You are Queens (and Kings) and can take on anything! When you are confident and strong and take care of yourself, you attract others like that too. You can always find someone to take care of you, but that will not be a high quality relationship. Build a strong connection by being someone who can also take care of their partner when necessary. A successful relationship means that you each put the others needs first. A person who only gives will eventually get sick of giving all the time and a taker will eventually get bored with the giver. Be someone who is happy alone but loves being together. Be strong, be confident, be loving and kind, empower yourself and build strong, healthy relationships, proudly wear your tiara and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
There is something romantic about things whispered softly in your ear. The other night, Thad and I were settling in for the evening. We had spent the entire day working hard cleaning, painting, and removing carpets at the new house and we were both exhausted. We have no furniture in the new house yet so we just have a mattress on the floor but we have a spectacular view! So from our mattress we laid there and watched the stars and listened to the water and peepers. Just as I was half way between consciousness and sleep, Thad whispered something really sweet in my ear! It was so romantic and sweet and created a magic moment that I will never forget! It doesn’t have to be any specific time of day, but today, whisper something really touching in your lovers ear. Go with something really mushy and sweet and see how your lover responds. Loving whispers go straight to the heart. Speak to your lovers heart, make them feel so completely important and love and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
The inability to learn is not a disability, the refusal to learn is a disability. People who think they know it all and have nothing to learn from others have a disability called ego. You can always be open to learning new things, you don’t have to believe them, but be open to observation. My brother in law posted this morning about a football player that was entering the draft. The sports commentator said that he had some talents but was seriously disadvantaged because he would not listen to other people, he was very cocky and felt like he didn’t need to learn anything else. My brother in law called this a learning disability and I thought about how profound that statement was.
I work with many kids that have “learning disabilities” but are willing to learn. I think the only true disability is the unwillingness to learn, grow or evolve beyond what you already are. The only thing “stupid” is thinking you are smart enough, or smarter than everyone else.
So today, put ego aside, know that you are not done learning until you are done living. Empower yourself through humility and a willingness to listen, observe, and learn. Encourage children to master skills and get excited about new things. Drop the debilitating ego, grow beyond your circumstances, be open to new things and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Whenever Thad goes away for business, we always write one another love letters. In the beginning of our relationship, before we lived together, we wrote love letters each night. It was a beautiful way to express our love and gratitude for one another and to keep our relationship as our top priority. Make time each day to express your love to one another. People get so caught up in the day to day routine that they often just forget to prioritize their lover. Relationships are whats truly important in life, don’t put them second, third or even worse… last. If you are not happy with your partner, spouse, or lover, it makes everything else feel bad too. How AMAZING would you feel to receive a heartfelt love letter from your significant other? Why not write one to them and make them feel amazing too! It has to start somewhere…. so today, write a love letter to your partner. Express your feelings, thoughts, and emotions…. be as mushy as you can! Put it on paper, in an email or even a text, it doesn’t have to be long… but let your loved one know how special they are! See how if effects your relationship when you continue to let the other person know how special they are to you!
Ohhh….. try sticking a love letter in your partners pant pocket or lunch bag to find later! FUN! I try to hide little love reminders all over for Thad to find. He has them hanging in his office, the home office, next to his side of the bed, in his truck and other places as well! I always want my man to be reminded of my love and devotion for him, and let him know that HE is the most important thing in my entire life! He does the same for me! So don’t forget to write your love letters today… be romantic, open your heart, have fun with it and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Unless you are a fireman, EMT worker, police man or other type of first responder, you should not be “rescuing” people. People don’t need to be saved or rescued. They need to save themselves, and most times they do that only by hitting rock bottom. I think this might be why coaching works so well because coaches don’t enable, they empower. People need to learn how to empower themselves to make changes that will create a life they love. You don’t get the chance to do that if someone is “saving” you every time you fall. Just the way a baby would never learn to walk if you scooped him up after his first fall. People make mistakes and the best thing we can do is to let people learn from them. It is not your job to fix, save, or rescue another person. It is wonderful and lovely to help people, but if you are “helping” them with the same thing over and over, you are enabling them. People are not projects, they need love and kindness but it is up to them to create or re-create their own lives. I learned this lesson many times over in my life. It is noble to want to help others, it is selfish and unrealistic to think you are their savior.
Look at the people in your life. Are they people that should be in your life? There is a difference between being friendly and being friends. Be “friendly” to everyone, but be “friends” with those people who are like minded and who will not take advantage of you or abuse your friendship. Learn and live the difference, inspire and empower but do not enable, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
