As long as you continue to look for people to “make you happy” you will continue to be unhappy. Relationships that exist to serve your needs will fail. If you are looking for the person to take care of you, to complete you, to make you happy, to motivate you, to love you, to provide for you, to raise your kids, or to make you happy, you will not find them. YOU have to be a whole person in order to have a healthy, happy relationship.
Love is about giving, not receiving. Everyone thinks you fall in love… not true; you decide to love. You make the choice to love another person. Love is an action, it is something you decide to do and sometimes that means making hard decisions that don’t seem to work in your favor. Love isn’t staying and tolerating abuse. Love isn’t pushing people away or checking out of the relationship. Love isn’t just about staying together. In fact, sometimes love means going your separate ways. Love is putting the needs of the person you love first…. even if it means leaving. Love isn’t about having control over another person. Love wants the other person to be free and freely love back. Love is unselfish.
Love is unconditional; tolerance is not. Even with children…. you can love them but you never have to allow abuse of any kind. You are accountable for what you continue to put up with. There are no awards in life for the person who puts up with the most amount of bullshit. It is OK to put distance between yourself and a person who is abusive…. even if it’s your child. You teach people how to treat you by what you put up with. Never accept abuse for yourself and never abuse another person.
Love is a wonderful thing, but make sure you know what it really is. It is not about control, it is not about monitoring one another, it is not about pointing out each others flaws, it is not name calling, it is not manipulative, it is not painful, it is not a trap, it is not something to be used against one another. Love is simple, beautiful, selfless, compassionate, and kind. Love is giving without expectations in return. Love is not about doing whats easy, it’s about doing whats right for one another.
Are you really “loving” your partner? Are you putting their needs first? Are you making an attempt to understand and be compassionate? Are you looking at the role you have played in the challenges you face? Are you quick to point out the others faults without considering your own? Are you ready and willing to truly LOVE without conditions? Think about love today and make any changes you think might help your relationship and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Don’t forget to take some “ME” time to replenish yourself. School is ending for most people, summer is here and things are ’bout to get crazy!’ lol. I don’t know about you but the past 2 weeks have been a complete whirlwind for us! Our family traveled to Rhode Island for my oldest daughter and nephews graduations. My daughter also enlisted in the Air Force while we were there. My 11 year olds are about to turn 12 and they just graduated from elementary school. We have another graduation this week as well as packing, painting, and moving to the new house. Our dog also had surgery so we are helping him recover through all the chaos! Oh my goodness…… it is a very busy summer so far and it just got started! Personally, I thrive in chaos but if you are the type who needs more certainty or routine, this can feel extremely overwhelming which is why it’s so important to take “ME” time!
Thad and I are remembering to take time for ourselves. Thad’s birthday was this past weekend as well as our wedding anniversary. We made time to celebrate our special day with an overnight getaway and a romantic dinner cruise. You have to make time for yourself to get away and replenish.
It is vitally important to “fill your cup” and let everyone else have what flows over the edge… everything inside is for YOU. If you don’t replenish, you will feel drained and taken advantage of. If you don’t reconnect as a couple, you will feel distant and lonely. You have to make ME/US time always…. a few minutes every single day, a few hours per week and a few days per month.
Today, the 3 Goddesses are having a special broadcast about “ME time!” We will be on spreecast today at 12:00 eastern, please join us. You will learn the benefits of taking time for yourself as well as HOW to make time for yourself with a hectic schedule. So today, please join us, learn how to make “ME” time for yourself and Live Inspired Now!
If you can’t make it today at noon, please click the link anytime after the broadcast and you can watch the replay!
‘We are bringing ME TIME back’ with the 3 Goddesses on Spreecast!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
If you make a decision, give yourself permission to be OK with what you have decided. If you are in turmoil over your decision, that may be an indication that you made the wrong choice. You can always make a new choice but when you do, allow yourself to accept it and move forward. Don’t stay in a bad relationship because you are unwilling to make a decision. Don’t settle for what you don’t want because you are afraid to speak up. Don’t teach your kids to live small by your example because you are afraid to shine your own light. Stop putting off decisions because you are afraid. Make a decision and be OK with it, right or wrong. Sometimes even the wrong decisions we make, lead us to better things. So today, make some decisions and make peace with them. If you make the wrong choice, change it and keep moving forward. Life happens… right or wrong, good or bad… so make peace with it, realize everything will turn out OK in the end and Live Inspired Now!
( In summary: Chill the frig out! lol )
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Being grateful is wonderful, expressing your gratitude is even better! Let people know how much they mean to you and how grateful you are for having them in your life. Let your clients/customers know how much you appreciate them. Thank your parents for all that they did to raise you. Thank the store clerk, waitress, gas attendant, hair dresser, and all service providers for the work they have done. Expressing your gratitude reminds people that they are important, some people really need this! It also allows you to do something nice for people by sharing the gift of thanks and gratitude! The more grateful you are, the more you will have to be grateful for! So today, don’t forget to let everyone know that you appreciate them and Live Inspired Now!
PS: I am so grateful for all my amazing friends! I am grateful for my clients! I am grateful for this blog which allows me to inspire others. I am grateful for my readers and fans… you guys keep me motivated and inspired! I am grateful for my great kids who make me smile. I am grateful for my parents who were strict yet loving and gave me a good sense of being. I am super grateful for my husband Thad who is my best friend and soul mate and who inspires me every day!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
If you woke up today, then you definitely have something to celebrate! Life isn’t just about going, doing and accomplishing. It is about enjoying, being, and celebrating what you are grateful for. The more you are grateful for, the more you will have to be grateful for and the more you celebrate, the more you will have to celebrate. Gratitude is a habit created when you practice celebrating and appreciating life. Celebrate everything…. waking up, having a job, your kids report card, losing a couple of pounds, getting good news, feeling healthy, milestones, love, anniversaries, birthdays, half birthdays, friendships, etc. You don’t have to throw an expensive party to ‘celebrate.’ There are many ways to celebrate… take a day off, pamper yourself, make a special dinner, have a glass of wine, make a toast, get an ice cream, take the kids to the park, have tea with friends, and laugh, etc.
Just be sure to make time to celebrate life and all that you are. If you are not taking time out to celebrate and enjoy, then why bother? Celebrate something today and every day and Live Inspired Now!
PS: Please join my friends and I for a free spreecast talk about Celebrations today at 11:00am eastern: We’ll give you something to CELEBRATE!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
