The most important thing you can ever have as a parent is a good relationship with your child. Talk to them, kick their butts when they need it, laugh with them, ground them, eat dinner with them, listen to them, encourage them, smile at them, compliment their art and craft creations, allow them to be open and honest and you do the same, set boundaries, be a good example, get to know their friends, celebrate their accomplishments, reward their kindness, act goofy together, tell them you love them, hug them before they leave each day, check up on them, watch their games, empower them to make good choices, give them responsibilities, tell them they are beautiful/handsome, but most of all, always be present and available. When all is said and done… all that really matters is that you have a relationship with your child and that relationship lasts into adulthood. Being a parent is not easy and often our kids don’t like our decisions but in the long run they know you are just looking out for their best interest. My daughter Mattie told me yesterday that she was glad she didn’t have facebook or a cell phone anymore because it forced to her to not participate in the teenage drama that all girls her age are drawn in to. It gives her an “out” from the drama and she can “blame” us for it although she is actually grateful. Kids need boundaries and even if they don’t seem to appreciate them, they do, because it takes a great deal of pressure off of them. Don’t be afraid to make the tough parenting decisions, to dish out consequences for bad behavior, or to get your child help if he or she needs it. Parenting is challenging but the reward is a healthy adult that brings grand babies or even grand fur babies home to visit. 🙂 So today, talk to your children, you didn’t raise them to ignore them, spend some quality time, be the example of a healthy, happy adult and Live Inspired Now!
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Don’t be afraid of feeling lost or down. Rock bottom is most often the starting point to awesomeness! Nobody ever makes changes when things are OK or when you are not in crisis even though you may feel uninspired or stuck in the mundane. People make changes when things “get bad” or when they get to a point where they say “I can’t stand it anymore… things need to change now!!!”
Sometimes, hitting rock bottom is a gift, it gives you the opportunity to recreate your life the way you want it! Take advantage of it today! Recreate your life, learn from the lessons of hardship, start over with better choices and Live Inspired Now!
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Every painful emotion that is not faced in childhood can become a huge problem in adulthood. It either causes a child to build a wall or to suppress emotions which create painful scars that are stimulated by events throughout the rest of a child’s life. A child living in a home where the parents fight and are unhappy shows the same symptoms of stress and trauma as a child who was raised in a war torn nation. The best thing you can do for a child like this is to encourage them to discharge their feelings, otherwise those feelings become the basis for their choices later in life. They may become emotionally unavailable, abusive, victims of abuse, or even lonely because the walls erected prevent them from getting close to anyone. Be there for a child, listen to them, and allow them to say whatever it is they need to say. Encourage them to be open and honest and say even the “scary things.” This amount of honesty will create a deeper bond between you but it will also validate the child’s feelings so that they can move past them. Some children may be ashamed of their feelings but letting them know that it is OK to have emotions and to talk about how they feel can put them at ease. Most people are more afraid of the feelings they have MORE than what actually created the feelings.
So today, start building a habit of openness with your child, encourage honest communication, raise kids that become healthy adults, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Do something nice for yourself today! We should treat ourselves much better than we often do. We need to take time to “treat” ourselves. That may mean taking a break to relax, getting a massage, taking a day off, stopping for a sweet treat or drink, taking a walk outdoors, or maybe for you it means saying something nice to yourself. Today, do something kind for yourself, give yourself a treat and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
How do YOU get into the water? Do you take the plunge and dive right in? Do you dip your big toe in and complain about how cold it is? Do you get only your lower half in and walk around on tip toes shivering? Do you jump in like a cannon ball trying to make the biggest splash? Do you try to dive in with the perfect form of an Olympic diver and then judge your dive? Or do you just sit on the side and watch everyone else having fun?
Does the way you get into the water reflect the way you approach life? Are you willing to jump right into new things? Do you resist change and complain about it? Do you do things halfway then wonder why they don’t work? Do you need to let everyone know what you are doing and get their attention? Do you aim to be perfect and constantly judge yourself? Do you refuse to get involved in anything new?
The way you get into the water may not be the same way you approach life but if it is…. are you OK with it? Change is a part of life, think about how you handle it and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
