Life is as simple as you will let it be. The most profound things in nature happen effortlessly, without worry, anxiety, stress or misery. Grass grows, trees reach out their branches, wind blows, snow falls, gardens grow, flowers bloom, seasons change, things are born, things die and it is all done without any thought or worry… it is just nature. We too are part of nature yet we complicate everything with thoughts about what will be or what has been. When we live in each individual moment and decide to truly enjoy it, we can live more effortlessly. If you can’t enjoy the present moment you are in, you have two other choices. Either do something else or decide to accept it and know that it will not last.
Today, participate in the moment, forget the past and don’t obsess on the future, know that life will work out exactly how it is supposed to, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Too many people are focused on what they are NOT getting in life rather than what they can give. If you give what you want, you will also receive it. I get calls/emails daily from people who want me to fix their significant other because he or she is not giving them what they need. Rarely does anyone ever call and say “I think I need to consider my partners needs more in order to strengthen our relationship, can you help me?” I have been talking about self awareness for a month now and I just can’t state it enough. The more self aware you become, the more focused on giving and the more you can practice non reaction, the more fulfilling life will become. If you give love you feel love, if you give compassion you feel compassion, if you cause drama you feel drama and if you spread hate, you feel hatred. It really is that simple.
If your partner is acting badly, think about what they might be dealing with, try to be compassionate and keep your cool. (We are talking about normal upset or angry reactions, NOT abuse. Abuse is never OK.) Wait until the storm passes then talk to your partner, find out why they are upset and give them time to express their feelings without internalizing it, without assuming you are the cause. Most disagreements or misunderstandings stem from one person taking offense to their partners feelings. Feelings are valid but do some work and figure out where they actually come from rather than “blaming” everyone else. We all have the choice to act or react to every moment. Don’t be so unaware that you just assume everything is about you. Focus on what you can give to your relationship and to the world while remembering to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is also doing good for others because you are setting a good example as well as making your environment more pleasant which makes it easier for you to continue to focus on doing more good! The cycle of altruism is one of the best gifts you could ever give to the world! So today, focus on giving what you want to the world, become more self aware and evolved and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Drama is highly addictive and can cause real problems in life. Drama is the need to turn everything into something huge to satisfy a large need for significance. We all know the people who turn mole hills into mountains. The people who stub their toe and it turns into the worst injury in the history of the planet, in fact “the doctor has never ever seen anything like THIS!” Or how about the person who knows everything about everyone…. perhaps you contact this person when you have news to share because you know if you tell her that she will let EVERYONE else know! Or perhaps you know someone who start arguments in their relationship because they are bored or unhappy.
All of these things are “drama” and can become addictive. Drama can make you feel important because you are getting all the attention. It also gives you a sense of adventure because of the heightened emotions and adrenaline. It also makes you feel connected to the people who buy into your drama and you feel secure knowing that you have others hooked. This is enough to create a serious addiction to drama. It is no different than getting your needs met by a drug and it creates damaging habits that stimulate brain chemicals that create that “drama high.”
Become self aware and stop the drama! Find ways to feel important through acts of kindness or altruism. Create bonds that don’t rely on manipulation or drama to stay together. Build your relationship on peace, love and giving to one another. Meet your need for adventure through healthy activities like exercise, hiking or something fun that you don’t often do. You could also kill your TV. Television, especially reality TV, is the king of drama. It sensationalizes life and gives you a false sense of reality which can make you feel like your own life is uneventful.
So think about it… do you know anyone who is addicted to drama? If you don’t know anyone at all… is it you? Kill the drama, create real relationships and bonds, find healthier choices and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Money is an awesome tool and it allows you to do many things that you can’t do without it. However, it will never buy you feelings of happiness or put you at peace. Peace and happiness come purely from within. No amount of porcelain figurines, dainty rose teacups, sports memorabilia, primitives, or new furnishings will make you happy. Your happiness depends 100% upon your choice to be or not to be. Our country is inundated with plastic crap made in foreign countries that we think we need yet, people remain “unhappy.” We all like to have nice things and there is nothing wrong with that but know that those things are just that… things. They possess no powers to make us happy, no peace making abilities and certainly don’t do anything to change your station in life. Shopping is not therapeutic; there is nothing you can buy that will make you happy. So today, instead of shopping for more things to dust off, take a walk in nature, meditate, smile for no reason, focus on all the things you already possess within and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Be content with what you have even if you want more. Contentment is about being happy where you are with what you have. Part of that contentment is being OK with where you are on your journey. You might want to go further or get more in life but be content with what you have at the moment. For example, I am working towards getting my book published as well as working on a few other new projects yet each day, I am completely content where I am in the process. Life is about the journey not just the destination. Be content along every step of the way, live and enjoy every moment! So today, don’t focus as much on “getting” or “arriving,” rather enjoy each and every moment and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
