Recently someone was telling me about a harsh email they received and asked me to read it to see what I thought. I read it and thought it was perfectly fine, not harsh at all. I let them know that I didn’t think it was harsh but by the time they passed it around to at least 10 other people and got everyone else all riled up about it… they got what they were looking for. They were not looking for opinions, they were looking for validation. They wanted this email to be “harsh” because they had already decided they didn’t like the woman who sent it. In creating this drama that wasn’t really there, a person got their ego boosted, friends got to participate in tearing a person down, and the “harsh” email writer probably felt badly that her email was met with contention. Don’t just be careful about how YOU type or respond to people, also be careful how YOU read and hear people. Are you really reading a harsh email or is it just professional and to the point? Are you perpetuating drama by forwarding it to all of your friends and looking to have your malice validated? Think, type and read with compassion, don’t be so quick to judge the “voice tones” of the written word. Even if it is something mean spirited, harsh or meant to hurt, try to blow it off because it means they have the problem, not you. Don’t lower your standards, stay calm, take a deep breath, ignore and avoid drama and negativity and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Yesterday I was offline because I bought a new laptop and Thad had to transfer all my info over from the old laptop. The process took longer than anticipated so I was without my laptop for most of the day. At first I was a little anxious about being disconnected until I realized that I had an entire day untethered from my constant distraction! It was sort of exciting and as silly as it sounds, I felt FREE! I went to the gym, went to lunch with my husband, practiced piano then went to my lesson, mowed the lawn, meditated, mailed packages and even took a little walk. It felt great to not worry about checking emails, facebook, tweets, and instant messages. I think I forgot what it was like to be “offline.” (I did have my iPhone with me the entire time, but I made a point not to check it.)
Do you need a break from the computer? Personally, I do most of my work online with clients so I couldn’t go too long without it, but I think we all need a break from it once in a while. So if not today, at least plan a day to be “offline.” Take a break from the online distraction, do things in “real life” and Live Inspired Now.
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
A few days ago I picked up my bestie Dawn to give her a ride to pick up her car at the repair shop. As is always the case with her and I, we took the long way and stopped for tea and did some shopping. I was really excited to talk to her, I was having a super great day full of good news and exciting new things. Which included, THIS blog being added to my local newspaper The Citizen.
After, laughing, shopping, getting caught up on events in our lives and more laughing, it was time to part ways. (I truly don’t understand why we are not comedians, we are hysterical… at least WE think so!) We hugged as we always do and I said “Hanging with you was the best part of my day!” Knowing what a great day I had, she stated, “well not the best part.” I stopped, looked at her and said, “Yes, yes it was. None of my good news matters at all if I don’t have anyone to share it with.” She “awwwed” and we both went on our way.
As I was driving home, I thought more about this simple yet profound concept. Isn’t it true that the things in our lives matter because we can share the excitement with someone. I would still be happy alone, but it would be far less exciting without someone to share the news with. I am so very blessed and grateful that I have such good relationships in my life. Friends, family, kids, colleagues, mentors, coaches and of course my amazing husband Thad. It is really true…. the quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships. If you are struggling with the stress of strained relationships, get help today, don’t wait! Do YOU have someone really important to share all your news with? Today, upgrade your relationships, make sure they are healthy and happy and Live Inspired Now!
PS: I am a relationship expert! If you need help creating or recreating bonds in your life, don’t wait, connect with me today!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
I love this quote by Basil King: “Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.” I often take bold steps and encourage others to do the same. Bold is subjective, so use your own sense to gauge the “boldness” of what you are doing. My son Harry thinks I am bold because of my “why not” attitude. He recently said to me that he loved how I always say “why not” when he asks about trying something new. I encourage everyone to ask for things they think they won’t get because sometimes just being bold enough to ask is enough to get a yes instead of a no. For example, I have taught my kids to talk to their teachers and see if they can work out deals at school. A couple years ago, Harry was falling behind in his science class and I encouraged him to talk to the teacher about doing an extra credit art project to improve his grade. Although he didn’t think she would say yes, he spoke with her and she agreed to let him do some art work for her and she boosted his grade. On another occasion, Harry had his art work displayed in a museum because I was bold enough to ask that they consider his work despite his age. To this day, Harry is the only child artist that was included in one of their exhibits.
I can’t tell you how many wonderful things have happened in my life because I was bold enough to simply ask. These include: jobs, speaking engagements, raises, and other opportunities. Don’t just seek opportunities, create them! So today, be bold and allow the mighty Universe to align for you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
