My12 year old Carrie had a friend over recently to spend the night. After returning Carries friend back home, her mom texted me to tell me that her daughter said of her visit: “I love how in love Thad and Heather are!” How sweet is it that a 12 year old young lady can appreciate a couple in love. It warmed my heart and of course got me thinking….
I spent years as a single mother, my kids never really got to see me in a relationship until a few years ago when Thad and I got together. I am so grateful to be an example of how to have a loving, compassionate, unselfish relationship for my kids.
If you are in a bad relationship, SO ARE YOUR KIDS! They hear, see, feel, and will emulate the relationship you model for them. Be sure that the relationship you have, is one that you would be OK with your kids having. Teach your children to have passion and be compassionate.
Set an example of passion by hugging, kissing, holding hands, smiling, laughing and sitting close or snuggling with one another. It is wonderful for kids to watch their parents happy!
Set an example of compassion by putting your spouses needs first, forgiving mistakes, avoid fighting, and speaking kindly to one another, and about one another.
Pass down the joy and happiness in your relationship to your kids, show them what to look forward to in their future relationships and Live Inspired Now!
Need help getting your relationship on track or ending it with the least possible amount of damage? Contact me today!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
I was depressed once; then I remembered who I was and what I loved, and I was cured. I love this quote by Mark Epstein: “Depressed people think they know themselves, but maybe they only know depression.” This quote really speaks to me because many many years ago, I thought I was depressed too, but I really had lost touch with my true self. I had allowed my circumstances to rule my emotions and rather than changing, I slowly let myself slip away. Over time, I forgot how much I loved to laugh, I forgot the intense joy I felt when helping others, I forgot how good I could feel if I took care of myself, I forgot how much I enjoyed walking outside in nature, I even forgot how much I loved to dress up and feel pretty. Nobody had done this to me, nothing had taken my joy away, yet I had lost so much, I blamed others, and I felt “depressed” and unhappy with the way my life was.
Then one day, in a magical moment, I remembered who I was and what I loved. It hit me instantly, a brief moment of clarity and I was flooded with memories of how much I loved to laugh and to cry! I had not done either in some time, I had been living life completely numbed out, like a zombie. I blamed others for my circumstances, I didn’t think love was real and I numbed out on a low dosage of Zoloft because my doctor told me I was “depressed,” and I believed him.
That very day, with my moment of clarity, I sped home, dumped the Zoloft in the toilet and never took another pill again! I also stopped drinking soda, stopped eating meat, started to exercise, started listening to high energy music, learned to meditate, hired a personal trainer, dumped the cheaters, abusers and negative people from my life, and moved on!
It is not always an instant epiphany that jolts you from your “depression.” For some people, it might be slow but the point is to recognize those moments of clarity and act on them! When you catch yourself remembering your joy and happiness, don’t suppress it, embrace and encourage it. Nobody can stop you from feeling good except for you! Make a decision to climb out of the mire and get your life back! Some things will take time but the decision to change happens in an instant. Start today and see how different your life looks in 3, 6, 9 and 12 months from now. Stay stuck and you can still be wishing for change in a year…… let TODAY be the day you free yourself from depression, negativity, and self abuse. Start laughing, loving, be YOU again and Live Inspired Now!
Need help? Contact me today and learn the ways to make it happen! Clinical depression is real and can be treated. However, most “depression” today is misdiagnosed and is actually a learned pattern of many bad habits. Habitual depression can be cured with behavior modification, and a desire for change. I look forward to teaching YOU the tools to change your life!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Happy 4th of July everyone! I hope you will all be making time to spend with the people you love and care about. We are busy getting settled in to the new homestead and loving every moment together! Enjoy the day, remember our brave men and women that are serving our country and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
You can find the good in everything if you look hard enough and believe in the bigger picture. Goodbyes are often for the best even if you don’t recognize it at the time. Have faith and believe that the Universe has something really awesome in store for you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
The sooner we realize that we control nothing in this world except ourselves, the sooner we find happiness! People spend so much time in their personal relationships trying to change other people. Trying to change the feelings of their lover, wishing their boss would be more appreciative, attempting to prove to co-workers that they know better, manipulating friends out of guilt, or even using emotional blackmail against children or parents. NONE of these behaviors will truly change another person, it will however damage or in many cases, sever the relationship.
If you don’t like the way things look, change the way YOU look at them. You are the only person responsible for the way you view things and the way you treat other people. If you are constantly trying to change others, you can’t truly appreciate them. Change the way you look at things, find ways to appreciate and encourage. Find ways to look at things in a new light, with a new perspective. You have a lot to offer the world and so does everyone else. If you can’t find a way to appreciate another person, walk away, it is not your responsibility to change them. Change the way you look at the world, find ways to be appreciative and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
