The labels we give ourselves are illusions. We are nothing more than one another. We are all energy, derived from the same place, completely connected to everything and everyone else. While we are here, occupying “bodies” we have the ability to choose how we use that energy. For good, bad, love, hate, kindness, compassion, resentment, or anger. No matter how you choose to use your energy in your time here, you are no different than anyone else and only responsible for yourself.
The labels we give ourselves are a reflection of our egos, not our true state of consciousness. It is no different than when our mothers gave us different colored cups. Green for me and blue for my sister. The color of the cup let us know which was ours so there would be no fighting about cups. However, when one of us would want to harass the other, it was now clear how to do it…. drink from the wrong cup. The same is true in life, we give ourselves labels so that we stand out, fit in, feel proud, identify with something better, embrace our heritage, or even to feel powerful. Again, this is just an illusion that feeds the ego. You are so much more than your surface identity or label. These labels more often divide us and keep a wall up that prevents us from embracing and appreciating one another as well as learning to work together toward a common goal…. such as peace for example.
We are all energy, completely connected to one another and to the Universe. Too many people constrict their own potential or abilities because of labels. You are not a black man, a strong woman, a disabled person, a white guy, an army vet, an alcoholic, a ballerina, a stock broker, a homeless bum, a nerd, a jock, or any other label you claim. You may want to identify your physical body with identifiable characteristics but don’t disregard your true essence. You, like everyone, are energy with form, perfectly designed to accomplish whatever you set your mind to. You have more ability and purpose than you realize… release the labels and embrace possibilities!
The ego loves labels but your spirit loves consciousness; awaken your spirit, try new things, figure out what you are truly capable of, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
The moment you try to control someone, you lose the ability to appreciate them. I often hear from people in relationships that their significant other is trying to control them. Maybe by checking up on them continuously, telling them what to say and do, or even by spying or sneaking through their things. If you feel the need to do these things, then you probably should not be in a relationship! If your “loved one” is the type of person to cheat, lie, or manipulate, then make a better choice in partners. If they are honest and trustworthy but you continue to try and control them, they will eventually leave.
The excuse that you have been hurt, cheated on, or used in the past in not a valid reason to mistreat the person you are currently with. Do not make your loved one pay the price for the sins of your EX. Stop looking for the ways your partner is trying to hurt you and start looking at ways to make them feel loved! You are likely to have a much more honest and pure relationship if you focus on honesty, giving, and loving because the other person will always feel loved and appreciated and never want to leave or hurt you. However, if you continue on a path of jealousy, mistrust, dishonesty and control, you are guaranteeing a shorter lived relationship entirely centered in disharmony. You don’t want a chaotic, complicated relationship with fleeting moments of happiness. You want a loving, passion filled relationship that can withstand fleeting moments of challenge. If you prefer the chaos and unhappiness, then perhaps, you are not ready for a mature relationship and should do some self discovery.
No matter what you do or where you are, you have to live with yourself and your thoughts; make them healthy or be a prisoner in your own mind. Relationships are not about anger, resentment or control. Let go and free yourself to love, laugh, and truly enjoy the person you are with…… as well as yourself, and Live Inspired Now!
Please feel free to contact me if you need help getting past negative emotions so you can move forward into a healthy relationship.
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Join me today at 11:00am with my co-host Jodi Brichta-Coyne as we discuss how to eat to feel wonderful! We have 2 guest hosts joining us today. Health and Fitness expert, Coach Dale Acciavatti and Health and Wealth Energy Coach Sarah Louise.
Health and nutrition has become very confusing with all these new terms and rules: GMO, organics, natural, stevia sweetener, and everyone seems to have a different opinion on how to eat right. Join us today and take the confusion out of it all! Have your questions ready, we will try to answer them all!
Today, July 11th at 11am (eastern) FREE on spreecast:
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Yesterday I was going to post about patience but then ran out of time and decided to purposely “test” my patience so I would have more to contribute to the post. It worked! While spending a long day cleaning, mowing lawns, shuttling kids to and fro and, doing it all on a very hot and humid day, I was able to maintain my patience. I gave this post a great deal of thought throughout the day, and here is what I came up with!
1. Determine what/when/where/why you are impatient! Maybe you are impatient with your kids in the morning but no other time of day. Perhaps you are only impatient at work or while driving. Spend a few days really taking note of the people, times of day, or situations that cause you the most stress. You will be able to move on to step 2 if you know what makes you impatient.
2. Set yourself up for success whenever possible! Look for proactive solutions that will remove your impatience triggers. For example: If you know it is the morning rush that makes you most impatient, get up an hour earlier, or lay out the kids clothes the night before, or get a coffee pot with an auto start, etc. Your kids will think you hit your head when you are calm, cool and collected and not barking at them to hurry hurry hurry!
3. Set yourself up for acceptance when you fail! OK, so you won’t always be proactive and set the clothes out the night before. Or even if you do set the clothes out, once in awhile something will happen to mess up your best intentions. When this happens, here is your plan: Take deep breaths, assess the situation, make peace with it, and then move forward. Give yourself a break, we are all humans and even the most enlightened of us will lose our patience sometimes. Step 4 will help you make peace when things are out of your control.
4. Take control of the situation by being in control of YOU! When things do get out of hand and your patience has run out, instead of globalizing about how bad everything has become, start to question yourself. Ask yourself a few questions that will help de-escalate the situation such as: Do I have any control over this situation? Will yelling or freaking out really make anyone move faster? Will swearing at the driver in front of me really make him turn? Recognize that you have no control over other people, only yourself. Anxiety, impatience, and stress are “brothers” and they lead to strained relationships, poor health, and disease; start to take steps to avoid them as much as possible! When you start to ask the right questions, you can reason with yourself about the situation.
5. Surround yourself with patient people as often as possible. The saying, “You are a product of your surroundings” is completely true. If you are surrounded by other impatient people, you will tend to behave impatiently, as well. Try moving to a different check out line or drive in the “slow lane” to avoid those impatient people around you. Often times, it may be impractical to completely avoid impatient people (spouses, family members, coworkers, etc…). Instead, try telling them how much better you feel when you practice patience. Share these five steps with them so they can also experience it for themselves.
A few years ago, I decided to examine my own impatience. I determined that I get most impatient in the morning when I am trying to get the day started. I had to get the kids fed and ready for school, make their lunches, write and post my blog, as well as, eat, shower, and get ready for my day. My impatience was in the form of rushing around and getting very frustrated at the kids for going too slow and I was often late for my job at the school. My proactive solutions were to start showering before bed, Thad took over making school lunches and I woke the kids up a little earlier. (The walks out to the bus stop were so much more relaxed and it became a really nice bonding time for me and my younger kids!) At that time, I was driving the teenagers, since I worked at their school. I informed them that my car was leaving the yard at a certain time and if they were not in it, I would leave without them. I was calm yet firm and put the responsibility on them rather than getting impatient every morning and trying to control their every move. My daughter, Madison, missed her ride to school twice and both times she called and begged me to drive home and get her but I refused and patiently explained that I was responsible for getting to work on time and could not accommodate her. (You have no idea how much stress this took off of me!) I could have gone in the bathroom and yelled at her as she showered to “hurry up, hurry up,” but chances are she wouldn’t have been able to go faster while someone was shouting at her. Nor would this have made either one of us feel very good about it.
Just be clear with your expectations, say what you mean and mean what you say, then follow through. When you can’t control the situation, move forward knowing you have done what you said you were going to do and be grateful that you didn’t lose patience. Other people will say, do, and think what they want, that is out of your control. A strong person controls him or herself and doesn’t let the stress of a situation drive their emotions. Things will happen to test your patience and we can’t always remain calm, but the more you do, the better you get at it.
Create healthy habits by practicing patience, set yourself up for success as much as possible and Live Inspired Now!
The stress caused by impatience can damage your relationships. Becoming more patient will take time and practice. If you would like some extra support while learning to become more patient and stress free, please contact me today!
*Thank you to my amazing husband Thad Paris for helping me write this post!*
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Today I will test my patience… and maybe yours! lol. So I wanted to write about patience today but several things are hindering my post. My photo program crashed so I can’t add my website to the picture above. (Small detail I know, but integral to my marketing plan! lol) Then, I miscalculated my morning and am officially out of time before I have to leave for an appointment. Lastly, my biggest challenge in patience…. I will be spending the day with 7+ kids in our old (empty) house trying to get it clean and mow the lawn so it will be ready for the new buyers!
So to test YOUR patience…. I will not be posting my article 5 ways to maintain patience until tomorrow! 🙂 Will you be patient and return tomorrow? I hope so because I think I will have some very valuable information to share after I have thoroughly tested my patience today! Have a super day folks… please come back tomorrow and learn how to have more patience and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
