Speaking in public can be pretty intimidating but just remember, at some point, we have all done it. You may not be at a podium in front of thousands of people, but maybe you have to speak at your office meeting, or in front of you child’s class. Whomever the audience may be, you will want to be successful! Here is a quick list to get you over your jitters and get in front of the crowd!
1 Be prepared! The more you know your material, the better you will feel. Have you ever stumbled when someone asked you a question because you didn’t have an answer? That won’t happen if you know your subject and are well versed in your material! Always talk about what you know, then you won’t get nervous about that “one question you hope they don’t ask!” Also, practice your speech and role play questions and answers with someone. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will be!
2 Imagine your positive outcome. Spend some quality time in quiet contemplation and visualize yourself being applauded after a job well done. Imagine how great it feels to have people really engaging with your words and listening so intently. Imagine them laughing, crying, gasping, or whatever would be an appropriate reaction to your speech. Smile and take a bow just as if you actually delivered your speech.
3 Instead of telling yourself how nervous you feel, remind yourself that you are excited! There is not much difference between the two emotions; however, your brain will respond far more positively to excited vs. nervous. Your brain believes the words your mouth says, so be sure you are using words of empowerment!
4 Get to your venue early! Arrive early and make yourself familiar with the room and the audience. If you are running late, it is sure to increase your anxiety about the event. You can’t be too early, because you can always practice, network with people, or check microphones and other equipment to make sure everything is in good working order.
5 Focus on your audience and the message you are giving them. They are there for you, they want you to be successful. Turn your anxiety or emotions off by focusing on giving the audience an amazing performance!
6 Hire a coach! Coaches are wonderful resources to help you overcome fears and to achieve ultimate success. Contact me today if you would like some support with public speaking or any other life challenge. Also, consider joining a wonderful group like Toastmasters. Toastmasters teaches leadership and competent communication. It is a self-paced and encouraging group and you will learn from the best!
So, whether you are delivering a moving speech at a medical convention, or leading a craft demonstration at your child’s scout troop, try these tips to help you get your point across without all the nervousness and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
You can only move in one direction in life… forward. Even if your mind is stuck in the past, you are still moving forward. Don’t miss the all the wonderful things in life that you are doing now and working towards because you are always focusing on what happened in the past. You only have one direction… forward, so live it up, stop looking back and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
What is the cost of inaction in your life? Does it mean you will lose a relationship because you never showed the other person how much they mean to you. Does it mean that you stay overweight and develop diabetes because you never exercised and lost weight? Does it mean you stayed “depressed” because you never hired a coach or did any personal development?
How much is your story worth? Are you saying things like “I can’t afford that workshop” or “I will never have enough money to do what I really want.” The price of inaction is far greater than the amount of money it costs to learn something new and improve your life! The cost of inaction is unhappiness. Money comes and goes, it flows in and out of your life but when you refuse to spend it on things that will enhance your life, you are creating a plug that stops the free flowing nature of money. I am not saying to go and spend like crazy, I am saying INVEST in things that will enhance your life and create more flow. Such as: personal growth and development, classes or workshops, or hiring professional consultants to help you reach your life goals.
Stop sitting on your ass waiting for the right time to do things…
NOW is the time to hire the coach!
NOW is the time to lose the weight!
NOW is the time to create the life you love!
NOW is the time to do some personal development and change your thinking!
NOW is the time to get your life back!
NOW is the time to: (INSERT YOUR GOALS HERE!!!)
Whatever you have NOT been doing… NOW is the time to do it. Stop trying to sell your story of inaction and start creating your amazing life. No matter what you want to do, there is a way to make it happen. Find mentors or people who have achieved what you want, invest in YOUR life, love, and happiness, hire a professional to guide you and Live Inspired Now!
PS: Contact me today if YOU are ready to stop the excuses and start your fabulous life!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Love love love! It is all I can think about today! Besides being in a perpetual state of “in love” myself, I love watching others fall in love. Falling in love is the most exciting, and potentially scary, place to be. There are so many uncertainties which can make you feel vulnerable. Vulnerability may either scare you or excite you depending upon your personality. If you are the type who likes things to always be in place, likes routine, and always wants to feel safe and secure, then vulnerability can be a very scary thing. If you are the type that likes adventure, change, and trying new things then vulnerability might feel very exciting to you.
If you are embarking on a new relationship, even if you are scared, allow yourself to open up to possibilities. Don’t go into a new relationship holding on to the baggage of past break ups. If you do, you are sure to revisit those same “hurts” over and over again. Open up and make yourself vulnerable to the person you love, build your new relationship together, not around walls that already exist. Be completely honest with one another and build your new life on trust, compassion, and understanding. If you hold back, put up walls, and keep your new love at a safe distance, you will not build a lasting relationship. It may work for a short time, but long term it won’t be able to withstand any challenges. So go forth, fall in love, but do it with a complete willingness to open yourself up to the right person and build your relationship on a solid foundation! Enjoy one another, embrace vulnerability, even if it scares you, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
The past few days have been challenging. Rather than getting upset, I am using this time as a great reminder that nothing is permanent…. not even our troubles!
So, a couple of days ago my parents came to visit. I was out all morning at meetings and then stopped at the grocer to get all the ingredients for homemade lasagna and bread from scratch. I rushed home to find the water softener installer guy at the house. I was able to get enough water to start dinner before he shut it off but I was not able to make my famous maple cake. So far, no big deal. Mom and Dad show up and we all ate the delicious meal while talking all about my new baby pygmy goats. After dinner mom went out to see the new babies and I joined her after clearing the table. As I approached my mom informed me that one of my goats was dead. I didn’t want to believe it but it was true… Furio was dead and Frederico was curled up with him crying. Then, as I tended to Frederico and tried to comfort him, I must have squatted down into a mosquito swarm because I was suddenly attacked by tons of mosquitoes who bit me right through my yoga pants! I had about 30 bites all over my legs and my butt! Later that evening, my parents decided NOT to stay out my house because apparently, my house is now overrun with fleas. (We had exterminated the house before we moved in because the previous owner had about 45 feral cats living in the house. Apparently, we need to do it again!) Mom and Dad went and stayed at a hotel for the evening and I went to my room to relax and put the long day behind me. As I brushed my teeth to get ready for bed, a hornet flew into my hair and got stuck! That was the straw that broke the camels back…. I freaked out. I started swatting my hair and inaudibly screaming for Thad to rescue me. He ran to help but the hornet was thrown from my hair and disappeared somewhere in my closet. Covered in calamine lotion, itchy and sad, I felt defeated, I curled up on Thad’s chest and went to bed.
The next morning I woke up with gratitude and appreciation that yesterday was behind me. I spent that day in reflection for all that I am grateful for. If my life were not so completely wonderful, then the bad days would not stand out so much. No matter how bad a moment, a day, or an event seems, it will all be OK. Nothing is permanent and just as troubles come, they also go. The more attached to outcomes we are, the more we will suffer.
I think the Universe wanted to make sure I believed this philosophy because last night, I was awakened by a very loud noise coming from my closet. I jumped up and saw the picture above. After spending a great deal of time unpacking, organizing, hanging, and folding my clothes, my closet collapsed and undid all of my hard work in an instant. My daughter Carrie even helped me by color coding my hanging clothes from lightest to darkest and now they all lay in a heap on the floor. At about 2:30am this morning when this happened, I rolled my eyes, said “whatever” and went back to bed. Today, I got a laugh out of it.
Nothing is permanent, and our attachment to order or desire for control will always leave us feeling unstable or unhappy. Let go; we control nothing, our troubles are not permanent and they will leave us. Go with the flow of life, anger and resentment will never change another persons behavior, it won’t hang your clothes back up, it won’t bring your dead goat back, and it will never make you happy. It’s a bad day, not a bad life, accept what life throws at you, make the most of it, and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
