I get this question often, “When should I speak up, and when should I just mind my own business?” 

In fact, I often wonder that myself. As a coach, I’m almost always ready to jump in to help but is it always my business to do so?

I’ve discovered a sure fire way to know 100% of the time when you should speak up versus butting out…. 

Just ask!

I have adult children, so the opportunity to impart my own wisdom comes up often when I see my child struggling but I’ve learned that offering unsolicited advice is the best way to get someone to ignore it!

So now, I just ask if they want my help/advice/opinion.

If they say yes, then I give them my input.

If they say no, I leave it alone but let them know they are welcome to come to me if they need me.

During a conversation with my friend Carol (who inspired this post) she told me that someone once said to her, “You can listen to me with your head or your heart.” 

I think that is a brilliant statement and I’ve tweaked it a little to use when you have to deliver UNsolicited advice because let’s face it, sometimes we just have to intervene:

“You can listen to me with your ego or your heart, but please know that I am giving my opinion because I care about you and wish the best for you.” 

Your unsolicited advice will be more well received if you make your intentions clear in the beginning.

I can’t tell you how many kids believe their parents give advice to make their lives miserable and not because they actually care. Let them know you care!

Remember, the best advice is advice that is welcomed! 🙂

If you find this content helpful, please share it! Sharing is inspiring! 

Have a super week! Don’t forget to register for the upcoming 1 day relationship retreat at beautiful del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, NY!

 “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or hit reply to this email! 

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Imagine, your child is freakin’ out. You’re on your last nerve…….

You lose your shit, start yelling and now instead of controlling the situation, you have a crying child, your blood pressure is sky rocketing, and your re-thinking this whole “parenting” crap that seemed so rewarding! lol.

What can you do in those moments instead of screaming, yelling, or freaking out???

Get really quiet!

Turn off all the noise boxes (TV, radio, computer) and sit quietly in the center of the chaos. Your kiddo will get confused and want to know what’s going on. Calmly and with a whisper say “It’s quiet time.”

If he freaks out or starts yelling, simply say in a very quiet voice, “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you when you speak that loudly.” Once he quiets down, then respond!

A little twist on this is that if your child is ever disrespectful to you, you can also say “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you when you speak to me that way.” Do not respond until their tone is appropriate! This works on older kids too!

It’s definitely counter intuitive to get quiet when you feel the call to yell but let’s face it… the only thing yelling does is stress YOU out and adds more noise to an already chaotic situation.

Try something new, get quiet! Remember to be a tiny pebble!

When standing by the waters edge, if someone chucks in a boulder, you automatically run to avoid the splash, but if someone throws in a tiny pebble, you lean it to watch the ripples. 

Have a super week! Don’t forget to register for the upcoming 1 day relationship retreat at beautiful del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, NY!

 “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or hit reply to this email! 

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

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Register now- space is very limited!

 “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or email us Heather@liveinspirednow.com

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

angry-momIf you NEVER said this again, you’d be happier and so would everyone else…

“Should.” 

“You should….”
“I should…”
“He should have…”

Stop should-ing all over the place! Let’s face it, people don’t like being told what they should do. So when your best friend, or your spouse, or one of your kids needs advice or guidance leave the “should” out of it.

Instead try…

“If it were me, I might….”
“It’s up to you but you may want to consider…”
“What have you tried/considered so far?”

These types of statements offer support without judgment or condescension AND they empower the other person to come  up with their own solutions! 

And this will make you a rockstar communicator! 🙂

OMG…. I almost forgot!!! Guess what Thad and I have coming up in March?? A one day relationship retreat called “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or hit reply to this email! 

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

If you read these business books, you’ll be well versed in creating and maintaining a thriving business! If you read the personal development books, you’ll become self aware. If you read your way through BOTH lists, you’ll be unstoppable!

While some of these books may not apply to your specific industry, they still hold valuable information that you’ll be able to apply to your own business!

Immerse yourself into becoming an expert!

The book you don’t read, won’t help! -Jim Rohn

*I will update this list regularly so bookmark the page and check back often! Each book listed is directly linked to see it on Amazon for your convenience!*

BUSINESS BOOKS:

Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal– Oren Klaff
Blue Ocean Strategy: How to Create Uncontested Market Space and Make Competition Irrelevant -W. Chan Kim and Renee Mauborgne
Double Double: How to Double Your Revenue and Profit in 3 Years or Less -Cameron Herold
New Sales Simplified -Mark Weinberg
High Performance Habits -Brendon Burchard
The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck -Mark Manson
Go Pro -Eric Worre
The Millionaire Messenger -Brendon Burchard
Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers -Timothy Ferriss
Think and Grow Rich -Napolean Hill
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People -Stephen Covey
Rich Dad Poor Dad -Robert Kiyosaki
Start With Why -Simon Sinek
The Business School for People Who Like Helping People – Robert Kiyosaki
The Millionaire Real Estate Agent -Gary Keller
The 4 Hour Workweek -Tim Ferriss
Go Pro -Eric Worre
Finish -Jon Acuff
The War of Art -Steven Pressfield
Predictably Irrational -Dan Ariely
The Big Leap -Gay Hendricks
Contagious -Jonah Berger
The Compound Effect -Darren Hardy
The Speed of Trust -Stephen Covey
Business Model You -Alexander Osterwalder
Eat That Frog -Brian Tracy
Crucial Conversations -Joseph Grenny
The E-Myth Revisited -Michael Gerber

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT BOOKS:

Live Inspired Now- Heather Paris
You’re Not My Real Mom- Heather Paris
The Biology Of Belief -Bruce Lipton
Zero Limits- Joe Vitale
The Six Pillars of Self Esteem- Nathaniel Branden
Love Warrior -Glennon Doyle Melton
The Gifts of Imperfection -Brene Brown
Daring Greatly -Brene Brown
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work -John Gottman
A New Earth -Eckhart Tolle
The Power Of Now -Eckhart Tolle
Psycho-Cybernetics -Maxwell Maltz
The Alchemist -Paolo Coehlo
Who Moved My Cheese -Spencer Johnson
Positive Energy Practices: How to Attract Uplifting People and Combat Energy Vampires- Judith Orloff
Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love- Judith Orloff
Your Erroneous Zones: Step-by-Step Advice for Escaping the Trap of Negative Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life– Dr. Wayne Dyer
I Can See Clearly Now– Dr. Wayne Dyer

Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!