Lately it seems most of my clients are parents so I thought I would pass along the wisdom I have shared several times this week!
You are responsible for keeping your kids safe, not comfortable!
We all want our kids to be happy and healthy, and we never want them to suffer. But sometimes we mistake “suffering” for discomfort.
Discomfort is appropriate and healthy. Discomfort creates an environment for kids to learn how to self soothe, take responsibility, and discover their own strengths.
Here are a few tips to creating and allowing an appropriate level of discomfort:
- Allow your kids to complete their own homework, or projects without your input
- Don’t always rush out to their school to bring them what they forgot at home
- Encourage your kids to try new things
- Assign household responsibilities (aka chores)
- Instead of giving your opinion, ask them what THEY think
- Ask for their advice, input, or opinion on family matters (not critical issues)
- Use natural consequences instead of punishments
- Use boundaries instead of discipline
- Stop over praising and start asking them how THEY think they did, look, performed, etc…
Remember when they were toddlers and kept falling down while they were learning to walk? Those falls eventually turned into strength and balance!
Let’s be honest, raising kids is the hardest thing you will ever do! It was hard to watch them fall as toddlers, and it’s hard to watch them struggle as teenagers, But it’s worth it when you know they are prepared for the tough world that’s full of challenges!
There are easy solutions to most parenting challenges, all you have to do is reach out and ask for help! Another quick tip… if you can, ask for help BEFORE it becomes critical!
If you are in Upstate New York, please check out this FREE event:
3 Exceptional Talks at the Family Wellness Event that will change your life:
- Raise your kids GPA! by Special Education Teacher Katie Dennis
- Get your teenagers engaged in a positive passion! by 15 yr old life coach Carrie Deaville
- Fix your damaged or dying relationship! presented by Me!
September 22nd, 5:30 – 7:30pm at NaturTyme
Register, share, and get more info here! Bring a friend too!
You already love your kids, but now you can actually like them too! 😉
Love,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
One year ago today, “Carrie,” who was my best friend for 30 years, died. She had cancer.
I don’t know if it’s an “American” thing, or if people everywhere feel this way, but we seem to have a very unrealistic idea of death. We think we have nothing but time and then are almost offended when it comes to an end. Expecting that each of us should live until we have reached an acceptable age for death.
What if we changed our perception of death? What if we accepted that death will come, and decided to live accordingly? What if we just lived each day, as if it were our first and last day of life?
If today was my first day of life, I would look at everything with wonder and amazement. I would be excited and enthusiastic. I would smile, laugh, run, and jump!
If today was my last day of life, I would tell everyone how much I love them. I would hug, kiss, snuggle, and stay as close as possible. I would leave nothing unsaid, nothing undone, and nothing unappreciated.
Life is full of happiness, beauty, love, music, nature, babies, puppies, waterfalls, food, people, technology, fun, colors, entertainment, and…. opportunities!
Opportunities to live and love, not just exist!
Today I choose to be happy, to celebrate life, and to love hard! I will remember fond memories, and spend my day creating new fond memories!
What will you choose for today?
Ask yourself:
-If today was my first day of life, what would I do?
-If today was my last day of life, what would I do?
-Why aren’t I doing these things today?
*Click here to read “Saying Goodbye To A Friend,” my post about Carrie.*
Love,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
I am hosting a self defense class with Impact Martial Arts & Fitness. It’s only $10. to come and learn how to protect yourself against attackers!
100% of the money collected goes to Hope 4 Us Housing Corp which provides free construction training and job placement for local people in need!
Bring your friends, kids, spouse, co-workers, neighbors, young people heading off to college… EVERYONE needs to know how to keep themselves safe!
Here is the link to sign up for the self-defense class, and please share the event:
SELF DEFENSE CLASS, SEPTEMBER 10TH, 2:00PM, SYRACUSE, NY
I am so beyond excited for this class… and to be able to support such a wonderful charity! Please join me!
Love,
Heather
PS:
The Life Coach training course is sold out, but you can still get my FREE 6 day mini-coaching course for free!
You can literally transform your family and life with the free course…. and seriously… it’s FREE. So you have nothing to lose! Just click the button above and grab it now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Something I hear often… I am “surviving yet another…”
Some people are surviving yet another medical setback, another kid crisis, another disappointment, another and another and another, etc.
It all boils down to surviving our own expectations of how things should be.
Life is happening entirely through the filter of our own mind. It is our own thinking that causes us to feel disappointed. For example:
A man lives in a shack and is thrilled he has a roof over his head because once he didn’t. Every day he works to improve the shack by fixing it up and bringing in some fresh wild flowers he cuts from the field. He is always grateful and lives a happy life.
A man lives in a shack and feels sorry for himself because this is all he has. Every day he complains and compares himself to those who have more. He does nothing to improve his situation or attitude. He is always unhappy and dies miserable.
How about instead of “surviving yet another,” we change our words to something like “I get another chance to….”
Another chance to get healthy, another chance to fix my relationship, another chance to start again and make things better, another chance to spend time with my kid, another chance at love, life, joy, etc.
Today is another chance to be a gift to the world! Take the chance and see what you can do with it! 🙂
Love,
Heather
PS: Only 1 spots remain in the Life Coach Training program, if you’ve thought about joining- it’s time to take action! Register here!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Yes, a producer from The Steve Harvey show called me today and inquired about having me on the show!!! AMAZING right!?
So why did I say “no?”
Just because a door opens, doesn’t mean you should jump at what’s behind it!
When I got the phone call from the producer, I was speaking at a charity event. I listened to the voicemail and was so excited and couldn’t wait to call back to get the scoop.
The producer told me that they wanted me, and my step-daughter to come on the show as guests for a step-mom / step-daughter segment. Now when she called, I thought she was calling to have me on as an expert who could give insight on the topic. I did write a best-selling book called “You’re Not My Real Mom” about step parenting after all!
I called my daughter Mattie and we talked about it. Mattie took a call from the producer as well. After some really personal questions, and what seemed like “digging for drama,” Mattie and I decided not to do it.
I’ve dreamed of being on that show, and I absolutely love Steve Harvey, but nothing is worth creating drama in my relationship with my kiddo, and nothing is worth my integrity.
I messaged the producer back and offered to come on the show alone, as a best-selling author and expert, who could provide valuable strategies to guests who are struggling in blended families. We will see what she says!
We’ve all been tempted to put up with something that doesn’t feel right because we want something so bad, but it’s just not worth your integrity. Opportunities are not “one and done,” there will be more!
Your dreams will come true when you stay true to your personal truth! (There’s alotta truth there!)
The best part of my day today…. speaking at the “Hope 4 Us” construction skills training course which trains people in construction, then helps them get jobs! Now THAT was a huge honor for me!
I hope you have a fantastic week and remember to think, act, and live abundantly because opportunities are always presenting themselves!
Love,
Heather
PS: Only 3 spots remain in the Life Coach Training program, if you’ve thought about joining- it’s time to take action! Register here!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!