Not all dreams are lifelong! Some big amazing dreams just kind of sneak up on you!
Of course you know my BIGGGG ongoing dream is to train new life coaches to go out into the world and teach emotional intelligence and self awareness so we can end the most amount of suffering in the world.
*And so far, this dream is coming true and making a HUGE impact on people! YAY!*
My NEW big dream is also to become a kundalini yoga instructor!! And, I am super excited to say… I’ve registered for class and I start in September!
It’s just one more thing that I can offer my new coaches as they learn to save the world!
What is YOUR big dream, and are you actively working towards it? If not… why not? Please, let me tell you something you already know…..
You only get one life to make an impact…. what kind of legacy are you creating?
Not sure what your dream or passion is?
Fill in the blanks on the following statements and see if it stimulates some passion and excitement!
- When I was a kid, I dreamed of….
- I can’t pass up a book or movie about…
- If I played hooky from work, I’d spend my time…
- Most people don’t know this about me but I really enjoy…
- I am the go-to person when my friends need help with…
- I get a natural high when I…
- If I starred in a TV show, it would be about….
- I’d win first prize in a talent show for…..
I hope your dreams are big but your actions are bigger!
If you’ve ever dreamed of helping people turn their lives around, create happiness, or fix their broken relationship or family…. then please consider joining the Live Inspired Now Coach Training!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
Your friends already come to your for advice…. add these practical coaching strategies to your toolbox and blow your friends mind with your awesomeness! Become a life coach…. get paid for what you already do, and make a huge impact on your world!
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Recently a client asked me “How can I instill a sense of pride in my kid?”
My answer: “Stop telling them you are proud of them every time they do something!”
No really. Just stop. Here’s why.
When we over praise, we teach kids that they should be doing things for us, for the validation, and not for their own self satisfaction.
It also teaches them that their worth is equated to what they do, produce, or achieve.
Trade your praise for love and affection and ask your child how they feel about their own performance instead.
The picture shown here is the inside of a card that I sent to our daughter Madison. She is 22 and just got a great job! I am proud of her…. but not because she got a great job.
I am proud of her because she’s my daughter and I love her.
It may sound like such a small distinction but when your child fails at something, and they will, they will believe they have let you down, and that they are not worthy of your affection or love if you only praise achievements.
I see it every single day and it breaks my heart.
So instead of praising your kiddo all of the time, try this instead.
Ask them: “How do you feel you did?” Then respond to their feelings.
There is definitely a time and place for praising your kiddos! I like to praise them when they do acts of kindness that you wouldn’t normally expect. Like seeing a woman in the grocery store dropping items and running over to help, or offering their own money to someone in need and so on.
Even then, be sure to ask them how those acts made them feel! Allow them to grow a sense of pride in themselves by advocating for their success without over praising. Then, instead of praising, try saying something like “That was beautiful to see, thank you!”
Let me know your thoughts or please do share your story at the bottom of the page!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Ohhhhh it’s that FUN time again when I give you questions to ask your significant other to see how well you know each other! If you don’t have a significant other, ask a friend, family member, or your kiddo!
The goal is not to get all the answers right, the goal is to open a dialogue with your partner to share, learn, and bond!! Woooo bonding! Yeah!!!
Here we go! Ask your partner these questions, see if you know the answers, and let the fun begin:
- What was the last selfless act you performed?
- When did you cry last?
- What is your favorite brand or type of shoes and why?
- How did you feel about middle school?
- Who would you call if you needed to talk but you couldn’t reach me?
- Where was your favorite place to visit as a child?
- If you could only take 3 things with you on a trip for 6 months, what would you take?
- What would be the title of a book all about you?
- What was your all time favorite childhood toy?
- If you could have any super power, what would it be and why?
- Which piece of modern technology would you completely eliminate and why?
Remember this is not a contest, it’s an opportunity to share, learn, and grow together. I would love to hear how it goes, just leave your comment at the bottom of this page!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
If you don’t mind casual dating and are NOT looking for a serious relationship, you can stop reading now.
If you are looking for that special someone, or might be in the future, read on…
This is the one question that you need to ask a potential mate before you ever consider going out with them again!
What will you bring to a relationship?
Seriously, it’s about time people started to ask potential mates what they have to offer! Not because you are looking to take from them but because if you are willing to go into a relationship at 100%, you need to know they are willing to do the same!
I could give you a million examples but let me share my own story.
When I was 22, I married my first husband Don. He was an alcoholic and much older than me. I was young and dumb and believed him when he said “Once we get married, I will stop drinking.”
He was kind, and we liked the same things, but those qualities are less and less endearing after you’ve come home drunk for 7 nights in a row.
I never asked him what he had to offer in a relationship because I mistakenly thought we’d build it together. The problem with that thinking is that I was too young and dumb to know how to build anything, and he was too drunk.
Some people think a home is the biggest investment you will ever make, it’s not, your relationship is!
If you don’t invest wisely, you will get burned. If you are willing to put in 100%, why would you take a risk on someone who is only going to put in 20%, it just doesn’t make sense!
Asking someone what they have to offer in a relationship is a smart, decisive question that can scare off anyone who’s not serious, and seem attractive to someone who is willing to play full out!
Here are just a few things to look for when considering your relationship investments:
- Are they financially responsible? I’m not talking about looking for someone rich, I’m talking about someone who has a good head on his shoulders and knows how to handle money.
- Are they emotionally stable? *Secure and confident vs jealous and emotionally unavailable.
- Do they share similar values? *Honesty, loyalty, altruism, family, ambition, monogamy, etc…
- Do they have any addictions, unhealthy habits, or questionable friendships?
- Do they speak kindly, or harshly about past relationships? *Ask “What happened with your last breakup?” If they start with he or she was a B*itch, or A**hole, then run! Or, if they start with “He or she was the best thing that ever happened to me and I can’t move on,” then run! If they are able to take some of the responsibility and speak highly or at least neutral of their EX then they might be emotionally healthy people!
- Where do they want to be in 5 years?
- Are they ambitious or content to stay exactly where they are forever?
- Are they inappropriately attached to their parents? *Do they live at home? Are they a mama’s boy or still a little girl?
- Do they have pets and if so do they take good care of them?
- How is their personal hygiene and their personal space? *If you marry a pig, don’t expect that to change just because you put a ring on it.
Listen, most clients who come in complaining about their spouse tell me that they had the same “bad qualities” when they were dating but they expected them to step up to the occasion of matrimony.
It doesn’t work that way! So, if you are single… don’t be afraid to expect a potential mate to bring something to the game!
And don’t forget, a quality mate will be looking for what YOU bring to the table too! Make sure you have something of quality to offer in a relationship! If not, work on getting healthy before you start looking for your true love!
A quality relationship is the biggest investment you will ever make….. invest wisely!
As always, if you need some help, just contact me!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Single and looking? DON’T look for someone like minded, and DON’T worry about finding someone with common interests!
Yep, I just said that.
Everyone’s so worried about finding someone to do stuff with that they don’t think to look for someone they can just “be” with.
Rather than looking for the like minded person with common interests, focus instead on finding someone who is LIKE-VALUED!
When I first met my husband Thad, I thought he was so handsome, but I also thought he was a jerk!
He was a meat eating country boy who had never walked on fire, and never heard of, or even watched the movie, “The Secret!” (One of my favs!)
I was a vegan, firewalking, hippie freak who had never heard of, let alone played, the game “corn hole.”
Besides physical attraction, what the hell did we see in each other?
Common values.
Although on the outside we appeared to have little in common, we both had a deep desire to have one more relationship… just one more, and it had to be magical!
We both valued learning, growing, and family. We valued honesty, and clean living. We valued excellent communication and friendship. We both valued hard work and ambition. We valued generosity and volunteering.
And it was these values that brought us together, and keep us together.
Sit down and make a list of your values so you can get a clearer picture of the things you want in a soul mate! You may discover that you have been looking for love in all the wrong places!
What would you do for your soul mate? Absolutely anything right?
So once you find him, you will be more than happy to take an interest in the things that interest him and vice verse!
What good is it if he shares your love of cooking but hates to tell the truth?
When Thad and I got together, he eventually stopped eating meat, and I even went hiking and camping! Not because we asked, forced, or required one another to do so, but because we value one another so much that we make an effort to participate in one another’s interests.
And very often, we discover that we enjoy something we didn’t know we liked!
Listen, single people all over the world are doing it wrong! Help them find their soul mate by sharing this article!
As always, if you need some help, just contact me!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
If you are ready to join the mission to raise emotional intelligence and teach others how to as well, please learn more about the Live Inspired Now Coach Training and get your FREE 6 Day Mini Coaching Course:
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
PS: HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!! <3
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!