The sooner we realize that we control nothing in this world except ourselves, the sooner we find happiness! People spend so much time in their personal relationships trying to change other people. Trying to change the feelings of their lover, wishing their boss would be more appreciative, attempting to prove to co-workers that they know better, manipulating friends out of guilt, or even using emotional blackmail against children or parents. NONE of these behaviors will truly change another person, it will however damage or in many cases, sever the relationship.
If you don’t like the way things look, change the way YOU look at them. You are the only person responsible for the way you view things and the way you treat other people. If you are constantly trying to change others, you can’t truly appreciate them. Change the way you look at things, find ways to appreciate and encourage. Find ways to look at things in a new light, with a new perspective. You have a lot to offer the world and so does everyone else. If you can’t find a way to appreciate another person, walk away, it is not your responsibility to change them. Change the way you look at the world, find ways to be appreciative and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
My whirlwind life has not slowed down at all…. lately, busier than ever! Summer is here, 4 kids at home and we are in the process of moving to a new home. I have been thinking a lot lately about the process of getting things done and how stressful it can be… if we let it. Hectic doesn’t have to mean unhappy. You can survive and even thrive in chaos if you get your attitude straight about it. So in the midst of moving, MOMMMM….., dog surgery, new goats arriving, MOM I NEED THIS……., packing, cleaning, MOM I NEED THAT…….., serving clients, laundry, MOM MY FAVORITE SHIRT IS AT THE NEW HOUSE…….., driving kids around, organizing and donating, working with my book publisher……… OK OK… you get it… it’s busy! lol. All that chaos would have killed me years ago but I am doing pretty well staying present and enjoying the process.
As I pack, I think about being one step closer to living in my new dream home with my family. As the kids beckon me, I think about how much space they will have once we have moved. As the dog recovers, I think about all the acres he will have to run around on. As I drive to see clients, I think about the new home office that will allow me to see clients in my home. My mantra these days is “Enjoy the process; otherwise, you are living for the future and missing the present.” The process has become much more enjoyable knowing that I am happy in the present while I am working toward something in the future!
If you are doing something you just can’t enjoy, acknowledge it but stay present in the process, knowing that it leads you to something better. The process of getting to your next goal or step in life is often more fun than arriving so enjoy the process and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
My Grandma Bea used to say “Every day that I wake up and have a dollar for a cup of coffee and gas money… I am good!” She loved to wake up early each day and drive to the cafe to have a coffee with her friends; she did this until her last day. I loved hanging out with my Grandma because she was crazy!! lol. She knew how to have fun, she made the most of every moment, and she was never embarrassed to be herself. I always admired her and probably got some of my zest for life from her.
My grandma loved extravagant furnishings… gold wall paper and white furry rugs. She also loved to drive and never missed a chance to take a road trip… long or short.
What have you always wanted to do? What excuse is holding you back and are you ready to let go of it yet? The fact is, the only guarantee in life is death so make the most of it while you can! What have you been saying “no” to? What have you been too embarrassed to try or wear? LIVE IT UP MY FRIENDS!!! Take a lesson from my Grandma…. live life to the fullest and never let anyone tell you what you should wear, say, think, believe, feel, or do!
Today, I am off to finish painting my office. I am entering a painting contest and my office wall is my creative submission. My wall has hot pink, black, the word INSPIRE, waves and stripes… and, why not! I LOVE it… so what if it’s a little bold! (I will post a picture here when it’s done.)
So today… I hope you will be creative or do something you have always been too shy to try or too intimidated to pull off. Life is short, live and play like it’s you last day! Do things you love, enjoy every magic moment and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
As long as you continue to look for people to “make you happy” you will continue to be unhappy. Relationships that exist to serve your needs will fail. If you are looking for the person to take care of you, to complete you, to make you happy, to motivate you, to love you, to provide for you, to raise your kids, or to make you happy, you will not find them. YOU have to be a whole person in order to have a healthy, happy relationship.
Love is about giving, not receiving. Everyone thinks you fall in love… not true; you decide to love. You make the choice to love another person. Love is an action, it is something you decide to do and sometimes that means making hard decisions that don’t seem to work in your favor. Love isn’t staying and tolerating abuse. Love isn’t pushing people away or checking out of the relationship. Love isn’t just about staying together. In fact, sometimes love means going your separate ways. Love is putting the needs of the person you love first…. even if it means leaving. Love isn’t about having control over another person. Love wants the other person to be free and freely love back. Love is unselfish.
Love is unconditional; tolerance is not. Even with children…. you can love them but you never have to allow abuse of any kind. You are accountable for what you continue to put up with. There are no awards in life for the person who puts up with the most amount of bullshit. It is OK to put distance between yourself and a person who is abusive…. even if it’s your child. You teach people how to treat you by what you put up with. Never accept abuse for yourself and never abuse another person.
Love is a wonderful thing, but make sure you know what it really is. It is not about control, it is not about monitoring one another, it is not about pointing out each others flaws, it is not name calling, it is not manipulative, it is not painful, it is not a trap, it is not something to be used against one another. Love is simple, beautiful, selfless, compassionate, and kind. Love is giving without expectations in return. Love is not about doing whats easy, it’s about doing whats right for one another.
Are you really “loving” your partner? Are you putting their needs first? Are you making an attempt to understand and be compassionate? Are you looking at the role you have played in the challenges you face? Are you quick to point out the others faults without considering your own? Are you ready and willing to truly LOVE without conditions? Think about love today and make any changes you think might help your relationship and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Don’t forget to take some “ME” time to replenish yourself. School is ending for most people, summer is here and things are ’bout to get crazy!’ lol. I don’t know about you but the past 2 weeks have been a complete whirlwind for us! Our family traveled to Rhode Island for my oldest daughter and nephews graduations. My daughter also enlisted in the Air Force while we were there. My 11 year olds are about to turn 12 and they just graduated from elementary school. We have another graduation this week as well as packing, painting, and moving to the new house. Our dog also had surgery so we are helping him recover through all the chaos! Oh my goodness…… it is a very busy summer so far and it just got started! Personally, I thrive in chaos but if you are the type who needs more certainty or routine, this can feel extremely overwhelming which is why it’s so important to take “ME” time!
Thad and I are remembering to take time for ourselves. Thad’s birthday was this past weekend as well as our wedding anniversary. We made time to celebrate our special day with an overnight getaway and a romantic dinner cruise. You have to make time for yourself to get away and replenish.
It is vitally important to “fill your cup” and let everyone else have what flows over the edge… everything inside is for YOU. If you don’t replenish, you will feel drained and taken advantage of. If you don’t reconnect as a couple, you will feel distant and lonely. You have to make ME/US time always…. a few minutes every single day, a few hours per week and a few days per month.
Today, the 3 Goddesses are having a special broadcast about “ME time!” We will be on spreecast today at 12:00 eastern, please join us. You will learn the benefits of taking time for yourself as well as HOW to make time for yourself with a hectic schedule. So today, please join us, learn how to make “ME” time for yourself and Live Inspired Now!
If you can’t make it today at noon, please click the link anytime after the broadcast and you can watch the replay!
‘We are bringing ME TIME back’ with the 3 Goddesses on Spreecast!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
