I love this quote by Basil King: “Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.” I often take bold steps and encourage others to do the same. Bold is subjective, so use your own sense to gauge the “boldness” of what you are doing. My son Harry thinks I am bold because of my “why not” attitude. He recently said to me that he loved how I always say “why not” when he asks about trying something new. I encourage everyone to ask for things they think they won’t get because sometimes just being bold enough to ask is enough to get a yes instead of a no. For example, I have taught my kids to talk to their teachers and see if they can work out deals at school. A couple years ago, Harry was falling behind in his science class and I encouraged him to talk to the teacher about doing an extra credit art project to improve his grade. Although he didn’t think she would say yes, he spoke with her and she agreed to let him do some art work for her and she boosted his grade. On another occasion, Harry had his art work displayed in a museum because I was bold enough to ask that they consider his work despite his age. To this day, Harry is the only child artist that was included in one of their exhibits.
I can’t tell you how many wonderful things have happened in my life because I was bold enough to simply ask. These include: jobs, speaking engagements, raises, and other opportunities. Don’t just seek opportunities, create them! So today, be bold and allow the mighty Universe to align for you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Are you sick and tired of getting kicked around emotionally? Learn to create clear boundaries and take your life back! Join me today with my coach friends Jodi and Joanne for a fun talk that will help you find solutions to the following questions:
Do you have a tough time with boundaries?
Do you know when to say NO?
Do you know where to draw the line with kids?
Do you have a friendship that goes only one way; you give they take?
Do you overextend yourself?
Do you have lots of needy people in your life?
Are you a wishy washy parent?
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Often, when in the midst of chaos, it is difficult to imagine that good things could result from bad but they do. There will always be “bad” things that happen; give it enough time and you will be able to see the bigger picture. Life is a journey of discovery, learning, joy, sorrow, and a compilation of relationships. Don’t get so caught up in the day to day events that you miss the excitement of each new step along your journey. You will have fortune and misfortune, relationships that come and go, jobs lost then jobs gained, and friends that will leave to make room for new friends. Never be so distracted by unfortunate events that you lose faith in the journey because the one thing that is universal it that life goes on. So today, make peace with what is, make the very most of the journey and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
One of the biggest complaints I hear about is that people cannot rest, especially at night because they have non stop thoughts racing through their head. Here are some tips to calm your mind and get some rest.
1. Break the habit by using an abrupt halt: Slap your hand on a table or give yourself a slap on your upper arm and tell yourself sharply to STOP. This will break your pattern, do it as often as necessary.
2. Distract yourself by changing what you are thinking about. Have a couple of “go to” thoughts that you can distract yourself with. Something funny or a very happy memory are the best.
3. Schedule a time later to think about whatever is bothering you. This gives yourself permission to put it off til later without just trying to “forget about it.”
4. Ground yourself in the present moment. Take an inventory of your immediate physical surroundings to bring yourself to where you are at the moment. IE: I am in my bed, I have my green blanket on me, it feels warm, I hear the dog snoring, I can smell a vanilla candle and I am OK right now in this moment.
5. Question yourself then develop better thoughts. Ask yourself if this is something that you can control. If it is, you can come up with solutions or ask for help and schedule a time to do so. If it is out of your control, then ask yourself why you continue to think about it and is there a better way to look at the situation. For example: If you are thinking over and over about a rejection, ask yourself what this really means. You might be thinking “She doesn’t like me, she refuses to go out with me, I am a complete loser. I will never find happiness.” Is this really true? Offer evidence to the contrary: “I am NOT a loser just because one person doesn’t want to go out with me. I have had relationships in the past and I have very good friends and family that care about me. She may not want to date me but that just means she is not the right one. I will focus on being happy and living a great life and the right person will come in time!”
6. Hire an excellent coach! Not everyone will be able to do #5 on their own. Sometimes it is hard to remember all the amazing things about yourself when you are hurting. Hiring a good life coach will help you see the reality of a situation and get you through the challenges. It is always good to have a professional guide you through these types of things and you will LOVE the results!
So today, don’t be a victim of your own mind. Get some relief from your thoughts, be free, rest well and Live Inspired Now!
Contact me today if you need support getting through challenges… you will LOVE the results!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Many times clients come to see me carrying burdens that aren’t even their own. Burdens they are carrying from parents or spouses or sometimes even from television or media. It is possible to become vicariously traumatized by another person’s story. It is hard enough to carry your own problems around, let alone the problems of the world. You don’t have to be in control of everything because, in fact, you are not. You don’t have to carry around problems, you can let them go and move forward. Free yourself of heavy burdens by learning to release yourself from their constraints. You will not believe how much lighter and happier you will feel.
I personally used to carry around the weight of the world. I felt everybody’s pain and felt obligated not to forget about it. I am not exactly sure how I had become this way but I will never forget the moment I realized that I could let go. I was sitting in my living room many years ago and I was upset about something that had happened years before. I caught myself focusing on this one horrible world event so I decided to meditate to try and clear my mind. My meditation turned into contemplation and as I contemplated, I questioned myself. I challenged myself by asking the question “Why are you still allowing a memory to control you? Why are you losing the joy of today to the sorrow of yesterday?” This contemplation made me realize that I was robbing myself of moving forward and feeling good because I had let myself focus on something that time had already taken care of.
I felt so overwhelmed and free that I cried. It was amazing to just simply realize that I didn’t have to hold myself accountable for all the wrongs in the world and that I could feel bad momentarily but then decide to move on. It is extremely tiring to carry a never ending burden and there is no reward for that type of martyrdom.
So today, think about the “burdens” you are carrying and determine whether they are even yours or not. Then think about stepping aside and letting them go. What is the price of letting go? What is the bigger price of continuing to hold on? Let go, move forward and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
