Men, start paying attention to your lady, that is what she wants more than anything! Women want to feel like they are the most important person in your life, they want you to be fully present. That means, not watching television while they are telling you about their day, and yes, they may tell you every last detail right down to the ugly boots the woman at the store had on. It may be completely irrelevant information but be thankful that she wants to share with you. Just let her talk and express herself, don’t try to correct her or fix any of it unless she asks, she just needs to get the words out.
Also, when a woman is “emotional,” that is when you need to be present even more! Stand strong through her storm and show her that you are an immovable force that she can count on. Women like to know that their men are strong enough to handle it and won’t run away. Take your woman in your arms and hold her, just let her cry and rant and quietly hold her. Women like to test their men and his strength, don’t be afraid to push back, don’t let her emasculate you. Stand up and take action, don’t be afraid to assert yourself in a way that will make your lady understand how you feel. You have to be strong enough and allow her to be vulnerable. If she is “taking care of everything and everyone” she will never feel taken care of herself. Take out the garbage, drive the car, open her doors, carry the heavy stuff, buy the saw blades and when she tries to do it, don’t let her! Tell her that you are her man and you need to do certain things so you can take care of her! (Of course the specific things are different for every couple, but you get the idea.) Just man up, take care of your woman, pay attention to her, make her feel like your queen, truly listen to her, do the man jobs, bring her flowers, be strong and immovable, communicate openly and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Ladies, stop trying to prove to your men how strong you are, you might render them useless! I get this from so many couples, the woman is upset because the man has become emasculated. Ladies, you need to allow your men to be men. You are not in competition, you are in a relationship. Every relationship has roles that need to be filled, don’t try to fill your mans role.
Men and women are NOT equal. Yes, we deserve equal human rights, but we are far from equal. (Again, we deserve equal human rights, no one is less valuable than another.) Allow your man to do things for you; let them carry the heavy bags instead of saying “I can do it, I can do it!” Yes, you CAN do it, but he wants to help you, that is an act of kindness it doesn’t take away from your strength. Also remember, our men are our partners, not our children. If they leave their socks on the floor, so what? Either pick them up or ignore them…. do you want a clean bedroom or a happy husband? Seriously, people make big things out of little ones and that is what causes frustration. When you “scold” him about the socks, it puts you in a parental role and then it becomes harder for him to act like a man. A man doesn’t want to ravage your body and treat you like a woman if you act like his mom.
I know all this sounds harsh, and I will address the men tomorrow but for today, it’s all about us ladies. Treat your man like a king and he will make your his queen and there is nothing wrong with being the queen! Embrace your feminine essence and let the man express his masculinity. Don’t turn him into your girlfriend, because you rob him of his role as man, husband, mate, protector, bag carrier, door holder, knight in shining armor, ravager, lover, partner and so much more. Most men want nothing more than to please their women and see them smile, smile at your man, thank him for wanting to take care of you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Thad and I listen to the radio while getting ready for work each day and we enjoy the random facts that they report. Today they were reporting on what percentage of men don’t know this and that about their women. 12% of men didn’t know their woman birthday and an even higher percentages didn’t know their sizes, favorite stores and even their cell phone number. Yikes! No wonder there is such a high divorce rate! Get to know your partner! Show them that you are interested in them, take notice of the things they like or do. Be present for your partner, when they are talking, truly listen, notice their expressions and don’t do anything that could distract you. (You can’t be fully present for your partner while watching television or emailing a co-worker.) Let your partner know how much you appreciate what they do and that you notice even the simple things. If your partners co-workers or close friends know more about them than you do, there is a problem. Make sure to let your partner know they are the most important person in your world. Get to know them better, learn the basic facts as well as their nuances, show them how interested you are and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
What is worse than being alone? Being with people who make you feel alone. Choose well, listen to your inner voice, don’t go along with things you know to be wrong or that don’t feel right just because you don’t want to be alone. Being with someone who treats your poorly, ignores you or makes you feel very lonely is not a good relationship! Don’t settle, hang in there and value yourself enough to find a quality relationship based on truth, friendship, mutual appreciation and respect, trust, kindness and putting one another first. (This goes for friendships too, not just romantic relationships.) Today, set a new standard for your life and relationship, don’t spend time with people who make you feel completely alone and Live Inspired Now.
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
I was talking to my daughter Carrie yesterday and she was describing her demeanor at school. She said she is friends with this group and that group, she isn’t afraid to wear what she wants, she is nice to everyone and she is not afraid to give her opinion (respectfully) even when the teacher disagrees. I was proud and asked her if she knew what all this meant. She wasn’t sure so I smiled and proclaimed her to be a “leader!” I explained that her genuine concern for others, fearless approach to style and her willingness to be open minded makes her a natural leader! She was pretty excited and then explained how her closest friends were also leaders too! I told her to always be genuine to who she is. I told her that being a leader meant not letting other people “dare” you into doing things, following your own style not trends, being brave, standing up for what is right, having a quiet confidence and never letting anyone stand in the way of your dreams, goals or purpose!
Be genuine to who YOU are, don’t let others dictate what you wear, who you see or what you say, be true to the real you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
