I like to think about the actions we take as stemming from a network of various inner commitments, and like to investigate people’s results by the commitments they maintain.Many of the people I work with tell me they would like to become more social,but spend countless hours NOT talking to people. This is what Robert Keagan calls a competing commitment. It can be said that these people are more committed to NOT talking to people than to talking to people. People take action when their inner commitments align. One of the most important indicators I’ve found of whether someone will follow through on accomplishing a task is the inner commitment to accomplish something even if they deal with disappointment, struggle, and not getting things perfect.
So I ask you: what are you committed to? Are you willing and committed to dealing with all of the inevitable BS that it may take to accomplish what you want? If so, I honor your determination; if not, good luck – you’ll probably need it.
Martin Lanzas
Life Transformation Expert and Coach
martin@martinlanzas.com
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
One year ago today, I married my best friend and life has never been the same! The past year has been an exciting one, full of fun, laughs, tears, trials but most of all love. Other couples might have crumbled under the weight of the chaos from outside influences we have experienced but we have grown stronger together in love.
We have combined and built a loving family with strong bonds and provided stability for our children. We have opened our hearts to many and are teaching our kids to generously share our lives and our home with the people we care about. We live each day to the fullest, making memories in every moment and teaching our kids that life waits for no one. We have taken risks and been brave together, we have leaned on one another, we have motivated each other but most of all we have INSPIRED each other. We choose to live each day as if it were our last, knowing that the most important moments in life are the ones spent together.
Our lives began the moment we met. We are blessed to have found in the other what was missing in ourselves. Our love grows stronger and bolder every day, taking nothing for granted, making memories in each moment, always remembering to put each other first, always each others biggest fan, best friends forever, learning from and appreciating one another, protecting each other, raising healthy kids, setting a good example, helping those in need, opening our home and hearts, not caring about what others think, never judging, living with passion and most of all….. loving without limits.
I love you Thad, now and always!
**We are renewing our vows today and then off for our honeymoon! I will be featuring guest bloggers over the next week… please enjoy their posts! They are all truly amazing and INSPIRED friends and colleagues!**
LIVE INSPIRED NOW!!!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Being silly the other day I randomly responded to my friends facebook posts with things that made no sense. It was really funny! My friend Dawn and I posted nonsensical mumbo jumbo just to get a laugh and the funny part was that people responded seriously to it. (Kind of like the time I posted about my utter disdain for raisins) lol. So today, insert a little zaniness, respond ridiculously to people in person or on facebook and Live Inspired Now!
PS…. picking up my HOT PINK convertible today!!! Pics tonight or tomorrow… check back soon!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
My friend Chris and I were swapping parenting stories the other day and she said something that inspired this post. She said she told her daughter: “I expect you to be a teenager so you better expect me to be the Mom!” That quote is perfect and I fully agree! I work with so many parents that want to be friends with their teens but that is unrealistic. Friendly yes, but friends NO. As a parent you have to do the hard work of sometimes being the bad guy, setting guidelines and telling kids no when needed. You cannot skew the boundaries with kids because kids by nature test limits and push boundaries. If they don’t know where the lines are, they are sure to cross them. It is hard enough to parent in this day and age when there are so many outside forces influencing kids, they need to have one place (home) where they know their role, they fit in, get unconditional love and acceptance as well as structure, stability and consequences. I work with kids all the time that actually crave some sort of structure because their home life is so loose and there are no boundaries. So today, let your kids know that you are the parent and they should expect you to be the “Mom or Dad” and do whatever it takes to keep them safe and healthy and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
I am always amazed by people who tip toe around subjects and use words that don’t truly express the intensity of emotion that they are feeling. Now I’m not saying become a complete potty mouth, and there is definitely a time and place to be more proper but there is some amount of power that comes from using a swear word in the appropriate connotation! I actually swear all the time when working with clients because the “taboo” words incite an emotional and often physiological response that you just cant get otherwise. I could have my client say “Yes, I plan to lose weight” but that really would not resonate with them on a deep level and will set them up for failure. Instead, I have my clients say things like “I AM GOING TO LOSE THIS FUCKING WEIGHT… I FUCKING HATE IT AND I WILL NEVER BE FAT AGAIN!!! You are more likely to have success with these words because they have emotion behind them! They are powerful and remap your thinking. So today, use some powerful swear words and Live Inspired Now!
PS… I am all for using swear words to facilitate personal changes and to paint a picture of reality but never for use as a name calling weapon against someone.
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
