I was standing at the door, I didn’t want to knock because I hate parties. I didn’t really want to go, but I was obligated. I could hear the music inside, I could see the movement of people through the windows. I could almost smell the food being served inside. My stomach was in knots.
I stood there a moment thinking…
“Maybe I could run back to my car? Would anyone see me through the window? I hate parties.”
Then my inner pep talk kicked in…
“Just need to go in, hang for an hour, then unceremoniously sneak out! You’ve got this! Smile! Everyone would miss you if you didn’t at least stop by. It’s important to them that you are there! Just do it Heather…..” Knock Knock!!
The bravest people give themselves pep talks! They don’t always count on other people to inspire, motivate, or encourage them. Instead, they pull what they need from themselves!
You can cheer on, encourage, and inspire all day long but when it comes right down to it, WE need to find our own inner voice because that is the only voice that is always with us!
This is a great skill to teach kids too!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Shit rolls down hill but so does kindness!
Kids will say, do, and behave the way you do!
They will love, nurture, appreciate, compliment, grow, learn, and light up the way you do.
They will also hate, avoid, ignore, insult, and self deprecate the way you do as well.
Negative emotions aren’t bad unless you don’t know how to handle them!
Currently, more than 1 in 5 children have a “mental illness.” This is NOT because all of the sudden kids just started being born mentally ill.
It’s directly because kids today do not learn emotional intelligence which leaves them susceptible to influences that will negatively impact their development.
It’s up to us as parents, teachers, mentors, and caring adults to be the example we want our kids to become!
Here are a few suggestions to up your parenting game:
- Greet your kids when they arrive home from school
- Provide nutrient dense food and snacks
- Give kids a bed time and abide by it
- Don’t allow screens at the dinner table
- Have dinner together at the table
- Sit and talk with your kids without phones, computers, and social media
- Know your kids friends
- Say NO to your kids now and then
- Do not do their homework or projects
- Let them discuss challenges with their teachers without your help
- Give them chores and enforce that they do them
- Read together, take a class together, exercise together, do something TOGETHER
- Praise efforts not results
- Ask and LISTEN
- Empower don’t enable
I’ve always tried to raise my kids based on this quote:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
-Kahlil Gibran
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Have an exceptional week!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Carrie, Harry, and Madison on one of our adventures to the park!
“EAT SOMETHING, AND BE IN THE CAR IN 15 MINUTES!!!”
This has become one of my kids all time favorite phrases!
At least once per Summer, I’d wake my kids up with this phrase! And after a while, they learned not to ask questions, they would eat quickly, and excitedly pile into the car because they knew….. it’s adventure time!
Growing up, my mother took flying lessons, worked at NASA, and drove a silver convertible. My dad blasted rock and roll music on his reel to reel and took us to the record store where we would look at albums for what seemed like hours! On my birthday, they would bring me to the toy store and say “pick out one thing… whatever you want!”
My parents were adventurous, I am adventurous, and now my kids are adventurous! That’s how it works!
So after the kids wake up, eat something, and pile into the car… I drive! I let them guess where we are going but I never tell them. Then it happens…. we pull into the amusement park and squeals of delight can be heard!
Every year it’s some place new… not always an amusement park, but always someplace fun and unexpected.
There is nothing more special than sharing an adventure with the ones you love most!
It doesn’t have to be anything expensive either! You could pack a picnic, the kids bathing suits, and head to the park. Or coordinate with other parents and meet up at a playground and let all the kids play together!
Whatever you do…. create a suspenseful adventure and you will be the HERO of the Summer!!! You can do this for your spouse too!
Fun, adventure, excitement, and spontaneity are not just for kids! Throw romance in there as well and really knock it out of the park!!
Create your adventure today and let me know what you do! Maybe I’ll steal YOUR idea too! 🙂
Have a spectacular week!
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3 different clients made me say these words this week:
“You are NOT the mood police!”
This is one of the most prevalent challenges in our society today…. we feel the need to correct or fix the feelings of other people because we feel their bad mood is a reflection of us as a person.
Imagine this:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife is irritated by husband’s cranky mood so she tries to make him feel happy.
- Husband doesn’t want to feel happy right now. He wants to be left alone to think for a bit.
- Wife gets even more irritated that husband won’t “snap out of it.”
- Wife feels rejected and becomes cranky.
- Husband and wife argue and it escalates from crankiness to anger and now they both retreat away from one another to stew in rejection and misery.
- Kids are now upset too because Mom and Dad are fighting again.
It doesn’t have to be like this!
Imagine this instead:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife asks if he’d like to talk about it.
- Husband says “No thank you, I’d prefer to have some time alone to stew.”
- Wife says “OK my love, take all the time you need.”
- Husband goes and has some alone time.
- Wife goes and plays with the kids.
- An hour later the husband emerges and thanks his wife for allowing him some time and they escalate into a supportive conversation about the days frustrations.
- Kids see a Mom and Dad lovingly supporting one another and feel happy and secure.
Other people are entitled to feel however they want to feel. It is not our job to constantly police moods, feelings, or emotions! And remember this…
Another persons emotions are NOT a reflection of you, your parenting, your relationship, your abilities, or your productivity! Your spouse does NOT love you because of what you provide. They love you because you are you!
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With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Your kiddo would like you to know that when YOU feel good, THEY feel good!!!
It really is that simple.
Parents over work and under take care of themselves so they can “provide” for the family but what the kid really wants is for you to be happy.
In fact, every kid I talk to cares more about their parents happiness than they do about their cell phones. They would give up all their electronic toys if it meant their parents would smile, laugh, and spend quality time with them.
Your kids will only ever be as OK as you are!
Stress rolls downhill! If you are stressed so are they. And blanket statements like “I have to work to provide all the nice things you have!” does not negate their stress!
Think about that. No really think about it……….
When was the last time someone stressed themselves out for you and you felt good about it?
Likely, never! Unless you’re a sociopath (and you’re not) you would never want someone else to be stressed to the max for you! You would feel horrible!
So. Take better care of yourself. There is a 100% link between mental health and physical health.
Work less, workout more…. and ask the kids to join you! You don’t have to go kill it at a gym… just take a walk, or a hike together!
Eat less, cook more…. and ask the kids to join you in the kitchen! You don’t have to prepare a 5 course meal… but cook a healthy meal instead of grabbing take out all of the time.
Your kids want you to spend time with them more than they want you to spend money on them. So cut the stress and hug your babies! Listen… they move out on their own far quicker than you realize!
You don’t want them to reach 18 and be dying to leave the house because it’s so stressful! You want them to feel bittersweet… happy to start a new adventure, but also miss you! That way they come back to visit!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
UPDATE: I’ve lost 40 pounds which is 160 pounds of pressure off my joints!! I feel amazing and have loads of energy, and I’ve seen a shift in my own kids and how they are eating as well!!!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!