Create an incredible space in YOUR home….

June 2, 2013 | Posted in General | By

I have spent the past 2 days at our new home painting walls. It looks incredible! I am creating a spa like feel in my bedroom with a deep rich green paint color and warm mocha carpeting. You don’t have to break the bank to create an inviting or relaxing space in your home. Paint is cheap for the amount of impact you get. There are limitless options to creating something unique that will make you feel like you are in the most beautiful place in the world… your own home. Do some research online, look up designer rooms to get ideas. The websites www.pinterest.com and www.houzz.com have awesome ideas to look at. Then create something beautiful that reflects you and your family. Even if you only do one room, make it amazing. Create a bedroom for you and your spouse to escape to and feel like lovers. Or create a kitchen that makes you feel like a gourmet chef! Or how about a formal living room to entertain your friends in. Ohhh… or even a basement fun room to watch the games! Don’t wish for an amazing and beautiful home, create one and Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Raise a child you will be proud of!

May 31, 2013 | Posted in General | By

If you want to raise kids that you can be proud of, be a parent that they can be proud of. I see parents who insult or call their children names and then wonder why the kids are mean. Or parents who get drunk or high with the kids around and then wonder why their kids become addicts. Kids watch you, they do what you do and repeat what you say. They see the choices you make and will act the way you do. If you are in a volatile or abusive relationship, they are at a much higher risk for doing the same. They could either become an abuser or the abused. Kids see how you react to things. If you fly off the handle and get angry all the time, they learn anger which becomes their default reaction, and they are likely to fear you. If you don’t treat others kindly or with respect, it is doubtful that your kids will, and they are likely to get in trouble at school for being disrespectful. If you create chaos or gossip, don’t be surprised when your children are constantly in the middle of whatever the current drama is.
In contrast… when your children see you doing acts of kindness, helping others, speaking highly of people, acting appropriately, reacting to challenges with compassion, and making good choices, don’t be surprised when your kids do the same! Kids will always push some boundaries and get in trouble sometimes, but give them the best possible start by modeling good behavior. Children are our reflections, good and bad, so have high standards for yourself. Model self respect, dignity, kindness, confidence, altruism, healthy choices, and healthy relationships, and let your kids know that you want the best for them as well. It’s not always easy to parent but your best results come when you set a highly positive and healthy standard for your family. Make your actions, reactions, and interactions healthy and happy and Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Free yourself from depression!

May 30, 2013 | Posted in General | By

 

Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired? Have you ever exaggerated medical “conditions” because it made you feel good to get attention or a break? Are you still “depressed” even though you have been on ANTI-depressants for years? Do you want to know how to save yourself?

Join myself and my friends Jodi and Joanne, aka Three Goddesses, for today’s free broadcast at 11:00am eastern and learn how to get past all this and Live Inspired Now! 

Three Goddesses on Spreecast:
http://www.spreecast.com/events/three-goddesses-funk-you-depression


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Your EGO causes your pain….

May 29, 2013 | Posted in General | By

I often hear from people that they don’t want to risk getting hurt so they don’t do anything to try and improve their relationship. Meanwhile, they live every day hurt and resentful because the relationship is not where they want it to be. So you can continue to live with hurt feelings, pain, resentment, numbness, disgust, and rejection, or you can try to change it. Yes, you may have to let go of your ego and put yourself out there. Yes, it may be the other persons fault. Yes, it is scary to show your feelings. But what do you want more? An improved relationship or an ego stroking? Be brave and take the first step. Tell your significant other that you love and cherish them and see how they respond. Let them know how important they are and how much you appreciate their contribution to your relationship. Tell them they are handsome/beautiful and that you get excited when you see them. Just let them know how much you care and how you want things to be amazing between you and see what happens.
It is true, not all relationships will work out. Wouldn’t you like to know that and have the opportunity to move forward? Or, you just might be surprised what happens when you kill your ego and do things to improve your relationship. Your partner might just step up and follow your lead. Either way, you will know and you can move forward, and stop living with hurt and resentment.
Drop the ego today, make the first move toward healing your relationship. Take down the walls and allow your partner the opportunity to help you recreate the passion and love, and Live Inspired Now!

PS: Feel free to contact me to heal YOUR relationship!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

7 Survival Secrets for Single Parents….

May 28, 2013 | Posted in General | By

Yesterday, a reader asked me how to deal with being a single parent; specifically, how this makes her feel like the “bad guy” because her ex gets to be the fun visitation dad while she takes care of the day to day stuff. She stated that she feels it is “unfair” when her child lashes out at her and never acts this way towards the dad.

Here is my advice for all single parents (Dads and Moms):

1. Make time to have fun and celebrate. You can also enjoy your children. Create a time each week that you do something together that you will both enjoy. Maybe schedule a play date with your child. for example, every Wednesday after school you go to the park and swing. Schedule a pizza and movie night, have a tickle time each day, make a night to cook together, spread paper all over the floor and have a coloring party, create a treasure map and go on a treasure hunt through the house, hide secret notes for one another, etc…. There are a million ways to have fun with your kids that don’t cost anything either, so be sure that you are doing these things! The dishes can wait…. your relationship with your kid is more important. YOU are allowed to have fun too! During the “fun” time, don’t do anything else, just have fun!

2. Get support! There are tons of support groups for single parents online and in real life. Align yourself with others who can support and encourage you. Share your experiences and stories and you won’t feel like the only person going through it. Maybe you can even trade babysitting back and forth too!

3. Make time for yourself. While the kids are on visitation with the other  parent, do something nice for YOU. If you can’t afford to go out and get a massage or go get dinner, then take advantage of a quiet house. Read a book, take a bath, work on a project that you enjoy… do something that will make YOU feel good, rested, cared for, and pampered.

4. Be honest with your kids. There is nothing wrong with explaining to the kids that when they are with the other parent, they get to have fun because it is the weekend and they don’t have to go to school or work so they can enjoy the time more. Let them know that during the week you have responsibilities to take care of so there is less time for fun. Let them know you are a team and that you count on them for their help and let them know you will schedule in time for you both to have fun as well. Never insult  or call the other parent names. Instead, be honest about the situation and use age appropriate language to explain the differences between the different households. Encourage them to have fun and enjoy their time with the other parent. Remember it is their parent and they love them.

5. Stop expecting things to be “fair.” Life isn’t fair, it’s not supposed to be. It may seem unfair that you have to be the “bad guy” when the other parent gets to have all the fun but what about the child? Do they think it’s “fair” that he/she has parents that are getting divorced? Does the visitation parent think its “fair” that they only see their kid twice a month? Life isn’t fair, change what you are thinking about. Instead of feeling badly about being seen as the bad guy by your child sometimes, focus on the fact that you get the opportunity to raise your child and make the every day decisions. That is a blessing not afforded to all parents. You have to change your thinking by focusing on your blessings. Focus on that sweet little face that you get to see each morning and remember what a gift that is.

6. Choose your battles. You are only one person, you may have to let some things go! You may want your kids to pick up their laundry off of the floor, but if it’s going to be a battle, weigh whether or not it is worth it. Decide which battles you can let go of and then make peace with it. Just like life is not fair, it is also not perfect. You are a single parent, it is OK if the house is not perfect at all times. Let go of some things and keep your sanity!

7. Be clear and consistent. Let your child know that no means no and follow through with consequences. Wishy washy parents have an increasingly difficult time as their children age. The lack of consistent rules prevents kids from learning about boundaries and can put them in difficult situations with other kids or adults. They also don’t learn to respect the rules and may have difficulties in school or with authority. Don’t dismiss consequences just because your kid pitches a fit. Let them know you love them and explain the consequences and be firm. Hang in there… you can handle it!

Parenting is hard work sometimes but in the end, all that matters is that you emerge with a healthy and loving relationship with your child. Keep that in mind when deciding what battles to choose. Remember also that kids are not as skilled yet in expressing their emotions so they may express frustrations with an “I hate you Mom,” or a “You don’t really love me Dad.” These are just words of frustration and are not likely to be true. Don’t take it personally, we as adults even say things out of anger sometimes. Just remember, you are building a life long relationship with your child, there will be bumps in the road but their will also be rainbows. Enjoy the magic moments and survive the challenges. Laugh often and Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!