You are NOT the mood police…

July 10, 2017 | Posted in Challenges, Communication, Family, General, Happiness, Parenting, Relationships | By

3 different clients made me say these words this week:

“You are NOT the mood police!” 

This is one of the most prevalent challenges in our society today…. we feel the need to correct or fix the feelings of other people because we feel their bad mood is a reflection of us as a person.

Imagine this:

  1. Husband is in a cranky mood.
  2. Wife is irritated by husband’s cranky mood so she tries to make him feel happy.
  3. Husband doesn’t want to feel happy right now. He wants to be left alone to think for a bit.
  4. Wife gets even more irritated that husband won’t “snap out of it.”
  5. Wife feels rejected and becomes cranky.
  6. Husband and wife argue and it escalates from crankiness to anger and now they both retreat away from one another to stew in rejection and misery.
  7. Kids are now upset too because Mom and Dad are fighting again.
The End….. of their relationships if that happens enough!

It doesn’t have to be like this!

Imagine this instead:

  1. Husband is in a cranky mood.
  2. Wife asks if he’d like to talk about it.
  3. Husband says “No thank you, I’d prefer to have some time alone to stew.”
  4. Wife says “OK my love, take all the time you need.”
  5. Husband goes and has some alone time.
  6. Wife goes and plays with the kids.
  7. An hour later the husband emerges and thanks his wife for allowing him some time and they escalate into a supportive conversation about the days frustrations.
  8. Kids see a Mom and Dad lovingly supporting one another and feel happy and secure.
The End.

Other people are entitled to feel however they want to feel. It is not our job to constantly police moods, feelings, or emotions! And remember this…

Another persons emotions are NOT a reflection of you, your parenting, your relationship, your abilities, or your productivity! Your spouse does NOT love you because of what you provide. They love you because you are you! 

What does this topic mean to you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris

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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Parachute pants & husbands… how are they connected?

June 27, 2017 | Posted in Feel Good, General, Happiness, Personal Development, Relationships | By

Parachute-Pants2.jpgAre you old enough to remember parachute pants? They were popular in the 80’s, they were made of some kind of plasticy fabric, and they had zippers all over!

Only the coolest kids wore them so of course I wanted a pair… in black, and skin tight! Only I wasn’t allowed to wear skin tight anything!

My mom, being so loving and kind, decided to buy me a pair… no doubt to make me happy. BUT……she didn’t buy them at the cool store, no.

She bought them at the higher end store and made sure they were NOT tight. In fact, they were baggie which was so not cool in the mid 80’s!

I was excited to wear them anyway… and I proudly climbed onto the school bus to head to 8th grade with my best friend of the week, Angel, and that’s when it happened. All the boys on the back of the bus started laughing hysterically and called me “sandwich baggie pants!”

Great. I finally get my black parachute pants and now everyone’s calling me “sandwich baggie pants.”

I never wore those pants again which was too bad because they were expensive, good quality, and I would have grown into them.

Fast forward about a million years….. how does this apply to husbands?

I see many single people looking for the perfect fit in a mate but they often over look quality for what’s trendy, or because of what other people say. Or because they are focusing on something shallow rather than seeing all the really good things!

Just like the pants…. they might not be the exact fit, but if they are quality and YOU can grow into them, then they might be the better choice!

It took me 3 divorces and years of turmoil to learn these valuable lessons:

  • Don’t compromise quality because other people don’t understand worth.
  • Marry someone with like values, not necessarily a like mind.
  • Don’t date or marry someone you’ve already grown past and hope they will catch up.

Listen, relationships aren’t hard. Love it, change your attitude about it, or leave it. There are no other options!

Repair your relationship, or learn to find the RIGHT one now with our DIY Relationship Repair video series!!!

And stay tuned…….

I LOVE coaching! I get to help people, I can work from anywhere, and I always feel like I am living my purpose!! The Live Inspired Now Coach Training opens for enrollment in July!!!

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

QUIZ: Will your relationship last???

May 15, 2017 | Posted in General, Personal Development, Relationships | By

Score each relationship category on a 1-10 scale, based on the following questions:
(1 = the worst.    10= the best.)

Security: ____
How stable does your relationship feel right now?HUMANNEEDSWHEEL

Emotional Freedom: ____
Does your partner accept you unconditionally?

Recognition: ____
Does your partner make you feel important, needed, desired, or
respected?

Spirit: ____
Are you growing together versus apart?

Adventure: ____
Do you have fun and play together or surprise one another?

Love: ____
Do you feel connected emotionally, mentally, socially, and sexually?

TOTAL SCORE: ____

0-30: Fix it or lose it!
Time for repairs. It can be done, even if your partner won’t participate! You can’t change him or her, but you absolutely can inspire and influence with some strategies!! Get DIY Relationship Repair now, don’t wait another moment!

31-42: Not bad, but not awesome!
If someone told you their relationship was “not bad” how long would you expect it to last? “Not bad” relationships are easily swayed to awesome, or horrendous by one small thing! You can easily learn how to make sure it becomes awesome! Get DIY Relationship Repair now!

43-60: Level up!
Looks like you are enjoying a nice relationship with someone special! Keep it up by continuing to grow together! Take it to the next level by learning how to create even more magic moments together! Get DIY Relationship Repair now!

Your score doesn’t determine your relationship success, your willingness to learn and grow does!

Get your DIY Relationship Repair course and see RESULTS today!!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

This may truly shock you….

April 4, 2017 | Posted in General | By

CryG-msWEAAT6RgYou are not at your job because they love you, you are only there because you do a job. You are replaceable.

You are not in your family because they need you to do a job, you are only there because they love you. You are irreplaceable.

DO NOT CONFUSE THESE.

Read it again, and let it hit you. Most people do not truly understand this. So please, let this message hit you! YOU are important and cannot be replaced in your family.

Please share this with someone who needs it, and comment to let me know how this feels to you!

If you’ve ever dreamed of helping people turn their lives around, create happiness, or fix their broken relationship or family…. then please consider joining the Live Inspired Now Coach Training!

Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.

Your friends already come to your for advice…. add these practical coaching strategies to your toolbox and blow your friends mind with your awesomeness! Become a life coach…. get paid for what you already do, and make a huge impact on your world!

Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course

You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!

Join us today and share your gift with the world! 

Love and inspiration,

Heather Paris


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

It’s been a huge dream for like… 3 whole months!

March 21, 2017 | Posted in Change, General, Happiness, Inspiration, Moms, Motivation, Personal Development | By

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Not all dreams are lifelong! Some big amazing dreams just kind of sneak up on you!

Of course you know my BIGGGG ongoing dream is to train new life coaches to go out into the world and teach emotional intelligence and self awareness so we can end the most amount of suffering in the world.

*And so far, this dream is coming true and making a HUGE impact on people! YAY!*

My NEW big dream is also to become a kundalini yoga instructor!! And, I am super excited to say… I’ve registered for class and I start in September!

It’s just one more thing that I can offer my new coaches as they learn to save the world! 

What is YOUR big dream, and are you actively working towards it? If not… why not? Please, let me tell you something you already know…..

You only get one life to make an impact…. what kind of legacy are you creating? 

Not sure what your dream or passion is?

Fill in the blanks on the following statements and see if it stimulates some passion and excitement!

  • When I was a kid, I dreamed of….
  • I can’t pass up a book or movie about…
  • If I played hooky from work, I’d spend my time…
  • Most people don’t know this about me but I really enjoy…
  • I am the go-to person when my friends need help with…
  • I get a natural high when I…
  • If I starred in a TV show, it would be about….
  • I’d win first prize in a talent show for…..

I hope your dreams are big but your actions are bigger! 

If you’ve ever dreamed of helping people turn their lives around, create happiness, or fix their broken relationship or family…. then please consider joining the Live Inspired Now Coach Training!

Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.

Your friends already come to your for advice…. add these practical coaching strategies to your toolbox and blow your friends mind with your awesomeness! Become a life coach…. get paid for what you already do, and make a huge impact on your world!

Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course

You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!

Join us today and share your gift with the world! 

Love and inspiration,

Heather Paris


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!