You’ll never have to yell again…

January 23, 2018 | Posted in General | By

Imagine, your child is freakin’ out. You’re on your last nerve…….

You lose your shit, start yelling and now instead of controlling the situation, you have a crying child, your blood pressure is sky rocketing, and your re-thinking this whole “parenting” crap that seemed so rewarding! lol.

What can you do in those moments instead of screaming, yelling, or freaking out???

Get really quiet!

Turn off all the noise boxes (TV, radio, computer) and sit quietly in the center of the chaos. Your kiddo will get confused and want to know what’s going on. Calmly and with a whisper say “It’s quiet time.”

If he freaks out or starts yelling, simply say in a very quiet voice, “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you when you speak that loudly.” Once he quiets down, then respond!

A little twist on this is that if your child is ever disrespectful to you, you can also say “I’m sorry, I can’t hear you when you speak to me that way.” Do not respond until their tone is appropriate! This works on older kids too!

It’s definitely counter intuitive to get quiet when you feel the call to yell but let’s face it… the only thing yelling does is stress YOU out and adds more noise to an already chaotic situation.

Try something new, get quiet! Remember to be a tiny pebble!

When standing by the waters edge, if someone chucks in a boulder, you automatically run to avoid the splash, but if someone throws in a tiny pebble, you lean it to watch the ripples. 

Have a super week! Don’t forget to register for the upcoming 1 day relationship retreat at beautiful del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, NY!

 “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or hit reply to this email! 

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

The VERY BEST Valentine’s Day gift… hurry before it’s too late…

January 15, 2018 | Posted in General | By

Happily Ever After Starts Here… 

Get the practical tools and insights you need for a strong relationship that’s built-to-last.

The 7 Principles Workshop, taught by Gottman Leaders Thad & Heather Paris, is a fun, must-have class for seriously dating, engaged, and married couples and is based on 40+ years of groundbreaking relationship research!

Who Should Attend?

– Dating couples
– Premarital
– Everyone from newlyweds to seniors
– Those who wish to enhance a good marriage
– Those needing better relationship conflict management tools
– LGBTQ couples welcome

The Seven Principles Program includes lectures and private couple exercises.

**Participants will not share their personal problems in front of others.** 

Registration includes a copy of the best-selling book and all required training materials. Cost: $299 per couple.

Light refreshments provided with extensive meal options available in the casino during meal break. Book a room and stay over and make it a whole date weekend experience!

Register now- space is very limited!

 “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or email us Heather@liveinspirednow.com

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

If you NEVER said this again, you’d be happier and so would everyone else…

January 9, 2018 | Posted in Communication, Personal Development, Relationships | By

angry-momIf you NEVER said this again, you’d be happier and so would everyone else…

“Should.” 

“You should….”
“I should…”
“He should have…”

Stop should-ing all over the place! Let’s face it, people don’t like being told what they should do. So when your best friend, or your spouse, or one of your kids needs advice or guidance leave the “should” out of it.

Instead try…

“If it were me, I might….”
“It’s up to you but you may want to consider…”
“What have you tried/considered so far?”

These types of statements offer support without judgment or condescension AND they empower the other person to come  up with their own solutions! 

And this will make you a rockstar communicator! 🙂

OMG…. I almost forgot!!! Guess what Thad and I have coming up in March?? A one day relationship retreat called “7 Principles For Making Marriage Work” at del Lago Resort and Casino in Waterloo, New York!!

We only have space for 3 more couples so if you are interested, act NOW!! Get more info here!!!  Or hit reply to this email! 

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s fast, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

The BEST gift ever…

December 12, 2017 | Posted in Feel Good, General, Giving, Relationships | By

What’s the BEST gift ever???

It’s your enthusiasm for whatever your spouse is excited about! 

When was the last time your spouse came to you with an idea, thought, or project and you didn’t show enthusiasm?

In fact, you might have half-heartedly said “That’s nice.” with no excitement in your voice, no sparkle in your eye, and no concern in your heart for your partners feelings.

If you really want to give an awesome gift that they will never forget… GET FUCKING EXCITED!!! Yes, that required an F-bomb. 

This is one of the biggest complaints I hear… one spouse is excited about something and the other spouse is a complete buzz kill with their droll, lackluster response.

Come on now, SHOW SOME EXCITEMENT and watch how your spouse lights up!

They might even shower you with affection because they are so excited by your loving support!

It seems obvious when you read it, but in daily practice you might get a little lazy.

So right now, go let your partner know how freakin excited you are for them or with them about whatever “it” is!

As a reminder…. it’s only 13 days until Christmas!! Besides your over the top enthusiasm, you might want to purchase an autographed book….

***GUYS: Women LOVE when you read a book with them!!!***

ORDER NOW TO ENSURE DELIVERY BEFORE CHRISTMAS: 

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I Have A Guardian Angel 
This is a heart warming little book for those who believe that the people we love never really leave us. Suitable for all ages.

Be sure to include the name of the person you’d like me to sign the book to!

Thank you for being so very YOU! <3

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com 
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com

Coaching is a holistic alternative to therapy. It’s faster, affordable, and highly effective! Just hit reply to this email if you’d like to know how coaching could help you or your family!

Does your child have a “guardian angel?” Check out my latest book with beautiful illustrations done by MY guardian angel: “I Have A Guardian Angel”    Order now to get it before Christmas!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Preventing “Me too” in your own kids….

October 16, 2017 | Posted in Communication, Family, General, Kids, Parenting, Self-Esteem | By

Have you seen the “Me too” posts going around on social media? It’s a post designed to bring awareness to the prevalence of sexual abuse. Anyone who’s status says “Me too” is indicating that they have been the victim of sexual abuse or harassment. And sadly, these posts are popping up by the thousands!

I have worked with young people, male and female, that have been victimized sexually and it’s nearly impossible to heal from such acts, and many don’t.

You can never guarantee 100% that you’ll prevent your own children from falling victim to this type of heinous act, but there are definitely things you can do that will give you the best possible odds for preventing such a tragedy.

Please read and share these tips with your friends because knowledge is only power when it’s applied and shared!

Tips to prevent your child from being sexually abused:

1 Focus on the relationship you have with your child MORE than your expectations of your child. In other words, your relationship comes first even if they get bad grades, disappoint you, make a bad choice, or are misbehaving!

2 Call body parts by their proper names! It’s a penis, breasts, and a vagina, not a wee wee, pee pee, ding dong, boobies, or a hoo haw. These are body parts, call them by name because the more secretive you make them, the more you program your child to believe they are “unspeakable.” You WANT them to be able to talk about their body parts and understand fully who is allowed to touch them, see them, and talk about them…. mommy, daddy, or the doctor when mommy and daddy are in the room!

3 Choose babysitters VERY carefully. Bear in mind that 7 out of 10 sexual assaults happen by someone they victim knows…. usually a relative.

4 Have a plan in case your child get’s lost in the store. I used to tell my kids that if they ever got lost, find a woman and ask for help… never a man. Yes, I know that seems sexist. I don’t care. The facts are clear and most sexual predators are men, not women. I also used to put a small laminated card under the sole of their shoe with their phone number and address on it in case they ever needed it and couldn’t remember their info.

5 Don’t force kids to be around adults they don’t like. This one kills me!! If a child is uncomfortable with an adult, there is probably a reason!! Don’t force kids to “be polite” or “he’s your uncle, don’t be rude, just give uncle a kiss!” Gross. Kids should NEVER be made to show affection if they don’t want to, and they should know it’s OK for them to say NO… even to an adult!

6 Talk about secrets with your kids. Let them know that adults don’t get to have secrets with kids unless mommy and daddy are in on it! Abusers always use the “it’s a secret” card so be sure your kids know that secrets are not OK!

7 Make it safe for your child to be open and honest. Encourage them to talk to you by talking to them and being available without distractions! Let them know that no matter what they tell you, they won’t get in trouble! Talk, talk, and talk some more!

8 Know who they are spending time with! Get to know their friends AND their friends parents too. I am a huge fan of having kids over to MY house so I know exactly what’s going on. My kids always knew they could have friends over!

It’s absolutely heart breaking to see all the “Me too” posts on Facebook, let’s do all we can so that our own children never have to say “Me too.”

For MORE on this topic, please be sure to get my book Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness which includes all of my best advice for parenting, and navigating the chaos of life!

Please reach out if you need help. <3

With love, gratitude, and inspiration,

Heather Paris
www.liveinspirednow.com


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!