“Sally” was in tears after catching her husband having sex with another woman… again.
And not even an hour later he was professing his undying love to her. He made her feel guilty for wanting to leave him. He made her feel hopeful when he promised to make up for his indiscretions. He made her scared when he said he couldn’t live without her.
She called me because she wanted to know what SHE could do to help HIM.
Abusers will exploit your emotions to get their way. They will use every bit of vulnerability you have to use, abuse, and hurt you. Then they will employ you to help them rather than taking any personal responsibility for helping themselves!
Emotions are wonderful but if you are overly emotional, you are exploitable!
In today’s world, it’s so popular and acceptable to say “follow your heart” and I’m warning you that your heart is not equipt to make all of your decisions for you!
Your heart only wants to love so it doesn’t make decisions regarding safety or higher purpose.
A mechanic can fix your car but you wouldn’t ask him to do your laundry too.
If you are highly in tune to your heart and your emotions, it’s time to get in touch with your head and your higher self too!
The next time your in a situation that makes you feel scared, lonely, or guilty, ask yourself these questions:
- Is this a one time incident or a pattern?
- Is this something I wish to experience again?
- Is this something I’d wish for my kids / parent / close friend to experience?
- Do I walk on eggshells?
- Am I safe enough to talk about this?
- Do I make excuses for their behavior?
Emotional exploitation is not OK but there is something you can do about it! Listen to your head and your higher self, not just your heart!
Your head is smart, it runs on logic, assesses risks, and makes rational decisions.
Your higher self is your inner light, your God-ness, your soul. It makes decisions for the greater good and for the betterment of self, family, and humanity.
You have all that you need to be happy, healthy, and peaceful but if you need help, reach out!
If you are unsure if you are in a toxic relationship, please reach out. I am more than happy to set up a free call to help!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
My son Harry told his friends….
“My Mom is a crazy bitch!”
…and it was the best lie he told!!
This may sound crazy, but it’s VITALLY important that you teach your kids to lie!
I know, I know! We teach them to tell the truth but in some cases, lying is better!
Listen, peer pressure is intense and kids need a way to handle it and lying to their friends can be an extremely effective way to get out of a difficult situation.
Come up with several great “lies” WITH your kids that they can use to help get them out of risky situations.
Here are a few examples:
- “No man, I’m not doing that, my mom is a crazy bitch and will kill my ass!”
- “Nahhh, I’m already high/drunk, I don’t want any more!”
- “I’m actually allergic to alcohol, I could die if I drink it. I can’t even take cough medicine.”
- “My dad texted, he’s picking me up early because I didn’t do my stupid chores!”
Peer pressure is incredibly powerful. Our kids need to know how to handle these difficult social situations and these little lies could save them in many ways!
Be sure to tell them that after they lie their way out of danger, they must call or text you immediately to get picked up from where they are!
Also, be sure to remind them that they will never get in any trouble for these types of lies and for being responsible enough to make a better choice than their friends!
Parenting is hard. NOT parenting is much harder… on you, on the kid, and on society! If you need help, please reach out to me today! DO NOT WAIT! Prevention is easier than intervention!!!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Email me: heather@liveinspirednow.com
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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!