3 different clients made me say these words this week:
“You are NOT the mood police!”
This is one of the most prevalent challenges in our society today…. we feel the need to correct or fix the feelings of other people because we feel their bad mood is a reflection of us as a person.
Imagine this:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife is irritated by husband’s cranky mood so she tries to make him feel happy.
- Husband doesn’t want to feel happy right now. He wants to be left alone to think for a bit.
- Wife gets even more irritated that husband won’t “snap out of it.”
- Wife feels rejected and becomes cranky.
- Husband and wife argue and it escalates from crankiness to anger and now they both retreat away from one another to stew in rejection and misery.
- Kids are now upset too because Mom and Dad are fighting again.
It doesn’t have to be like this!
Imagine this instead:
- Husband is in a cranky mood.
- Wife asks if he’d like to talk about it.
- Husband says “No thank you, I’d prefer to have some time alone to stew.”
- Wife says “OK my love, take all the time you need.”
- Husband goes and has some alone time.
- Wife goes and plays with the kids.
- An hour later the husband emerges and thanks his wife for allowing him some time and they escalate into a supportive conversation about the days frustrations.
- Kids see a Mom and Dad lovingly supporting one another and feel happy and secure.
Other people are entitled to feel however they want to feel. It is not our job to constantly police moods, feelings, or emotions! And remember this…
Another persons emotions are NOT a reflection of you, your parenting, your relationship, your abilities, or your productivity! Your spouse does NOT love you because of what you provide. They love you because you are you!
What does this topic mean to you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!
With love, gratitude, and inspiration,
Heather Paris
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You are not at your job because they love you, you are only there because you do a job. You are replaceable.
You are not in your family because they need you to do a job, you are only there because they love you. You are irreplaceable.
DO NOT CONFUSE THESE.
Read it again, and let it hit you. Most people do not truly understand this. So please, let this message hit you! YOU are important and cannot be replaced in your family.
Please share this with someone who needs it, and comment to let me know how this feels to you!
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Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Not all dreams are lifelong! Some big amazing dreams just kind of sneak up on you!
Of course you know my BIGGGG ongoing dream is to train new life coaches to go out into the world and teach emotional intelligence and self awareness so we can end the most amount of suffering in the world.
*And so far, this dream is coming true and making a HUGE impact on people! YAY!*
My NEW big dream is also to become a kundalini yoga instructor!! And, I am super excited to say… I’ve registered for class and I start in September!
It’s just one more thing that I can offer my new coaches as they learn to save the world!
What is YOUR big dream, and are you actively working towards it? If not… why not? Please, let me tell you something you already know…..
You only get one life to make an impact…. what kind of legacy are you creating?
Not sure what your dream or passion is?
Fill in the blanks on the following statements and see if it stimulates some passion and excitement!
- When I was a kid, I dreamed of….
- I can’t pass up a book or movie about…
- If I played hooky from work, I’d spend my time…
- Most people don’t know this about me but I really enjoy…
- I am the go-to person when my friends need help with…
- I get a natural high when I…
- If I starred in a TV show, it would be about….
- I’d win first prize in a talent show for…..
I hope your dreams are big but your actions are bigger!
If you’ve ever dreamed of helping people turn their lives around, create happiness, or fix their broken relationship or family…. then please consider joining the Live Inspired Now Coach Training!
Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.
Your friends already come to your for advice…. add these practical coaching strategies to your toolbox and blow your friends mind with your awesomeness! Become a life coach…. get paid for what you already do, and make a huge impact on your world!
Live Inspired Now Coach Training Course
You can use your experience, combined with the skills you learn to help your children, students, friends, family members, or your community!
Join us today and share your gift with the world!
Love and inspiration,
Heather Paris
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
Last week at yoga class (a new thing for me), I felt fat, awkward, and clunky. I could hear that crunchy noise in my knees when I squatted down, I couldn’t go upside down because of vertigo, and was sweating… like seriously sweating!
“Am I the only one here huffing, puffing, and sweating my butt off? Is anyone else struggling as much as I am? Why didn’t I get here earlier so I could get a spot in the back? Am I doing this right?”
While all these thoughts swirled through my head, I remembered something…. “just stay on your mat.”
It was a phrase from the book “Love Warrior,” in which the author found herself at yoga class in the midst of personal crisis. She wrote that she realized all she had to do in that moment was to “stay on her mat.”
I heard those words too! They cut through the mental clutter like a hot knife in butter. They were comforting.
“Just stay on your mat.”
Although I am not going through any personal crisis like the author in the book, those words were so helpful during my moment of insecurity.
No matter how happy, healthy, and emotionally intelligent you are, there will always be those times when you struggle. During the struggle, a mantra is helpful to remind you of your strength.
So I stayed on my mat for the entire class, did my best, and felt good just because I made it through! I go back tonight! lol. It will get easier with time but while it’s a struggle, my only goal will be to stay on my mat. It’s an accomplishment to just be there, I don’t have to become a yoga queen!
You can make it through tough situations too! Just remember to stay on your mat! Whatever the struggle, YOU can handle it but let me know if you need help!
* Maybe your relationship is falling apart?
* Maybe you want to strangle your mouthy teenager?
* Maybe you just need to remember what makes you happy?
I am here. I can’t help with yoga, but these things I CAN help with! 😉 I look forward to hearing from you!
Much love and inspiration,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
I was walking down my driveway today and made a point to look for the balance in nature. It wasn’t really there. I saw lopsided trees, oddly shaped rocks, and even the grass is growing patchy in some areas and well in others.
Where the hell is all the “balance?”
Then I thought about my lemon tree. Yes, I am growing a beautiful lemon tree in the house. In order for the tree to grow better, I had to prune it. I cut all the big lush branches off all the way up to the top 1/4 of the tree.
This is so the tree could put more attention to growing a big strong trunk to support all the lemons. It doesn’t look balanced at all, and it’s growing amazingly well!
Lately it seems like everyone is looking for that “work / home life” balance but I’ve discovered something…
Balance is BS!
In today’s video, I am going to share what you can do instead of trying to find balance and it will make your life feel so much better!
Once you’ve had a chance to watch, I’d love to hear what you think! Balance… BS or not? Leave a comment below!
Love and Inspiration,
Heather
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!