Be cautious of someone who is really high maintenance yet they have low standard values! These are the type of people who live what I consider a low quality life yet they expect high quality rewards. These might be the people who jump from one relationship to the next and complain that all the men/women they date are “losers.” Or the people who complain that they don’t get paid enough, but they are the employees who spend most of their time trying to get out of doing any work. Or even people who say they want a really fabulous relationship yet they ditch their spouse for their friends, or for Facebook, or for whatever distraction they can find. They might have kids that are making terrible choices, yet they blame the school, television, music, the other parent, etc… yet they never look at how they might be responsible.
Day after day people ask me what they should do about “so and so” who is making their life miserable! It seems as if people are surrounding themselves with these “high maintenance, low standard” people. Let me be the one to say it…. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO INVITE PEOPLE TO LEAVE YOUR LIFE! You are also allowed to make better choices when it comes to friends, and lovers! Don’t compromise your sanity because you don’t want to “hurt someone’s feelings.” If someone is being abusive, neglectful, hurtful, or just a big fat drama queen, you don’t have to tolerate that! The very best way to invite these people to leave your life, is to completely disengage! Don’t get involved. Don’t get sucked in to their drama. Don’t reply to their “emergencies.” Don’t answer their calls, emails, texts, snaps, tweets, PM’s, or IM’s. Just ignore them. You can try to have a civil conversation as well, but let’s face it; if they were mature enough to handle such a thing, you wouldn’t have to put them out of your life.
So stand up for yourself by disengaging from people that harm you and Live Inspired Now!
Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!
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Jarome Morrow
July 19, 2014
I love what you are saying. I say this all the time but just in a different way.