The solution to EVERY bad marriage put in simple terms….

January 31, 2017 | Posted in Challenges, Change, General, Honesty, Personal Development, Relationships | By

Years ago, when I was in an unhealthy relationship, I was desperate to find a way to fix it, until I could no longer stand it, then I was desperate to find a way out.

I was so consumed with trying to find a way out and I was so focused on how unhappy I was, that I could never really see any options.

Have you ever felt that lost? I remember sitting in my car with my BFF and just balling my eyes and telling her I just wanted things to be different. I wanted to love, or even would have settled for “liking” my spouse again, but I just didn’t. I felt so trapped, like I was doomed to stay in a state of limbo.

One day, while driving in my car, it all became clear to me. It was like the sun shone directly on me and opened up my soul or something!

And in that moment, for a brief time, I wasn’t consumed with misery and despair, so clarity finally had room to flood in.

It was me… I had been preventing my own growth because I had only been focusing on the problem… and not taking any responsibility for my relationship.

Blaming others, feeling bad, and focusing on my own misery, were the very things holding me back from making a change and fixing my own life! All my excuses seemed to fade away and I realized that I had 3 options to choose from:

  • Stay and be miserable.
  • Stay and be happy.
  • Leave. 

Stay and be miserable was what I had been doing and it wasn’t working, so that option was a big fat NO!

Stay and be happy didn’t work either. I’d love to say I was strong enough to “just love” someone who was acting unlovable, but I wasn’t. No matter how much I tried, prayed, meditated, etc… in my heart, I knew that I couldn’t stay. It wasn’t good for me, or for him, and it certainly wasn’t good for the kids.

Leaving was the kindest option and so I left. I felt free. I felt alive again. I felt like I liked myself again. I could breathe. I could remember what made me happy. I could be a better example. I could heal.

I had resisted leaving for a long time because I didn’t know how things would work logistically.

  • How would I make it as a single mom?
  • How would I pay my bills?
  • How would I take care of a big house alone? 

The truth was, all these things worked themselves out. It took time, and it was terrifying. But it all worked out. I handled everything that came my way!

Things always work out for the greater good when we focus on truth instead of fear.

I have no regrets. I’ve made tons of mistakes in the past, but I am deeply grateful for every single one of them because it brought me to this moment to share what I have learned.

I am now living and loving every little bit of my life and if someone had told me that back then, I would’ve  never believed it!

Stop blaming, making excuses, and focusing on the negative. Take a good hard look at your decisions, actions, behaviors, thoughts, words, and choices and see how YOU are the solution to your problems!

You are not the problem, you are the SOLUTION to the problem!

I hope you will look forward in faith and make the decision to challenge yourself to make the changes you need to love your life again!

I know you can handle it, and I look forward to hearing about your success!

Experience has made me wise, coaching has shown me how to share that wisdom.

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Love and inspiration,

Heather Paris


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

The 2 year itch and how to scratch it!

January 17, 2017 | Posted in Change, General, Happiness, Personal Development, Stress | By

Do you know what it means to get the “itch?” It’s definitely not something gross to scratch, it’s not even something physical. It’s that feeling you get when you are ready for a change.

Personally, every couple of years or so, I get itchy for something new!

Growing up as an Army brat, then a military wife, I became quite used to moving every 2-3 years. I’ve had more than 40 addresses in my 45 years on the planet!

Before I was self aware, that “itch” would present itself in destructive ways. Because I didn’t know that I just needed some change, I would often self sabotage my life or even my relationships and that provided enough drama to suffice for change.

Thank goodness I know much better now and make healthier choices but some people are still trapped in that cycle of meeting their needs for adventure or change in unhealthy ways.

When Thad and I bought our dream home here in New York, we decided that this would be home base… no more moving!

While that is still a little scary to me because I’ve never lived anywhere for more than a few years, I am happy to have a “home base.” But because I know every couple of years I will start to get the itch to move, I’ve found healthy ways to meet that need.

In fact, this weekend, I changed a lot of things! I completely renovated my office, I moved furniture around in the house, and I re-organized!

It may sound small, but to me it was HUGE! Since I’ve decided not to move anymore, moving the furniture and redecorating is a fun way for me to feel the change without uprooting my entire family!

What do YOU do when you feel like you need something different?

Finding healthy ways to fill you needs could save you from self destructive decisions, and can make you feel much happier!

Here are just a few suggestions for meeting your need for change but the sky is the limit! Are you the type of person with a HUGE need for change, or are you happy with small changes? Hopefully some of these will excite you:

  • Move your furniture
  • Paint a room a new color
  • Skydive
  • Plan a trip
  • Try a new exotic restaurant
  • Plan a surprise for your partner
  • Play hooky from work and school
  • Drive a different way to work
  • Volunteer
  • Buy hats & scarves and leave them in the park for homeless people
  • Plan a ceremony to renew your wedding vows
  • Do an art project
  • Make a bucket list
  • Try a sensory deprivation tank
  • Go to the local animal shelter and play with the adoptable animals
  • Take a class or workshop
  • Read a new book
  • Test drive a cool car

Whatever you decide to do, be sure it’s something that’s healthy, empowering, and super fun!

The best thing you will ever do is to become emotionally aware of your needs and learn to meet them in the most positive ways possible!

Have a super happy week!

Much love and inspiration,

Heather

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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

I need your advice…

December 13, 2016 | Posted in Change, Feel Good, Fun Stuff, General | By

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Well, here I am… this is what 45 looks like on me! Today is my birthday and I am super excited to see what kind of trouble I can get in! lol

I’ve decided to get bolder as I get older but today I need your advice…

What should I add to my personal bucket list this year???

Make it something really great, and bold, but no jumping out of planes (but only because of inner ear issues.) Please- someone add visit Harry Potter world in Florida!! 🙂

I can’t wait to add your ideas to my bucket list!! 🙂

Thank you so much for being so wonderful! I am deeply grateful for you!

Much love and inspiration,

Heather


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

How your attitude about death can effect your life….

September 6, 2016 | Posted in Challenges, Change, General, Personal Development | By

67e70775-7628-4f2b-b3c7-209a0e039d75One year ago today, “Carrie,” who was my best friend for 30 years, died. She had cancer.

I don’t know if it’s an “American” thing, or if people everywhere feel this way, but we seem to have a very unrealistic idea of death. We think we have nothing but time and then are almost offended when it comes to an end. Expecting that each of us should live until we have reached an acceptable age for death.

What if we changed our perception of death? What if we accepted that death will come, and decided to live accordingly? What if we just lived each day, as if it were our first and last day of life?

If today was my first day of life, I would look at everything with wonder and amazement. I would be excited and enthusiastic. I would smile, laugh, run, and jump!

If today was my last day of life, I would tell everyone how much I love them. I would hug, kiss, snuggle, and stay as close as possible. I would leave nothing unsaid, nothing undone, and nothing unappreciated.

Life is full of happiness, beauty, love, music, nature, babies, puppies, waterfalls, food, people, technology, fun, colors, entertainment, and…. opportunities!

Opportunities to live and love, not just exist!

Today I choose to be happy, to celebrate life, and to love hard! I will remember fond memories, and spend my day creating new fond memories!

What will you choose for today?

Ask yourself:
-If today was my first day of life, what would I do?
-If today was my last day of life, what would I do?
-Why aren’t I doing these things today?

*Click here to read “Saying Goodbye To A Friend,” my post about Carrie.*

Love,

Heather


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Surviving yet another…

August 16, 2016 | Posted in Challenges, Change, General, Happiness, Inspiration, Personal Development, Stress | By

Something I hear often… I am “surviving yet another…”

Some people are surviving yet another medical setback, another kid crisis, another disappointment, another and another and another, etc.

It all boils down to surviving our own expectations of how things should be. 

Life is happening entirely through the filter of our own mind. It is our own thinking that causes us to feel disappointed. For example:

A man lives in a shack and is thrilled he has a roof over his head because once he didn’t. Every day he works to improve the shack by fixing it up and bringing in some fresh wild flowers he cuts from the field. He is always grateful and lives a happy life.

—OR—

A man lives in a shack and feels sorry for himself because this is all he has. Every day he complains and compares himself to those who have more. He does nothing to improve his situation or attitude. He is always unhappy and dies miserable.

How about instead of “surviving yet another,” we change our words to something like “I get another chance to….” 

Another chance to get healthy, another chance to fix my relationship, another chance to start again and make things better, another chance to spend time with my kid, another chance at love, life, joy, etc.

Today is another chance to be a gift to the world! Take the chance and see what you can do with it! 🙂

Love,

Heather

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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!