You didn’t speak up because of fear of rejection or judgement…

November 29, 2016 | Posted in Anxiety, Challenges, General, Honesty, Personal Development, Self-Esteem | By

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Once, many years ago, a friend of mine called me “obnoxious” because I always like to be doing things. I didn’t want to just stay home… I wanted to take road trips, go to conventions, and I always had some volunteering or service project that I was involved in.

She said it was obnoxious that I “always needed something to look forward to” as if I was never content and let me know that she believed she was far more “grounded” than I was.

It hurt my feelings. I felt judged for being an adventurer, and I felt rejected by her because she never cared enough to get involved in any of my projects, or even to ask about them.

The worst part of it all, was that I constantly questioned myself instead of looking at the source of the criticism. And that is common.

Criticism or judgment comes our way and we think “What’s wrong with ME” instead of asking ourselves “What’s wrong in this person’s life that they need to criticize me?” 

I lived like a prisoner to the opinion of other people for far too long and I didn’t speak up because I was afraid of hearing “I don’t want to be your friend anymore!”

I let people who would insult me have power over me! That’s just crazy!

So I learned to be brave enough to live life my way. I hope you will too!

Here are a few tips to be brave enough to live life your way:

1 Keep it real. Let’s face it, if someone is willing to dump you because you have an opinion, then they don’t deserve to be in your life anyway! Upgrade your tribe!

2 Embrace your supporters! You DO have someone in your life that is always supportive…. embrace them, thank them, and invite them to the celebration of YOU!

3 Realize that judgment is nothing more than an opinion. And do you want to live by the opinion of someone else, especially if he’s a jerk? No way!

4 Try it! Action will always make you feel brave! Over-thinking or prolonged planning will only hold you back from taking that first step!

5 Be aware and accepting! It’s OK to be afraid of doing, being, or trying… don’t beat yourself up! Admit you are afraid, accept that fear is normal, and go for it while you are still afraid!

6 Nobody ever died from judgment or rejection! Allow yourself to feel sad, hurt, embarrassed or whatever and then move on!

A friend (a real friend) once said to me, “I admire you, You are always so brave, you don’t care what other people think!”  I thought about that statement for a long time and responded… “I care what you think, but I no longer care what some people think. We only have limited, precious time on earth and I won’t squander that time on people that don’t appreciate me as I am.”

I honor who you are, and I hope you will honor YOU as well!

Love and Inspiration,

Heather

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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

When A Rattlesnake Bite Is A Good Thing…

November 22, 2016 | Posted in Anxiety, Challenges, Feel Good, General, Happiness, Moms, Personal Development, Stress | By

Have you ever read the book “Holes?”

In the book, the main character Stanley mentioned that life digging holes was so bad that he would sometimes prod a small rattlesnake to bite him so he could get a couple of days of rest in the tent to recover.

Hmmm…. if sometimes a rattlesnake bite is a GOOD thing, maybe other things that seem bad are just opportunities!

How can you turn a rattlesnake bite into something positive?

  • Could a neglectful family member just be a reminder to be closer to your own kids?
  • Could a burnt Thanksgiving meal be a great excuse to eat dessert for dinner?
  • Could being snowed in be an opportunity to get some things done at home?

    ( Yes… I am currently snowed in but Thad just messaged me now and said that he found someone to come plow us out in the next few hours! Yay!! )

It’s not naive to look for the silver lining in every situation, it’s astute!

So this week, when stresses can be higher and family can be crankier, consider the rattlesnake bite and find the lesson or blessing in each moment.

Happy Thanksgiving! I wish you soooo much love, inspiration, and happiness this week! 🙂

Love and Inspiration,

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Happy “The 2016 Election Is Almost Over Day!”

November 8, 2016 | Posted in Challenges, General, Media, Relationships, Videos | By

I’m not sure there is one person on earth happier than me that this election is almost over!

Seriously… blechhhh!

I don’t mind elections, politics, or even politicians… but what I do mind is people becoming belligerent and inconsiderate of one another in the name of politics.

We are almost done! Find out in today’s video who I think will be the “big winner!”

Love and Inspiration,

Heather

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10 Questions To Find Out How Well You Know Your Partner…

November 1, 2016 | Posted in Challenges, Communication, Family, General, Honesty, Learning, Love, Relationships | By

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Have you heard of “Love Mapping?”

It’s a technique to learn more about your partner and can be done whether you’ve been together for 6 months or 20 years!

The idea is to answer the following questions about your partner, then share the answers. If you know the answers- great! If you don’t know the answers- even better because you learn something new and you get the opportunity to have a nice discussion!

Here are just 10 questions to go over with your spouse:

  1. Who is your partners greatest source of support besides you?
  2. What is your partners favorite sport?
  3. Who was your partners best friend in grade school?
  4. Name your partners major rival or enemy.
  5. Does your partner have a secret ambition, if so, what is it?
  6. What was your partners most embarrassing moment?
  7. Who is your partners least favorite relative?
  8. What was your partner most currently sad about?
  9. What medical concern does your partner worry about?
  10. Name 2 people that your partner admires.

Ahhh.. just when you thought you new everything about your partner! 🙂

You can always learn, grow, and fall more deeply in love if you will just invest time into your relationship!

Share a few magic moments today with your partner and see how you both do with these questions and please share your results or thoughts by leaving a comment below!

As always, if you need help with your family, relationship or kids, please reach out today!

Have FUN and Happy November!!!

Love and Inspiration,

Heather


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!