Why you should STOP raising “strong independent women!”

March 28, 2014 | Posted in General | By

1979644_10202974619222296_1160922370_nI am dependent upon my husband. I need him. This doesn’t make me weak, it makes me human. We women are so busy raising “strong independent” women that we forget to mention that a strong man makes a wonderful partner! A strong man doesn’t make a woman weak, it makes it possible for her to lean on him when she doesn’t want to be strong. It makes it possible for her to fully express her femininity. We need to remind our daughters to embrace all that is good and strong in our partner, and not to beat them into submission. Steam-rolling a man is not the way to have a healthy, happy relationship, eventually, you lose respect for the man you wanted to control.

I see this all the time. The woman falls in love with the man who gives her everything, does what she wants, caters to her every whim, and always agrees with all that says…. then she gets bored. That is not a partner, it’s a suck up, and “suck ups” may make you feel good for a while, but flattery is not enough in a relationship! We only grow when we are challenged. We like ourselves more when we earn respect. We become strong when we make ourselves vulnerable to other people. We teach our daughters love by loving their fathers. We teach our daughters self-love, by loving ourselves. We teach our daughters strength by accepting help when we need it. And we teach our daughters peace when we show them how to let go.

Yes, I am dependent up on my husband, but he also depends upon me. Our relationship is INTER-dependent and yours can be too (read my book) if you stop trying to prove your own strength, and find the strength in your relationship! Let your partner know that you appreciate them, allow yourself to be vulnerable, find the strength in YOUR relationship, and Live Inspired Now!

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Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

It’s painless to be plastic…

March 27, 2014 | Posted in General | By

1379713553574It’s painless to be plastic, but it’s lonely. You can’t get hurt because everything you are is fake; not real, not soft, and without depth. You don’t have to feel hurt by other people because if they don’t like you, they aren’t disliking the “real” version of you anyway, they have no idea who you really are. Plastic people can put on the version of themselves that suits their circumstances, and then change just as easily to adapt to new situations. The biggest problem with this is, they feel very much alone. As if nobody knows who they are, like nobody cares about them. And usually, they completely forget who they actually are, and they end up disliking themselves as well.

Today, try being vulnerable, honest, open, and real. Tell someone what you really think. Say what you really feel. Do what you really want to do. Yes, it is true that some people will NOT like you, in fact, they may even hate your smelly guts. Guess what? That is perfectly OK! You don’t have to be everything to everyone. You don’t have to always know what to say. You don’t have to be perfect. I am saying this to myself, as much as to you my dear reader. I too have been guilty of trying to be perfect, and trying to win approval of those that decided they didn’t like me for whatever reason. I have gone along with things I didn’t agree with just to fit in, and I have bitten my tongue far too many times instead of speaking up. I have been there, and chipping the plastic exterior off was the best thing I ever did!

Find your voice again, step up, stand out, and stop trying to be everything to all people. You are perfect just the way you are, the authentic version of you, without the plastic. You don’t need to be validated to be valid! Live in alignment with your soul, live with passion, and Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Be Responsible or Be Fired!

March 24, 2014 | Posted in Kids, Mom's Musings, Parenting | By

photo(18)Teaching the kids to be responsible and reliable is a big job, but it’s worth it! It is important that they understand how things will work outside of the home. When you don’t do the dishes at home you might be made to do them before you can do something fun, or you might get grounded. If you don’t do what you are expected at your job, you will get written up, put on notice, or even fired. Teach kids to become responsible adults and Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Blame, shame, game, or personal responsibility…. which will you choose?

March 19, 2014 | Posted in Challenges, Change, Kids, Mom's Musings, Parenting, Personal Development | By

1509686_639157316157660_790129353_nPersonal responsibility is a lesson that all children need to learn, otherwise, they will have a hard time as an adult. Let’s face it, nobody likes that one guy who blames everyone else for his crappy life instead of taking responsibility for his own choices. The prisons are FULL of men and women that blame, shame, or play games. Teach your kids to be responsible, accept consequences, make better choices and to Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!

Do THIS one simple thing and get lots more business!

March 18, 2014 | Posted in Personal Development, Professionals, Relationships, Videos | By

There is one simple thing you can do to make yourself stand out with people, the thing that will make them always remember you when they need your services or want to refer business out! Enjoy today’s video and make yourself unforgettable!


Heather Paris inspires people all over the world to create happier lives through talks, workshops, blog posts, and her book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness. For more information about transforming your relationship, family, or your life, contact Heather today!